I just got out of a relationship beg. March that i was in for over a year (long time for this 1). So i promised myself I wouldn't have sex w/ anyone until I found someone who is going to stick around for a while. So, I moved recently and don't know anyone here. This guy at a store I went to buy some cp shit from gave me his home # in case we needed help w/ the cp. So I had a few beers and called him but he was busy, but said to call back next day. Then my landlord asked me to call again, so i left a couple messages, as we really don't know anyone who can help us. After a few days went by, I forgot about it. 2 wks later (2 1/2 weeks ago), I was sitting here on this thing, lit, about to go to bed, and he showed up @ 11pm! I guess he was on vaca for 2 weeks. So anyway, I am kind of stand offish to begin with, but he started rubbing my back, so being so drunk, i just didn't have the judgment, and certainly didn't expect him to show up w/ out calling at 11!! So needless to say, he spent the night. Hes a little younger than me, but I really hit it off w/ him the first time we met (I don't think he would have given me his# if we didn't). He was asking a lot of questions I wouldn't expect, like if I want kids, do i want to be married, shit like that, and I kept thinking, this is odd. So in the a.m. he left at like 5:30 b/c he had stuff to do, and the night b4 he kept asking me what i had to do in the morning, like he was going to hang out all day. He said he'd call in a few days...so 2 weeks went by w/ out a call, so i had a few beers and called him 1 night and he totally blew me off. I am kicking myself in the ass now! I am so pissed off at myself, i should know better by now, but it isn't like we're 16, either. I just wish for once in my life I could find a guy who will treat me w/ respect, not as a warm blooded vessel, if know what i mean. I've had it w/ men!
He seems like a player. It's not your fault since you were drunk and maybe somewhat lonely, so don't give up hope, the right guy will be in your life eventually. I bet the dude is married...
apollo, if thts what it is 2 u, then why waste time saying it! I am really depressed as it is, and could use friends. Thanks davino, no he isn't married, but my roommate says he just wants me to sweat him and chase him. not into that. I just want to find someone to settle down with, i"m not getting younger, u know. And yes, I am lonely. I don't know anyone in the town I live in.
Best thing is don't put out until you're sure (unless you want to)/ Most guys are going to try to get sex if they can. If you want sex, then just admit it to yourself and have at it, otherwise, make him wait for a good while six months or so (unless of course, you get horny). If he waits that long and sticks with you, then chances are it's you he wants and not just a piece of ass.
Yeah, I told him b4 anything happened I wasn't into sex, but I was so drunk, and on my way to bed when he showed up and it felt good and everything, but I'm just not into meaningless sex anymore and I didn't think he was either. Oh well, maybe someday I'll find a guy who isn't a jerk (doubtful)
Sara,that sucks. I know you regret it now,but sometimes slip ups happen. What else can I say....I won't tell you to be more cautious next time,because I know you will As for finding a decent,caring guy....good luck with that! If he has a brother,send him my way haha
well you did go out with someone for a year...surely if you were hgoing out for him that long you didnt think he was a jerk.
He wasn't that kind of jerk but he made up for it in other ways...I couldn't have friends, he freaked out if I smoked a joint when he grew it, when he started whining over $$, I left. I hate it when ppl whine about $$, or even talk about it, really. I didn't realize how depraved I was in that situation until some friends came up from Mass and told me I was like a completely different person. Anyway, I have never had a good relationship, and maybe its me, but I really don't think I'm that bad of a person. Who knows.
fuck that. i feel bad for you, but seriously, this is COMPLETELY your fault. if you're really looking for some sort of real relationship, you won't bang any cute guy who's made your aquaintance and suddenly shows up at your place late one night. drunk or not, that's no fucking excuse.
First of all, he isn't that cute, I wasn't interested in his looks, it was his mind. 2nd being drunk isn't an excuse, its just the way it was 3rd the way he was talking I didn't think he just wanted to get laid And it probably is my fault. it usually is.
lay off her gravy, who says if you have sex on the first date thats all its ever gonna be about? just because they did the hanky panky doesn't mean she deserves to be blown off
well maybe everyone should label their threads better. i was under the impression you wanted some sort of advice. but i guess this thread should have been called "Feel Used-PITY PARTY!" terribly sorry for the misunderstanding.
Dude, whatever, I do want advice and a little support, and it isn't a pity party. Maybe u should check out some of my poetry in the poetry section.....5 yrs ago, my boyfriend died and haven't been able to get out of depression since, let alone entertain the idea of finding anyone again.
so where was the advice in your last statement? i see you being all self righteous and judging, and i see you being an ass in this post, i don't see where this advice you speak of is.
