Older men..

i think that i'm only attracted to older men..i know there are loads of people out there who prefer older people but i just felt like i needed to post this.
I'm not like talking about 80 year old guys.. but dating someone up to 40-50 is just fine with me.. but it's hard here cause people are so judgemental about young girls dating older men. I just don't feel right dating someone as old as me, i think they are too immature and i like someone with some experience. Maybe cause people my age don't really get me, don't respect me and things like that.
What do you think? Do you think it's wrong or bad.. just tell me. i need to get someone's opinion on this. i can't really tell my best friend (even though i'd like to) cause i know her opnion on girls dating older men...

Thank you all in advance and love and peace to you all!
Sara

 

When I was 15 I was attracted to older men as well, older as in 20's and 30's.. I know for a fact that age does NOT mean they're all mature.. I liked them because back when I was 15 being with an older guy was 'cool'.. I'm still attracted to older men, 30's and 40's. It's not because they're older though.. I can't really explain why, I just connect with some older men, plus the fact that they're possibly more experienced than me is a turn on.. I'm also attracted to guys a year or so younger than I am which is something I was not when I was younger.. If I was you I would be careful about that though because some older men prey on younger ladies..

 

I'd worry about any 40-50 year old who's interested in a 15 year old. It doesn't seem quite right to my brain. Pedophile-like even. You'd be in such different places in your lives, how would that work? Could you get along with his friends, and he with yours?

I like somewhat older guy too, but I can't imagine dating someone older than 30, and I'm nearly 20

 

Cool it with that shit, you could get him in alot of trouble. Besides he would be all wrinkly and shit. Gross!

 

it's a thing that happens when u're 15-16-17 maybe even 18. It happened to me 2. No big deal. Just remember that in this life u gotta have some fun, learn some stuff, gain experience and do the things you like.

 

Well in Australia thats illegal so yeh, but you feel how you feel....

 

thanks you guys, loved all the comments. but Peace Attack, looks don't matter when you care for someone
i know i don't feel like this cause it's cool to be with older man.. i don't feel that at all.
but yeah, maybe you're right.. maybe it's just something i feel right now and will go away when i get older. who knows..
but thanks again guys, you were lovely

 

i went throught the same thing but at 15 its nice safe to date guys too much older than you. the only reason i didnt have sex in high school was v=because i found teenage boys repulsive and immature.

 

hello!

i'm 31 in a relationship with a wonderful man 16 years my senior.

i have dated older men who act like they are 12.....

if you love someone, wrinkles don't matter. love in your heart is what makes it.
be true to your heart. i've always found older men more attractive, and just happened to find one who has a heart of gold!
i do have some ppl who do make comments and snub their noses, but i tell them i have had relationships with men my age, and am sick of them acting like selfish little brats.
do what your heart tells you, and be true to yourself and all will work out in time!
~karma~

 

At fifteen you should not be dating men that are fifty or older. I'm not saying its wrong for younger women to be with older men. I'm only twenty and the last two men I've had anything to do with were fourty two and sixty one! All I'm saying is that at fifteen you should not be looking to those men for what you want. If you do happen to care for someone that age look at what could happen to them. Big trouble. Wait until you are of an age to be with that person.

 

My sister has a relationship with an older man and I don't think that this is bad.She is 19 and he is 36.When she wasn't with him,she was always busy, she doesn't eat and get out.With him she is really different.Everybody can see that she is really happy.It was hard to me to accept that relationship.But he is a great man and musician.My sister learns a lot of things from him.He has a daughter at my age, but we musn't have a lot of prejudices,he is really great and everybody loves him, he is like a teacher for me,my sister and my friends....

 

I think its a protection thing. An older man looks so much more stable and reliable and able to look after you. Im certainly attracted to older men, although 50 sounds a wee bit TOO old! Id say i was attracted to men 20-30.

Its also natural for men to want a younger woman(although not too much younger) This shows a man who wants to protect and teach someone, not have someone to do their washing and make their food for them. Actually going out with older guys could be very healthy...youd avoid all those weirdos with the oedipus complex. Just make sure it doesnt go TOO far!

