Hey everyone, Ok I need you guys opinion. My gf and I are on a break. She said she needed a break because we've been fighting and everything and I said ok to make her happy (which she never is but I love her to damn much). Anyways, she also said I can finds some friends and maybe find a girl and date one for now but I really dont want to, I just wanna be with her only. She said for this time she not gonna date anyone, she doesn't want anything to do with that right now.She also said if sees that I start making and hanging with friends and I get my act together we can go out again and continue. We just been fighting alot and I've been trying to solve it with her but she starts raizing her voice at me all the time. She says Im too clingy, jealous, insecurd, and have low self esteem. Which what american doesn't now and then. I like to hang by myself alot but she says she missess who I use to be like in the begging but back then I had a strong support now I have no support but her. She says we are just taking a break from our relationship. Which I don't understand about that, I never had gone on a break ever. What does a break mean and what can and/or do on a break? What do you guys think are we broken up or just on a break? .
Well, my view is this, she cares about you, but you have become too clingy, jealous and insecure, that's what you said in your own words..That's what is pushing her away. She needs for you to stop doing that in order for her to continue with the relationship. My advice is do something else, maybe get new friends, and show her you can LIVE and not be so clingy...Clingy annoys people..I have had that too many times and it usually pushes your loved one away. Start trying to feel positive about yourself. Find something that makes you feel good, and stick to it. She doesn't want or need the clingyness..that will only break ya'll up even further if not all the way. Good luck
I agree with blackvelvet. Show her you have a life that doesn't revovle around her and she will want to be with you because she wants to be with you, not just because if not, it will make you feel bad. Go out, maybe see some other people. From some of your other posts, I don't know if she's saying this because you are too clingy, or if she is trying to let you down easy. Either way, you don't want to continue in a relationship where you feel that she could be unfaithful, and she feels that you are smothering her. I do hope that if you take a break and you can let go of some insecurities that she'll want to take your hand and hold it forever. If not, let things fade away on the break because it wasn't meant to be in the first place. YOu wouldn't want her to change her mind because it would hurt you too much, resent you and break up over an awful fight. I think that she really cares about you. I think she wants to have a good relationship with you and she wants you to be able to be free and trusting. She's trying to do anything she can think of to save the relationship.If you are being too clingy, you have to go do your own thing. If she really just didn't care, she would have broken up with you completely. In her heart, there's hope. Give it a try. See what happens. The worst that can happen is the relationship ending. BUt if it does it would have anyway, and at least you did everything you could to make it work. Much love, luck, and peace in your heart.
I do cause Im inlove with herand she loves me just as much and I still do wanna know. Just that we not connecting right now.
There is some good advice here. If you guys get back together, great! But, there IS a chance that you won't. No one can know for sure. But, for yourself, you should work on being more independant from her (which is what she wants, and what you need to do for yourself). Then, you may find out that things will be okay without her.
I'd say you're on your way out.She's dumping you ,slowly,but it is coming.A break is usually a prelude to a break-up.IMO. ~peace & love
Well,we talked about itand we dont see the difference from a break or break up. Who the hel invented that anyway? Anyways, they is a chance we wll get back together and she told me lastnight that there has been about 10 times where she wanted to ask me back out. I've why havent you and she says she doesnt know. To be honest this is all new to me and still strange because once I go out with someone, I ride the girlfriend train till the next stop and its bye bye see ya. But with her its different, I don't know what going on, It feels strang cause by now if someone dumps me I'd be bye bye. I know for shore I really can't handle seeing her with another girl right now, it would hurt too much for me to bare. She likes seeing me with other girls and I was taught by the old days. So everything is actually new and kinda scary, its stupid tho but yeah because there are so many ways you can loose someone. Its hard to be independent when you been with a girl for 2 years and she want you to depend on her mostly. She has me like that, for example Id say i tell my dad and shes ike why do you going to tell your dad when I know how to fix it and I tell her well I dont really know if she knows how to fix it and its not like she says really quickly that she does. We talked last night and i told her few things thats been dweling in my heart and head for quite sometime. Sometimes, I just wanna run away and never come back but I cant cause I dont got no where to go. Its like in some way she boxed me in and make feel helpless so she can be my hero all the time, and in someway I think I did it too. I just really wanna be happy, I wonder sometimes if its to much to ask. eing with her has made me happy but without her feels like a nightmare and Im in hell try to get out but still cant cause there is no one to save me or help me out. Anyways thanks all. holla
I think you need the break more then her even though you don't want it. You need to find whatever it is that you don't have or whatever it is that makes you feel lost. There are alot of other people in this world and although she seems to be the one right now you could totally change that mentalitly in a few weeks.
