*sigh* I'm 22 years old, and I am not bad looking (you can see a glimpse of me in the member photos under "me in blue" if you want)....I have a husband....I am feeling unloved. He's opening a new restaurant so he is busy busy busy and I need some good hard lovin'... I want to be desired and longed for... I'm asking too much, huh? Things were different before he started this new job...He had time for me. Now he's tired all the time and when he is home it seems like we just eat dinner and bicker and watch tv or something. He used to be so romantic. I know it's not me... I just need to be wanted right now. I figured I would vent to you fine people and maybe someone would say, "oh, it's OK, Mandi, I want you." But oh well, that's Ok. Maybe he'll snap out of it soon. You know, I used to have all kinds of guys wanting me...I never ever wanted to settle down, but I did, so he shouldn't take me for granted. ugh. I sound like a loser but sometimes you just have to get stuff off your chest, right? I think this is the most personal I have ever been with you guys.
You don't sound like a loser. You sound like a woman. Men like to chase, women like to run. Men like to look, women like to be looked at. It's the way it is. How long has your husband been at this new job? Maybe when he gets the hang of the job, he'll go back to his old self. I'm gonna play devil's advocate here. Think about how stressful or busy his job must be for him to have his personality change so drastically. That can't be fun for him. Give him some time. If it goes on too long say something to him, just be mindful that he is adjusting to new things also.
does he have a heart condition? if not then spike a drink with viagra and give it to him. that should help. but if your just looking towards talking to him then just ask if he can spare 20 min. it cant be that hard, can it? please excuse me if i sound like an ass, and if i do. i apologize. GOOD LUCK!
Talk to him about it. Shut off the tv, turn to face him, & tell him you two really need to talk. Start by making it clear that you understand how stressful it is to open a restaurant, that he must be exhausted, that you appreciate that he's doing this to build a better future for both of you, etc. Then tell him how you feel -- that as much as you are proud of him for doing what he's doing, you're feeling neglected. Try to work out some compromise... As sad as it sounds, set a date for a couple of hours of quality time, whether that's a romantic dinner with the cell phone turned off or a wild romp in the sack or whatever. Being a restaurant, maybe he could take off Monday evenings to devote entirely to your relationship (since weekends are when everyone goes out to dinner!). Being swamped for a couple of weeks, or even a month or so, is understandable, but the longer you let this go, the worse you will feel & the more difficult it will be to work thru it when he finally slows down to spend time with you... Or, at least it would be for me, but then I overanalyze everything, so I'd wind up creating a much bigger situation in my mind than it really is...
