First Date Question...

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Butters, Jun 29, 2005.

  1. Butters

    Butters Senior Member

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    Okay everyone, I'm back with yet another question...hehe, but I swear, this one is more worth answering than others of mine...lol. Okay, so, about 4 weeks before school ended this past semester, I met an amazing girl. She's exactly everything I've wanted, almost the same person as me. We got along amazingly well, and so....with enough courage finally built up in my heart....I aksed her out, first time I ever have asked a girl out....and well, it was horrible timing on my part. I asked her out, the night before we left to go home...hehe, oops. Needless to say, she couldn't...she had to pack, and get her room ready and all that good stuff....BUT, she said that if it were any other night, she would have said yes, and that she really wants to go out with me, and that we'd just have to wait until next semester. Well, we've been talking everyday throughout the summer, and our conenction just seems to get better and better each day. So I know she likes me, and I like her a whole hell of alot. So, fall semester is just a little more than a month away and I realized....I have NEVER gone on a date before...so this will be my first ever, and I have no idea what to do!! I mean, I know where to go and stuff, I already have that planned out, but I just don't know how to act. What to do, what to say, etc. I don't know how to "properly" pick her up, and what to do when I drop her off....I'm clueless. So, please help me make this PERFECT, because I like her so much, and I want this one to last, because she's amazing. Thanks everyone for listening to my crap all the time. [​IMG]
     
  2. Butters

    Butters Senior Member

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    Awww come on, help out your friendly neighborhood clueless guy! [​IMG]


    ...or at the very least, laugh at me. Hehehe
     
  3. Green

    Green Iconoclastic

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    I don't know.
     
  4. Soulless||Chaos

    Soulless||Chaos SelfInducedExistence

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    Just have fun, and do whatever seems right. :D There is no specific way you should do things. :rolleyes:
     
  5. apollo

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    keep it simple. talk about everyday things and try to ask her questions... alotta times people make the mistake of beiing nervous and talking too much bout themselves and then coming across as selfish orself absorbed...

    ask her what kinda music she likes, what kinda movies, etc. keet it light. make her smile, tell a joke or two..
     
  6. Gats

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    Watch the movie Hitch and hope the "advices" work out. Ha ha.
    Sorry I just watched it last night and though it was very good...........
     
  7. listen to screw

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    see what shes into and dont be nervous
     
  8. Burbot

    Burbot Dig my burdei

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    if you drive anywhere, open her door...if you go to dinner, and she leaves the table, stand up as she leaves, and as she returns...if you are walking down the sidewalk, walk on the side closest to the road...if it starts to rain, use your coat to cover her, then run to the nearst cover, then evaluate the situation and such...
     
  9. loveflower

    loveflower Senior Member

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    personally i wouldn't like to go on a planned date, i'd rather he just take me somewhere random and we'd see where the night takes us :D
     
  10. SweeperOfDreams13

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    I agree with this..
    and to make it easier on yourself, don't look at it as a date. Look at is as just hanging out... only with someone you love.

    just my two cents.
     
  11. Butters

    Butters Senior Member

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    Hmmm, really interesting, I've never heard that one before...thanks! Look, I know this sounds stupid to you all, but you have to undertsand I've never done this before in my life, I just don't want to mess anything up, that's all. Another question of mine is...what do I do when I drop her off? Like, am I supposed to kiss her, hug her, just wave goodbye, how do I know? Thanks all.
     
  12. Burbot

    Burbot Dig my burdei

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    well the point of that is that it is not poliet to be seated when there is a lady standing...
     
  13. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    Act polite open doors do all that stuff and be yourself and all will be good. It sounds like she likes you.
     
  14. Nalencer

    Nalencer Dig Yourself

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    Bullshit. If she likes you, why should she care if you stand up when she stands, or open doors for her, or any of that garbage. Frankly, I'd fucking hate it if someone did that to me. She's a person, with hands (I assume). She can open her own doors.
     
  15. Burbot

    Burbot Dig my burdei

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    im not saying that is going to get her to like you...but it is just polite to do so...


    geez
     
  16. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    because there's a million guys out there who would think enough of her to open the door. if a guy refused to open the door for me and made a big deal about it id call a cab.
     
  17. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    exactly liking you is the first step but liking your actions is equally as important
     
  18. Butters

    Butters Senior Member

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    Great points being stated....I agree, I think I SHOULD open doors and everything, not to impress her, but mearly out of politeness, and to show that I am indeed a nice guy, and will continue to be that way even if not necissary.

    ...and yes, I do have excellent sources that tell me she's really into me. [​IMG]
     
  19. Butters

    Butters Senior Member

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    Okay, here's the biggie (for me)......what do you do excactly when you drop the girl off? I know this sounds o dumb and naive....but, well I am [​IMG], so humor me. How do you, well, know what to do? Forgive me for my immaturity with all this, haha.
     
  20. nitemarehippygirl

    nitemarehippygirl Senior Member

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    get out of the car and open her door for her, unless she's already done so,
    maybe walk her up to her door, or you could say goodbyes just at the driveway;

    say, "thanks for a wonderful night, can i take you out again when you're free? maybe for lunch sometime this week? i'll call you... (etc)",
    be chill,
    give her a hug,
    give her a kiss on the cheek, or if the going seems good, a gentle kiss on the lips.
    smile! :)
    say good night,
    get back in your car and drive away.
    wait til you're out of hearing distance to start screaming and carrying on.

    you'll be fine.
    (remember, she's probably just as nervous as you... seriously.)
     

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