in cutting off communication with a former friend? i was in a bad accident a few months back, nearly died, was hospitalized for awhile. while laying in my hospital bed, i made careful note of the amount of sympathy expressed by my friends. most came to visit and cheered me up. 1 even came every single day, for hours. these things i will never forget. one, however, failed to contact me. didnt visit, didnt call, did not even send a god damn instant message. i know he knew what happened. i had been outa contact with him for a few months before this, but we were still friends i often judge people based on the way i treat them. granted we were out of contact and hes a very busy guy, but still. He just tried to call me for the first time since the accident and i didnt answer. i dont think i ever will. i cant think of an excuse that could possibly worthy. ultimately we all have to make our own decisions. but i wonder how others would react to this situation. what would you do?
you just dont know what he may have been dealing with .....some folks may visit , but not have for u the true good wishes ....someone who is out the picture coulda been sendin ya the sweetest of vibes .....ya never know ....dont throw baby with bathwater
maybe he thought if he contacted you after not being in contact for ages it would seem fake and you would think he wasnt sincere.
i would ask him wtf? maybe he has good reasons for no contact. It is really rude though and my feelings would be hurt too.
sometimes people have no idea how to respond to things like that so they avoid it. i would ask him wtf is going on
This is a general comment, not necessarily applicable to your specific situation, but: I am sick of being "phased out" by people with no explanation whatsoever. AFAIK I have never done anything as insensitive as your friend, but maybe he doesn't realize he's being insensitive, and when friends just disappear with no explanation, it is very frustrating to try to figure out whether it is a miscommunication or whether they are intentionally ditching you. In fact, if you hide from him, he is likely to try even harder to contact you, at least for a while, because he has no reason to think you don't want to talk to him, unless you give him one. I feel that you owe it to him to at least "tell him off" or say "I don't want to talk to you anymore." How do you expect him to learn his lesson if you don't?
Seeing as you almost died it is bad that some of them didn't made the effort to see if you were ok but some see it as a private, family situation. Personally I would visit any friend that was hostpitalized and give them support but thats just me. I wouldn't cut a m8 off for not visiting me in hostpital though. I only like to have a laugh with them anyway. I wouldn't want a guy buying me grapes and getting all emotional lol. Obviously if he was hostpitalized he wouldn't expect you to vist him either, your not a married couple just friends
