Dumb mistake, lost best friend

My best friend's boyfriend was one of my good friends for a long time. He went to jail and during that time, they broke up. I always told her he's cool as a friend, but he's a horrible bf. Well, he got out on Thursday and we drank...a lot... to celebrate. I ended up having sex with him, not even thinking about her cuz I was drunk and they weren't dating.

Later that night I was partying with her, but not him and she started saying how she liked him still and wanted to fuck the shit out of him and all. I didn't tell her what I had done, tho.

Somehow, she found out last night and is PISSED at me now, both for doing it and for not telling her. We were the best of friends and I guess Im the one who fucked up, but I don't wanna get all sappy or ask her to forgive me. I also don't wanna fight. I don't know what to do.

Any advice?

 

I asked a girl who was basically my best friend out in college, and it turned out she had a boyfriend... I was worried she would freak out, but she didn't - but I did. I tried really hard to remain her friend, but after college she eventually stopped answering my e-mails. I don't really know what happened, but I also feel like I lost my best friend.

Often there is nothing you can do, other than start looking for new friends. I hate to be the bearer of bad news... I do hope she will forgive you, but don't count on it.

I'll be your friend if you want.

 

She and her friends (who were mine, too) keep calling and texting me threatening to beat my ass and talking all this shit. We had a close group and this sucks. But its starting to piss me off-they have seriously called over 20 times in the last hour. Like Im gonna sneak out to get jumped, seriously.

 

We were the best of friends and I guess Im the one who fucked up, but I don't wanna get all sappy or ask her to forgive me

ummmm.....why is it so hard to admit to her that you were wrong and to make your apologies...yes they werent going out, but someone's ex's are off limits, unless of course your group has specifically discussed it...
tell me, how would you feel in her situation

 

OK, I have yet to understand why, once a woman has been intimate with a man, he's expected to be "hers" and "off limits" to all her friends, when they break up or are otherwise not together. Even if they hate each other.

Why not just urinate on him to leave your "mark" and be done with it?

 

lol...that's really funny
You're right,it doesn't make alot of sense that once someone has been with a person,that person is off limits. It's not just a thing women do though,men are just as bad. While I agree that it doesn't make much sense,I still wouldn't ever get with a guy one of my friends had dated. Just out of respect for my friend,and not to mention I would feel uncomfortable with it anyways.

Maybejusthappy...you'll have to atleast talk to your friend about it,and tell her you're sorry that it happened,if you are sorry. She may forgive and forget,or she may not....but if you want any chance of salvaging the friendship,talk to her.

 

Ahh, the lure of an asshole! Hard to resist isn't it, hmmm? He got out of jail and, hey, you had some beers...with him....without his girlfriend.....and, hey, guess what happened?

What happened was precisely what you wanted to happen, so PUHLEASE don't make out you were swept up in the moment. You're an idiot. Don't do it again or you'll lose friends as well as your self respect once this has happened to you a few times, which it will.

What do you think his opinion of YOU is, right now? Think REALLY hard. (Trust me, I used to be one BIG son of a bitch asshole when I was much younger, and women LOVE it; it's staggering the power it has over women, BUT you equally lose respect for these same women....FAST).

He'll be thinking something like this...... 'man, what a dumb, easy bitch! I been out for a few hours and she drops 'em over a few beers! How many am I gonna nail by the end of the week?"

Get an education......FAST. Learn to spot an asshole, how his 'attractive' aspects are dubious and always dispropportinate to his faults (which you ALREADY knew, I quote you: 'I always told her her he's cool as a freind, but he's a horrible bf)......FAST. Learn to realise you can easily put an 'edge' on a regular guy, but you will NEVER change an asshole, but he can change YOU....as he's already done, you silly cow. Don't EVER 'betray' your friends - which is EXACTLY what you did - over an ASSHOLE, let alone a regular dude! Friends are one of life's real treasures, and you've already lost one for a QF. Get some respect for yourself......FAST>

 

bahahahaha....how very true...its still an unwritten thing amongst friends. thank god all my friends are married and those that arent, i am in no way attracted to their men.