I'm 14 and I'm wondering if I should get a girlfriend. I've never had a girlfriend, ever. Some people have told me to get one just to get experience. I'm really shy and I'm not a good talker. I'm 5'4 and I weigh 100 pounds... I'm underweighted. Most girls in my school are like 1-2 inches taller than me and have more weight, I think. Help.
you make it sound like you go and pick up one at the store anyways, you don't have a problem, 'cept over-worrying
Just Chill Man. Im A Skinny Muthafucker To And If A Girl Isnt Gonna Let You Try To Talk To Her Cause Of That, Say Fuck That Bitch And Go Find Another 1. And Remember Its All Abnout Confidence. I Used To Be Very Shy But Got Tired Of That. U Gotta Open Up And Talk To Girls. Peace Screw
Lol... im 15, have had tons of girlie experience... and looks play part, but what women really want is talking bullshit. Like the other guy said, let life happen. Start talkin to a girl as a friend, and work ure way up! Thats how Ive always done it. And, concider ureself way lucky, that u are skinny, alot of people have to work at getting at the chubby stage to even get a girl to look at them! And Height isnt as big of a thing as everyone makes it out to be... confidence is your secret weapon... you gotta reach out there and grab what you want... wether its a girl... or her boobs... lol... Good Luck man
I had my first girlfriedn when i just turned 14. I felt rushed, cuz this girl had alot of friends or whatever so everyone was like "WTF go out with her man!" So I did and it lasted 10 days. I've had girlfriends since but i don't rush into relationships. If you feel good with it, go for it man. But if your doing it cuz everyone else says so...pshh, the hell to them! Do what you feel like.
my first GF was when i was 12.... We never did the whole "ask her out for me" thing, we had enough balls to go cath our own fish. Even though dating back then lasted 2 weeks tops, it was still fun. My advice: If you dont think you can ask her out yourself, then your obviously not ready, wait till a later day or year. But if you think you, and YOU alone, can tough it out and ask her, then I say go for it, shit, I mean u got a 50/50 chance at least right?
Hey, Reggie, let it be.. just stay yourself and when you'll really like some girl, you will "get her".. Don't do it just for experience if you feel it's not ok.
Don't worry, it will come! Just be yourself, don't try to be someone else (more talkative etc.) 'cause once you will meet a girl who will wanna be with YOU, not with someone who you aren't. I had no real relationship till I was 16. I'm shy and quiet a lot as well, I just waited and didn't stress myself. And then I found someone who loved me as I am
Yo dawg, I'm a short, skinny dude... I'm 21, 5'8"-5'9" (depends on my back) and I weigh anywhere from 135-155lbs depending on the amount of activity I engage in during a week. I was this height in eighth grade, and I'm still this size now... My best friend back home is 6'2", he's got broad shoulders and a big frame, but dude weighs 110lbs! You wanna know something about having the odds against you on your "physical game"? It really doesn't matter as long as you don't try to change yourself into someone that you're not. Get over the idea that you need to do this and that to get a girlfriend, or even that you need a girlfriend. Be the "Reggie" and let yourself decide what you want out of life! If you want a girlfriend, then look for a girl you like (not just because she's hot or has big boobs), but find a girl you get along with and share a few "core" values with. My brother's friend was about your age when he asked me a similar question one week out at the summer camp I worked at. I told him exactly what I'm telling you, and guess what happened? Two weeks later he was back again as my counselor in training, and the guy found a girl from Florida (he lives in Rome, GA) that week and now her family has moved to Rome, mainly because of her devotion to Andrew, who has an amazing quality of openness and acceptance... as well as humility, which is key to not allowing misfortune to overwhelm you with shame sometimes. That girl was 17 years old, but a year behind in school (a lil' hottie back then too!) and he was about 14... maybe fifteen, max. They're still together today, and although Andrew still questions things like drinking, sex, and a lot of ethical and moral issues, it's okay because his girlfriend respects him for being who he is, as well as becoming the man he's turning into. Reggie, you're on a journey to become a man (i'm assuming here, right?), and the first step on your path is realizing that you are the one responsible for the direction that you want to grow. If you aren't ready for a girlfriend, then why put yourself in a position where you have something you don't want? At your age, as I recall my own experience, dating, girls, and all that other bullshit was nothing more than exactly that; bullshit! If I had known then what I know now, I would probably turned out much better regarding relationships and whatnot. A friend of mine got me signed up on this dude's mailing list a while back, and while I haven't read his books or anything, I haven't cancelled his emails simply because I think the author is hilarious, but honest at the same time. The author's name is David D'Angelo, and he promotes this book he wrote called "Double your Dating" or some shit like that... but the man takes a lot of time, mostly everyday, to answer questions and other inquiries people have about relationship problems, problems with attracting women, and problems with keeping women. I completely agree with most of what this guy says, and although a lot of women think it's all a load of bullshit on paper, most girls I've discussed his techniques with think he's really got his shit together on what is almost a scary level. It's not techniques for changing yourself or manipulating women, rather it's more like therapy that can help you to be less afraid of women, as well as teach you how to have fun with dating instead of fearing rejection or feeling like you have to change yourself in order to find the right girl. Essentially, this guy promotes self confidence, which most women will agree is one of the most attractive qualities a man can have. I'd recommend his emails to you, and don't let people go off and make fun of you because you read some dorky emails that helped you gain more confidence which will ultimately give you something far beyond looks, power, or money as far as your "game" goes. I guarantee you won't be let down, bro!
