Maybe someone out there can help me. My hubby says that I give him no sexual pleasure when we have sex. He says that I am too lose. Often times when we are having sex and I am on top he slips right out of me. (he has major back problems and cannot be on top) What am I doing wrong. I really like sex, and I would really really like to pleasure my hubby. I was a virgin before we got married so I have no experience of which to compare what is happening to. Help me please. I want to have a sex life, but if this continues, I have my doubts. I have never heard of anyone having this type of problem with sex, am I just crazy or what? Not sure if it has anything to do with the matter above, but I have a prolapsed uterus, and a wrongly tilted Bladder, I think I must be an alien.
no offense. but your husband seems like one of the bigger assholes on the planet. Too loose? Maybe his dick is too small.
Why is it automatically the guys fault if there are size problems? Anyway, maybe if you try doing kegels or something it might help..
He doesn't sound like a prince, I must say. For a start you could be trying things other than missionary position penetration. For a tighter hold in a trad postion try raising her legs up as high as you can with your knees up by your shoulder--it helps if her helps with this. You can also tone up pelvic muscles to grip onto him more--get a feel for it by cutting off urine in mid-pee. Then practise clenching tand unclenching these muscles throughout the day. Then during sex clench hard as he is pulling *out* (think milking a cow).
well she was a virgin at marriage, and he's complaining about the sex without giving her any pointers. Plus he has a "back problem" preventing him from getting on top, add it all up and he is at fault. I hate him already
I don't give a fuck, I hate the guy I've probably had sex with 20 women and not once has vagina size got in the way of a good time.
dear, this is why you take the car out for a test drive before you buy it. (AHAHAHHAA...that sounds so lame) but yeah..yer hubbies a dick.
He says you're too loose? Maybe you should tell him he's too small Either way, it's a really stupid comment.. That is one reason sex before marriage is a good thing, it's like buying a car, you always test drive it before taking that baby home with you.. Maybe you guys just don't have chemistry in the bedroom, it happens.. I know a couple who got divorced because the man was too large for her and it caused problems, you should really talk to him about it and see what can be done.. Oh and as far as slipping right out of you, I know from experience that the last time that happened to me the man did in fact have a smaller penis than what I would have liked... Besides, if you give him no sexual pleasure during sex maybe he's just laying there not even trying, expecting very little..
thank you for all of your help, I appreciate it. I have tried all sorts of kegal exercises, I even tried a kegalmaster, but had no fortune. I was beginning to think maybe something was wrong with me, but I am comforted by all of your responses.
try kegels, have him do the male version, maybe try using a small vibe on his balls while riding him. It's pretty normal for a guy to slip out once or twice while the gal's on top (At least, for me it is. only takes a couple seconds to fix). And yeah, talk to him about being more considerate. He has no right to complain about your not pleasuring him if he won't tell you what he likes.
What about you, do you get pleasure from sex. Perhaps you might try some sex councelling or maybe try going to a tantra session or two, to get in touch with one another. You know babe, its not like sex is just for his pleasure, and its not like its up to you to make him feel good. If he hates sex with you so much, tell him hes free to wank any time, and buy yourself a shiny new vibrator.
Oops I missed the fact you were on top. I've always had trouble with this position myself! On method is to use a chair with no arms so he is sitting up and you sit on his lap facing towards him. Using you whole leg to support you allows you to use all the muscles up your body.
What helps is when on top in bed is for him to hold you just above your hips and that way you go up and down what speed suits him.... Sounds like I'm saying it's not for you, but it's a good judgement of how it's all heating up for both of you, gets you both in time... It's a very connecting feeling....
