K- Am i being too bitchy and overreactive?

LAtely..my boyfriend has been super annoying.. he has not been planning ahead and just leaves everything to the last minute.. he also never knows whats gonig on in his spoon fed life...and he doesnt always use his common sense. i know im just young and shouldnt be expecting a boy to be like some Donald Trump all planned and figured out but this is just really pissing me off...

am i expecting too much or should i find someone thats more independent?

help me pelase.

 

thats all on u to decide
screw

 

Hey Nisha,

I have some bad news for you. All guys are like that... Guys don't plan ahead and if it gets done at the last minute oh well at least it got done. Don't take it personally.

 

HA! Tell that to Donald Trump, Bill Gates, Wayne Buffett, Rupert Murdoch, Ross Perot, Richard Branson or any one of a host of billionaires. Would any of these dudes be mega-wealthy if they didn't plan ahead? GET REAL!

-- Skeeter

 

If you want to look at it this way fine. Good for you you were able to name off a bunch of very wealthy buisness men who hire people to do their thinking for them. As far as dating goes..... oh no he didn't plan where we are going for dinner or he didn't pick the movie we are going to see? Big deal.

 

I have to agree with kingwood. Guys are spontaneous. Until we're married with kids and dogs and minivans and soccer/karate/t-ball practice, we don't make plans. We just do on the spur of the moment and women seem to dig this. Unfortunately once they marry us, and we start to adapt to our new way of life, they think they can change us just because we are able to adapt. And most men, once they realize this fact, ain't havin' none of it.

And that, brothers and sisters, is why the divorce rates in the US have been at 50% for the last 25 years.

Lesson: You met him as he was. You fell in love with im as he was. You married him as he was. In the interim he changed for the better. What say you let him continue to change for the better at his speed.

I guarantee you the divorce rates will drop to pre-1970.

 

Your guy probably has many great qualities. But let's face it. He's kinda young, and as most people grow older, they become sharper in their thinking, and become more aware & thoughtful & considerate. So the flaws that you see in your bf no doubt are real, but you should probably cut him some slack. On the other hand, at 16 y.o., you both are probably too young to get super-serious about a relationship. Best of luck to you, friend.