How my weekend came to a screetching halt...

I just found out my x-boyfriend is crazy…

We haven’t talked for awhile and I haven’t seen him in a few months, so I figured that he had finally gotten over me…we’ve been broken up for almost a year now. He was extremely jealous that I was going to see Phish this weekend with my current bf and literally commanded me not to go. Of course I went anyway and when I got back into town he was waiting for me at my house. We got into a fight and when I tried to go back into my house he grabbed me and slapped me across the face.

I ran inside my house, called my boyfriend and he in turn called the police.

The police got there, but he had left. My boyfriend is on his way to my house. Shortly after he gets there, my x shows up again. This time he takes the telecaster I bought him for his birthday 3 years ago and smashed against a tree out in my front yard, also banging it on my boyfriend’s car. I call the police again, they miss him again.

I get a phone call from my x saying that I don’t have to worry about ever seeing him again…I’m not sure if that means he plans to kill himself or what.

My boyfriend stays at my house until midnight, thinking OK I’m safe now.

I wake up at 4 in the a.m. by a loud banging on my front door. It’s the cops. A neighbor must have called. Turns out the x broke into my car, peed in my front drivers seat, took my bass out of trunk and smashed it to, engraving “nothing is sacred” on the back of it. He is now up a tree in my front yard with a rope and he won’t come down unless I talk to him.

I go outside and tell him he needs to come down, we can talk somewhere private, yada yada yada…eventually he comes down and the cops cuff him. I do talk to him for a few minutes but he cant handle much of it and starts banging his head against the front of the cop car. They took him to the hospital for an evaluation and now he’s in a psycho ward in Boston.

I can’t believe that in 2 years of dating this guy, I didn’t see any of the crazy man behind his eyes. I guess its good I know now though. But my bass, my fucking BASS man….I’m so pissed about that. It was a beautiful vintage Kent hollow body. Bye baby. RIP.

 

that is crazy!!!!! It's mind baffeling when you find out things like that about someone you cared about so much for so long. I've been there before. Sorry about your bass too, thats really shitty!

 

Hell yeah, He's crazy as HELL! But don't feel bad. Truth is, we never really know people. We think we do, but we don't. One of my ex-friends and her bf killed her 13 month old baby. I had been friends with her since we were kids. I couldn't believe it.

NEway, sounds like dude is on drugs or something. Not fun drugs, but real ones. Is he?

My condolences on your bass. Its in a better place

 

holy jesus on a pogo stick that is scary! i wonder how he turned out like that...your poor bass.....

 

While he is still in lockup, you might want to consider moving. The guy is obsessed with you. He has stuck you, destroyed your personal items and obviously knew the Bass was very important to you.

A Personal Court Order, while useful is not a complete shield should he decide to return and do more serious injury.

If you can't move, maybe a personal defense course, Judo, Karate, etc., might be very useful.

 

Yeah a restraining order is in the works...

My boyfriend and I were talking to each other this weekend about getting a place together, but it wont be for at least another month or 2. He has his own place now (which he said I could stay at any time) but it's a little far away from where I work).

As far as why the x turned out the way he did, he was beat by his father when he was a child, and his mother is bi-polar. I feel very sorry for him, I hope he gets the help he needs.

 

that guy is crazy. my gf thinks a guy that called too many times after breaking up was phycotic

 

That just goes to show, you never really know. People are strange.

 

Thats horrible sweetie...
when i was in hs, I dated this guy for almost 2 years and he got kindof crazy in the end so i broke it off with him...
The crazy ass stalked me, vandelized my car, my parents house, stuck big signs on my car that said whore, followed me, had to get a restraining order...he broke it and that lasted until my brother got ahold of him and beat the shit out of him..

 

my ex sabotaged the year book. misspelled my gf's last name.

 

a restraining order is nothing but a piece of paper that does you no good unless the cops get there in time. my advice, make sure you current boyfriend or future or yourself can either defend you, or you get you a gun/tazer. crazy people do not care about what the law will or will not allow them to do. my advise to you sweetheart. i'm pretty sure no one here would liek to hear of anything bad happening to you. take care of yourself, hopefully they will keep him locked up for awhile untill you can get out of there.

 

So, have you talked to the cops about what all charges you can press against him? Did you file a report the first time the cops were called, after he smacked you? That should count as assault, if you are willing to go thru all of the crap it takes that might get him a little more time in lockup, maybe keep him away until you can move in a month or two...

I've had some bad ones, but none that got quite that far, tho that might be because I moved & made sure nobody told him where I went... Good luck dealing with this...

 

I'm trying to get a restraining order on him but I cannot have one issued if I don't know where he lives. I found out today that he got out of the hospital. But he said he'll be sleeping in his truck. I guess the cops can keep an eye out for his car though...oh man. Well that is going on the backburner till monday. Im w/ my hunny & staying at his place.

Oh, look at the text's he sent me...
1. I'm getting out (To which I reply "Where are you going>")
2. y? where else? my car? (I didn't respond to him after that)
3. y?!
4. have you gone mental! I asked you a question!
5. bitch
6 so have you thought about what you did?
WTF? Have I thought about what I did. He really is cRaZy. All these messages were in a span of 5 minutes.
I think that if I got a restraining order, he's not the kind of person who would care if he broke it. I don't think I can stay in my own house anymore.

 

thats fucking low. peopple like that should be put to death. but thats just me. i think if i were charge everybody be up for something. even me