Vaginal tearing???

I guess this is kinda sex related, but its definitely not a male problem.

For about two years I've had this problem. After intercourse, no matter how lubricated I am, I get this pain on my vulva, like a papercut at the top and bottom of the opening.
I dont mean to gross anyone out, but I had a look, and its almost like its stretched and ripped the skin from the friction or something. Whichwould be okay, except it happens all the time

I've been to the doc like 3 times nowand they all keep telling me its nothing, and I've had std checks for HSV and the like and they all came back negative, even though they were taken with the cuts present... I mean "nothing" is a good answer, but "nothing" isn't fixing my problem

Its reallly wearing at my patience and I'm at a loss as to what to do... does anyone experience similar problems? any advice????

 

Stop having sex.

 

cos thats gonna happen

 

Then tear. Duh.

Oh, I see the ticker now. Wait a few months. Your desires will scale way back and you won't be doing that sort of thing and it won't be a problem.

 

try spending more time of foreplay, particularly fingering which will allow your body to accomodate to being stretched out more than having nothing there at first. Go slower, see if that helps. And yes, use more lube... if you start to feel dry, add a little water if it's a water-based lube rather than just piling more on.

 

it happens to me all the time too! in fact, I bleed towards the end of sex every time. I know that any amount of forelplay, lube, and time doesn't help me.

so I can't give any real advice, sorry.

but you aren't alone!

 

hmmmm i had that problem when i was 17..... but it just eventually went away it was very painful, i too was even having breakthrough bleeding

 

I was thinking that females who experience this may simply want to incorporate more oral sex and mutual masturbation into their lovemaking and have less penetrative sex (e.g., doing it 1 less time per week). The goal of lovemaking should not be to have penetrative sex leading to orgasm, but a bonding in which that is one aspect for promoting a spiritual connection.

So, the male in a relationship involving vaginal tearing or sensitivity should be a little more patient and go more slowly.

 

Could be an external yeast infection. Maybe get some Monistat and see if it helps any.

 

I felt often pretty sore after having sex, but it went away after a day or two, but I found out that it was a yeast infection, that kept comming and going!

 

I've had it happen to me as well.. I've noticed it after rough intercourse, the size of the man I'm with, and certain positions (especially if he enters me aggressively during doggy).. Sometimes I can tell if it's going to hurt me before he puts it all the way in.. For me, it stings as if I've been stretched, or my skin has been torn due to the friction, but finally it goes away.. I really don't think it's anything to worry about.. If I was you and it was happening every time I would make sure to use plenty of lube, and go slow at first.. If you feel dry and start burning, lubricate yourself..

 

That's what happens to me! I'm always super sore after sex. I have yet to find out why.

 

a what?

The thing that has me most puzzled is the fact that I can be heaps wet and it still happens...
I'm glad to know I"m not alone... I was starting to think i was freakish

it doesnt help either when your boyfriend says "but sex isnt suposed to hurt"

I know that! argh!

 

She's referring to a Nurse Practitioner..

I get 'too wet' during sex, so I've been told, and I still get that way.. I don't worry about it.. After having rough intercourse I tend to notice it more, other than that I think nothing of it.. If you're having rough sex, or if the guy is larger than previous guys you've been with, that can be a cause for it.. Next time try going slower/easier and see if that helps..

 

I feel so voyeuristic having read all this.

Thank God I don't have to deal with any of it.

 

bastard(;

 

Yeah, on second thought I probably shouldn't wander into a thread where people speak of their various bits.

Enh, I'm old enough now that any talk of such things is purely academic.

I need to slouch off and find some comfortable tube socks and a bathrobe to lounge around in. I'm about 15 mins away from "I don't care anymore... I'm gonna go out and make sure m'lawn's doin' OK..."

 

I had this problem when I was about 16 or 17, and I absolutely felt weirded out by it. I went to the gyno and she told me it was caused by dryness and being too rough when having sex( I wanna go into detail about how she told me it happens but I don't want to gross anyone out!) I was put on OTC yeast infection cream for any bacteria that would occur and as weird as this sounds, diaper rash cream. After a week at the most it was gone and if it comes back I know how to fix it. Hope this helps!