Yes, guys get raped too! And the rapists aren't even necessarily gay; it's usually done by STRAIGHT guys, and the VICTIM is often a gay guy. (Just because a guy is gay, doesn't mean that he wants to do it with EVERY OTHER guy!!!) I almost got raped when I was 14 by a bunch of other kids about my age. Funny, I'm the gay one (though I wouldn't come out for a few more years), and most of the others regarded themselves as straight. Except for one guy who I have to wonder about, but he was also something of a bully and I never really liked him that much though we sometimes kidded around together. The attempted rape on me put an end to the kidding around of course. I never told anyone about who was involved though I knew all of them, but I know I was very fortunate to get out of it before it went through. Two of my boyfriends had actually been raped that way when kids, one while in a reform school designed to "straighten" boys out(!) This particular school was shut down after some kid was forced to sit hip-deep in a pile of manure for several hours, got gangrene as a result, and died from the infections. I also remember one time when I was walking around one evening, and stumbled upon the same kind of gang-rape party that was just getting started. I was glad I broke that one up, even if only accidentally. I knew one friend of mine who was hustling (selling himself to other guys) for a living. I'd even picked him up and had sex with him several times myself, and I fed him or gave him money without requiring anything back on a number of occasions. Not that he minded having sex with me; he was gay, he said he actually enjoyed it, and he preferred to "earn" his money. Anyway, some sicko who had just gotten out of prison was up to his old tricks; I'd heard of a rash of similar incidents happening about the same time. This sicko picked up my friend, slipped him something in a drink, and would have raped him while he was out. My friend however realized what was happening, and contacted his roommate who fetched him and took him home before he passed out completely. Needless to say, that sicko was caught and went right back to prison, hopefully for good this time! This brings up a point: even a hooker or hustler can be raped, and NO ONE, not even a hooker, deserves to be raped. Except perhaps for the rapist or molester himself getting it in prison AFTER the fact, in which case it might be considered poetic justice! I want to hear from you about getting raped or molested (or close calls, or friends who've been raped), what you've done to try to recover from this horrible experience, and what you've learned from it. Sympathetic women are welcome here too!
Thats fucked up. Asking for stories of people who have been raped. I am a former victom of same sex domestic violence and sexual assualt. The story however the hell , hurt and pain are all aspects of my insanity, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Really got balls asking others to share a trauma. Fuck this. It does happen true. Sorry no details I will give. Some people get off on this shit and that is what is a fucking sick.
I don't get off on this shit, I'm seriously trying to help anyone who wants to post something here especially if it helps them work through it. If some people get off on it, that's their problem. But it's no excuse for not speaking out, though I respect it if someone is hesitant to post about this. After all, I'm gay, and I know that someone should not be forced out of ANY closet before they're ready to do so. Peace bro, you're entitled to your opinion, just let others make their own decisions. They can choose to share only the general outlines like you did, or somewhat more in terms of actual events like I did. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, including the option of NOT SHARING AT ALL if they so choose. It may still help them to know that they're not alone, even if they choose to remain silent. I know how tough this all is, and I certainly respect that.
