and I've got meself an INTERESTING situation (to say the very least)

Alright. So some of you have heard about how I've wanted to talk to my friends-sister's german friend. His name is Phillip, and he's gay. I've wanted ot talk to him because i wanted to relate to somebody else.

Well...I got to talk to him.

And a bit more.


So, to make a long story short, me made out liek 43056943 times, when we THOUGHT that me friends sister was sleeping, but it turns out that she was AWAKE. And then it turns out that shre had feelings for him, even though he was GAY, and seeing that happen got her upset.

And then she suggested for us all to come ot my house, so we watched a movie, and Phillip and I went to the comptuer, and invited Joy and Emily (Joy is ym friend, and Emily is her older sister), but they said, no, you two can go. So of course htey set us up, and we kissed a bunch more and talked about a lot of stuff, and it was really really really great. I was so fucking happy that I finally got to relate to somebody else..that was alreayd enough..and then to get to kiss and cuddle with this guy who I thought was so nice and kind and amazing...I was so happy.

But then Joy called me when I got home, and told me about how her sister felt uncomfortable wiht it, althought Joy was fine. Ahhhhhhhhh

The only way I can see him is when I am at joy's house, but I dont want it to seem like I want ot hang wiht Joy JUST to be with him..ahhhh

Isn't like CRAZY? I guess I just gotta sit back and laugha t it a bit too...haha
Cheers,
any suggesitons or anything would be superb....
Dylan

 

Just tell Emily to give up her crush...

I dunno how to help you really; couldn't you just call the boy and ask him if he wants to hang out or something? It's not like you have to stay inside to do something; just take a walk with him or something, find out if you really like him and what not. Maybe lay off the romance a little bit when you're at your friend's house.

 

Piano, read my recent thread (Holy Crap, Big Problem)
My recent situation is similar with the whole, "I was caught and now this and that" lol...

Anyway, I'm happy for you because you're happy! And I'm glad you got what you were looking for.

While it may seem like you're using Joy/Emily, you still have the right to be with Phil. Just set your standards straight. When you're all together, it may be wise to maintain a friendly and civil attitude with Phil for Emily and Joy's sake.

However, whether Emily likes it or not, Phil is gay. Your relationship with him shouldn't cease to exist just because of someone else's unrealistic (unfortunately) feelings. You'd be nice enough to respect Emily's feelings by being friendly to Philip around her. So in return, it is only right for you to be with Phil without her where the two of you can cherish your relationship, or whatever you want to call it.

She'll get over it. You'll get over it. After all, he's not here forever, and that's why you need to cherish the moment while you can.

 

I have to agree with LogsOnSticks. So Emily is unhappy. She'll get over it.

Hello? Phillip is gay, and that means that he is not going to be interested in Emily like she wants him to be. I wouldn't be very blatant about all of this in front of Emily because that would be downright rude. At the same time, you should enjoy Phillip as much as you can. He's not going to be in town all that long, and you should all make the best of the situation to the best of your ability as long as possible.

 

Thanks guys..

I just have such strong feeligns for him right now, and I can not help it at all, the least bit. I am still worried abou when he leaves, because I don't know what the hell I will do.

I guess I really need to just appreciate the time I have with him. I will stay in contact with him, and I know that he won't leave my life. We are pretty much going out now...but I dont think either of us is expecting to other to keep a long-distance relationship. I think that would be something we'd decide when he left. I know that I plan to move to Europe for college, or after college, DEFINITELY. But if anything, I think we'd have an open relationship. I dunno.

I need to stay in the NOW MOMENT.
aaaah

 

College in Europe...Sounds adventurous...Keep in mind that you're still young and anything could change. Who knows, you may find Mr. Right in three years and Europe may be out of the question!

But yeah, just have fun for now. After all, we all gotta start somewhere!

 

Well, PHillip and I have broken up....we figured that the sooner we ended our bf-bf relationship, the less it woudl hurt when he left back for Germany...the only thing is, I am still going to be hanging out with him before he leaves- several, many times. So I dont know what to expect- on one hand, I think that we'll just try ot act like we did before it all happened...but on the other hand, I think we'll still feel such a connection that acting like we used to will be hard.

but guess waht he said to me- he said that (he knows that I am going on an exchange trip to europe, and that im planning to...and he also knows that I am planning on moving to europe, and possibly attend college int he UK).

He said "One day, if you perhaps still want a relationship (boyfriend relationship he meant), we can pick up from where we left off (meaning from when we HAD been going out)- just give me a call when you are in Europe and we can keep it going. I know that I am going to see you again some day. I really really really like you, and I really really enjoyed those experiences we had, and I know you did too. And I also know that you understand this desicion. And for now, if I am asked, I will have to deny anything happened to anyone (he is under the impression that since he kissed me and he's over 18 that what we did was illegal?), but in our hearts we both know that what happened happened, and was beautiful. I will never ever forget what happened, it was simply amazing. And, for now, here's a farewell kiss-"

and we kissed for long.

And then we hugged, and he left.




BUt we're still going to see eachohter for the next 2.5 weeks before he leaves! (minus one week cuz he's going to NY for 5 days). I really want to have one last kiss the day he leaves...I know that we'll talk before he leaves, and that neither of us will be too good at restraining ourselves.... I dont know...this is so fucking hard. I've never felt this way before, and he is so pure, and down-to-earth, and honest, and kind, and sweet, and cute, and humorous! ANd the ways he always told me how much he liked me, and how he thought I was cute, and talented, and amazing, and had such a beautiful personality...this is so painful.

I know I'll see him again, and that chances are we'll continue...but waiting...and the idea that there IS a slight chance we won't continue...

please i need help

 

Wow! Phillip sounds like a great guy. Does he have an older brother?

Seriously, I think you should stay in touch with him. My gut feeling is that you will see him again. I don't know how it will all turn out, but you've had a much better experience than many of us did at that age.

I can't tell you whether you and he will be lovers or not. For now, treasure him as a friend. I would also tell you to remain open to meeting as many other gay men as you can--that's advice I give to just about everybody, especially myself--and to be the strongest, healthiest and most loving person you can be.

Age of consent laws mean that what happened between the two of you was probably technically illegal. I'm not a lawyer, but I do know that there is probably a lot more going on than the courts ever deal with. You probably don't have anything to worry about. At the same time, I wouldn't recommend telling too many people what happened.

I know it hurts. You'll be 18 sooner than you realize, and life will get easier.

 

Thanks guys...