ok, new boyfriend prefers giving rather than recieving in the bedroom immensely. to the point where he refuses any pleasure. all his previous gf's never offered to pay him any "attention" so hes never recieved before. hes still a virgin, and im not gonna push him etc. but i was wondering, do i sit back and enjoy his efforts? or do i try and make him see how gr8 recieving can be? im bettin all u gals will be telling me to count my lucky stars, but i feel guilty and selfish.... agh help!
if you only take from him and never give, your relationship will be karmically unbalanced. that's not something you want, ultimately.
I'd make a deal with him that you get to try it on him at least once if he wants to keep going down on you, or a minimum of every other week or something like that. Take it really slow, have fun, tease a little, but make sure that night is ALL about him when you get around to it. and kivey, welcome to the internet, at least this was very readable.
AHH you have to tell him how you feel girl!! talk to him about WHY he doesnt want oral sex.. Tell him that you feel guilty about recieving and not giving... i wouldnt ever be able to recieve and not give..
Count your blessings and be grateful that your boyfriend is so willing to put your pleasure before his own. Too many guys are wrapped up in their egos to give a damn about anybody's pleasure but their own. You're right not to push him. Give him time. As you said, he's still a virgin in that he's never received pleasure. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him about it; it can't hurt. -- Skeeter