o if this was a woman victim and she decided to tell her storey people whoul dbe more supportive. yes some wierd people might 'get off' with stories but then some people might also share, feel better. you have to think of it as male rape isn't well known in our world. it happens but because people have this image of the strong, nothing will hurt man they wont come forward. i know people it has happened to male and female and im the one they come to when they need a cry, advice, help etc. its never wrong to share your storey its good. well done for sharing xxx
I'm sorry. I read this tonight and it is all together different interpretation in my mind. The words do trigger. I feel so to say shame, while I was already feeling depressed and numb tonght. I am also gay. You see for me it is the number of times I have been victom of sexual assult and hate crimes. Only when I was a teenager back in the 90's in a small close minded city, I told someone I knew I was gay when I was 18 and he went angry and started chasing me with a sawed in half stick. I couldn't get to the car. I was screaming so loud. Screaming loud like a woman, not because I am gay but the fear and scream of fear for a persons life. I ran down the street screaming for help. Some man came onto his front porch in his pajamas and that is how I escaped. I took on foot a U turn toward my car past the offender, got away with only a mall gash on the temple and some bruises. I thought I had gotten away anyhow. I drove to the Convience store my female friend worked third shift. She tried to figure out what I was saying only I was bawling too hard. Told her finally not to phone the police. Strange enough we came in out of the back room and wtf?T they were there already at the store. I had not and no one called them. Only they were not interested in my wellbeing. The were there to question ME! They wanted to know if I was gay. The had another car calling in the liscense plate numbers from my car. The asked "did you make sexual advances toward mr so and so. I was like no. Asked me for ID and called in to check for warrants none existed. The plates were clear. They finally left and she said they asked her the same as they asked to me. In the way things are supposed to be by the law, I was the victom of a crime, only in the eyes of those third shift cops, I was the opposite Put on trial after being beate by someone at least 5-10 years older than me. I was so upset, only was upset I was who I am, not from what had been done to me. The messed up thing is, Prior to this attack, I had already been had similar. Same thing in what, if anything was reported. Since then have over some years, been held hostage, and another time kidnapped. The hostage situation I never reported. The Kidnapping and robbery I did report only to be same situation as above, I was not helped by the cops, instead was "accused" of getting into that car to pull tricks and the reason was to go and "burn one' I got burnt alright. Asphalt burn as I jumped from the moving car as we slowed to turn a corner. I have a hard tome to express my being gay and don't have gay pride cause of all the shit has happened because of being 'gay'. I am sorry again for being hatefull in my reply, it is just alot of stuff I try unsuccesfully to shut out of my mind. It dont matter, even when high, the past infultrates in to my mind in the form of a flashback and it is hell. Peace RX
Hey thanks for posting your thoughts RX. I'm sure that it took a hell of a lot of courage for you to come out with your feelings, there's definitely a lot of intense feelings associated with being victimized by violence and being falsely accused. I myself have been victimized by violence, and as I said at the top of this thread I got one close call with being raped myself. The thing about rape is that is isn't really about sex per se, it's about VIOLENCE that happens to include forced sexual intimidation. I'm also quite aware that in many areas the police can be very unhelpful, they may even turn on you especially if you're gay. Regrettably even women who are victims often have difficulty in getting the police to take them seriously, the attitude the police take is often that the women are sluts who deserved it. Many police especially in smaller cities become police precisely because it's a big macho trip for them, private parties with hookers are common among the police and even some have become rapists themselves. Just about anyone can get impulsive thoughts but most people are mature enough not to act out on the antisocial ones. Even many who have serious problems are at least self aware enough to seek professional help. Regrettably there are many others who can't seen to control themselves or who care so little about others that they do whatever they think they can get away with. You should read some of Sininabin's postings where he indicated that he intends to rape a particular girl that he knows. Not just fantasies but intentions. Needless to say most other posters myself included have been urging him to seek therapy ASAP, and as I pointed out rape won't seem so funny to him when it's his own ass getting raped in prison for the next 20 years. On the flip side I also understand that many though by no means all rapists have been raped or molested themselves. Still, it's a matter of learning self-control and finding constructive ways of dealing with the intense feelings of shame fear anger and powerlessness instead of allowing oneself to become part of the problem. I'm hoping that some honest sharing of feelings might help some past victims to become part of the solution instead even if it's only in helping them get their own heads back together. I wish you well RX and I hope that you can find some genuine happiness in your life. It does sound like you're trying your best. Just know that you're not alone (I suffer from serious depression myself mostly because of the violence I experienced as a kid), and that a reasonably happy life is still possible though it may take time and a lot of work.
Geez, you're only 13 and it's even more cruel when you're just a kid. You have my whole hearted support. Please don't kill yourself, regardless of what you've been made to feel IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Don't give the assholes who did this to you the satisfaction -- hang in there anyway if you can.
