I wanted to share this article here. Help Me, I Think I'm Falling: Finding A Way Out of Despair When You're Black and Gay By Max Gordon Sapience Magazine July 2005 It’s a story I won’t soon forget: after my closest friend had come out as a lesbian and left her marriage, she went back home to the city in Michigan where she grew up. There, she began to map out her future, trying to make sense of the whirlwind of changes and possibilities she now faced. She anticipated a move that would eventually bring her “someplace else”. In the meantime, however, she took a much needed break to try and figure out what precisely had happened to her. She had fallen in love with a woman for the first time and it hadn’t exactly worked out. Her marriage was over. She had driven a moving-van from New York to Detroit with the last eight years of her life packed in boxes, while I sat on the passenger’s side, unsuccessfully reading road-maps, changing the static from fading radio stations, and sitting across from her in roadside diners. We made feeble jokes and moved greasy food around on our plates, using humor to make sense of what still felt to both of us like a strange dream. We arrived at her mother’s house and loaded boxes into a storage basement. The next day she waved goodbye to me at the airport as I went back to the City, leaving her and our mutual bewilderment behind. http://fallingatsapience.blogspot.com