Love-Maxi.Xx

 

sara, we've talked before about this, & i feel like i should say here.. age doesnt make a man better or worse..it doesnt matter at all really..especialy these days when so many younger people seem so much wiser & more mature then when i was your age.. (ofcourse thats only the more evolved ones like you) .. but what i really want to sy most is..before your with any guy..especialy one much older..you need to develop a real trust..know them very very well, & understand theyre motives.. if they care about the real you.. & not just are excitedabout the prospect of being with an innocent child & seeing how much they can currupt you.. themn i see nothing wrong with it.. but..being that you are so young & sweet & innocent..you should be in no hurry to bewith anyone at all.....if you fell in lovewith someone older.. they should be totaly willing to wait untill you were really ready to emotionaly deal with that sort of relationship
i knowwhen your 15..3 years seems likea lifetime to wait... but really if you care for someone 3 years is nothing..just more time to grow together..& the momment will be even more magical when it finaly does come. (actualy i think in some states 16 is legal..but that doesnt mean you would be more ready at 16 if you moved there..lol & in canada i think 14 is legal.. which to me is just alittle crazy..since i think 15 iswhen your really starting to really discover yourself & are becoming emotionaly secure)
sara, just..i know you pretty well at this point i think..& i know your smart enough to know this..but i want to say it for anyone else your age reading this.. be extrememely careful who you trust..especialy online.. there are too many older men out there who prey on sweet young girls..& many are dangerouse..just look at how many 15 yewar old girls disapear after they decide to meet someone they met in a chat room... or how many times a young girl is grabbed off the street by creepy older men who just want to rape them...
as a general guideline..if your talking to an older guy & your 15..& he even hints at anything sexual before you offer it..most likely you shouldnt talk to him..
but if you start off as freinds & find something else develops naturaly..then possibly there might be something real there.

i hope that helps.
luvin u

 

I fell in love with a 30 year old man at age 13. I didn't tell him because he was married and just had a baby. I was good friends with his wife too and it just didn't seem right at the time. Anyway... I spent a lot of time in their house; babysitting and generally hanging around. My feelings didn't go away though. When she left him for another man I got him. I had waited for almost ten years. I was then 22½ and he was 40. It never really worked out as a relationship but we are best friends still to this day. I have since then had relationships with a "boy" five years younger than myself (disaster) and a man ten years older than myself. Right now I'm with a man who is 43. Works perfect for me. We are a perfect match both intellectually and emotionally. Love him to death!

My advice to you is be careful and make sure that he really loves you and don't see you as as potential teen sex toy. Have you really got anything to TALK about with someone that much older? There has to be some sort of intellectual stimulance too in a relationship for it to last. What have you got in common? Just curious...

 

Oooh, I think it is ok!!! I'm not so sure about like 50yrs old men.. but till 40, there I see no problem.. the man I love is 27, so young, but when I tell it to someone they're like: "Wtf, so ooold??" You know.. just don't care.. do what you feel...

 

Jana : so is that pic on the right you before surgery, or after surgery?

 

i'm sorry guys, i never should have posted this. was just feeling very emotional and it felt right to post it at the time... thanks for your responds though

 

Being over 40 myself, I hafta say that anyone over 40 who would date a 15 year old is someone you should be very careful about. you are underage. wait until you are are at least twenty before you start thinking about older men. I know you don't want to hear this, but you are still a child. be careful out there!

 

I've been attracted to older men since I was about 15, too. But the oldest I've actually had feelings for is 28. I think 40's definitely too old for me!

 

We have a 35 year age difference in our relationship (Wiz, 54 Rider, 19) and it's not even an issue for us or our friends. However, be VERY prepared to be stared at, pointed at, disapproved of and judged.
People WILL NOT REACT IN A GOOD WAY for the most part. If the relationship isn't strong, you won't make it. Likewise, if you or your partner are not strong individually, you won't make it either. You will feel like a spectacle in a zoo. Try to find a really mellow place to live. We live in Woodstock, NY and most people (the locals, not the tourists) just look once or twice, get used to it and really dig us.
Don't forget that people will probably judge you as a gold-digger and him as a pervert. It's that harsh. We went to a mall in a nearby town and we got VIOLENT reactions. It was VERY unnerving. And don't think your parents are going to dig it much unless they happen to be VERY FUCKING MELLOW people. I mean, if you had a teenage daughter who brought home a man in his 40's or 50's, what would you think?
All of these obstacles are tough and must be faced rationally and maturely, but in the end, the only people that really matter are the people in the relationship. Age is just a number. Good luck to you and remember:
"Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Suess
Peace - The Wiz & Rider