aaaahh what the fuck do i do?

Hey all,

I've got a little dillema on my hands... this little thing that is happening to me maybe very uninteresting, but hear me out. I'm 20, have had no to minimal relations with girls (still a virgin, let me scream it for you), and I am somewhat of a shy person. I don't really actively pursue girls, but I've always wanted a girlfriend (of course). So, to start this story off, one of my buddy's girlfriends really wanted to set me up with one of her friends who was single (I still haven't met her yet, but let me continue). I was stoked and said I was interested, and she went to the same high school as me... although when I was a senior, she was a freshman. Anyways, me, my friend, his girl, and one of her girlfriends and I were going to go hang out. We chilled and had a cool night, and I felt that the girl that had came along was interested in me. She put her number in my phone when I wasn't even looking, and then we all called it a night. I called her the next day to plan to hang out, and all that crap. We saw each other a few times over the past several days, but I'm a little skeptical... I really don't know if this is a girl I really want, you know? She is way more immature than me, although I really think she's hot (and she's 17, jail bait for me). I really haven't expressed my feelings towards her except for a couple awkard kisses, and that was it. I think she is on a different level than I am, as well. I am always pretty quiet, but I just can't think of a damn thing to say when I'm around her, and she always says I'm way too quiet. She talks about the most random, ridiculous stuff and I'm just befuddled... is this seriously how most girls act? Rigoddamndiculous... I also feel that I just don't have any, um, chemistry with her, should I say? Oh, and by the way... I have a strong feeling the other "set-up" girl isn't going to be much different... (but not as horny, lol).

All in all, I'm just a little torn on what the hell I'm going to do! I am leaving for college in a month and a half, and I want a partner until then, for some odd reason. Sorry if this is just a random rant... FLAME ON! - I say, haha.

 

I'm not going to flame you,nothing you said is unusual. Even though you may want a girlfriend,that doesn't mean that any girl will do. If you don't feel the chemistry,then move on from her. Don't lead it her on,though...not only is it wrong of course,but it can also screw up your chances with the other girl you may meet. Meet the other girl and give it a chance atleast...she may be cool,and totally different than any girl you've ever met. And no,not all girls are immature acting. She may be immature,or maybe she's nervous around you? Who knows.

Anyways,good luck

 

They say the girls are supposed to be 5 years younger than you (in health class, go bitch to the state), because of maturity. I guess its not true in this case, but I love to talk about random things myself. Its your choice man, if you want to try to be more optimistic and random (which is kinda fun) and keep seeing her go ahead, or if you really don't think it will work out tell her its over and hope you'll meet a girl at the collage you go to (who is a bit more older and mature).

I think you may just not be comfortable enough around her to talk, so I don't know how you would fix that. Maybe talk about views on things with her and stop wondering if shes judging you would help, that is if that is what is happening.

I hope I helped.

 

Dude, when you get to this level of desperation (I'm a 24-year-old virgin), you take what you can get, and you'd better like it.

This is not an insult to women, just an observation that waiting becomes unbearable after a certain point...

 

Yeah, a little voice inside me is still telling me to stick with her, just so I can finally get some, but I don't really want to have sex with somone I don't really care about for my first time. But yeah, Goatherd, I feel you. Sometimes I feel like I'm holding myself back from getting a girl, but maybe you should lower your standards, man. Or get off the computer and meet girls. But I'm not really the one to talk. Thanks for the advice all.

 

Well, you don't have to have sex with her, but some relationship experience on just a normal dating level might be nice for you.

I know with my girlfriend, she has been in relationships before and has said, "Well, none of them were serious, it was just dating for the sake of dating." as in, just date on a whim...me on the otherhand, I just never really dated other than for those 2 week things haha...but yeah, so I usually have a little trouble understanding some problems...

But, yeah, maybe you should get some emotional experience and save the physical for a girl that you feel good about.

 

girls are fucked up people. dont get attached whatever you do. coming from a guy, i know you wanna beat up that pussy right? just dont be shy and work your way into it :sunglasse
screw

 

Just listen to screw man. LOL

 

You can have a sexual relationship with somebody who isn't a great friend and soulmate. But as for the maturity thing, socially it tends to be the other way around--girls hit puberty and mature earlier.

If you want to move onto a real relationship look around at females you already know and respect. If you don't know any females as friends this is probably your first problem. Even by the end of high school you ought to be having co-ed friendships based on common interests not just hanging with a same sex pack. These friends are you main possibilities for real girlfriends.

 

But thats my problem in the first goddamn place... the only girls that I am friends with have boyfriends, is mainly the problem. I do realize that... awww fuck it I think I'll just give it a little more time, if at all possible.

 

Look, if you don't feel any connection to her -- either physically, emotionally intellectually or whatever -- then for your own sake, DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH HER.

She's 17 years old and you're 20. While that's an age difference of only three years, the fact remains -- and, to your credit, you've already ackowledged it -- that, legally speaking, she's a MINOR and you're an ADULT. Don't even THINK of getting involved with her until after she turns 18.

You'll save yourself a lot of preventable grief.

-- Skeeter