i came across a REALLY SHY guy....

fair enough ...

look in my gallery... do you think im ugly??
now im all concerned hahaha

 

Tell it from your point of view not a "guys" point of view.





ShadowDreamer (sp?) you are not ugly. You are very sexy. (of course, you knew that)

 

i dont feel that way...







anyways.. i hope that this guy will open up to me eventually... you never know.. i always go for the loud bad boys (they always break my heart)... and he seems different. ...

 

You aren't ugly at all!

SOmetimes I hate small talk, especially when people ask me about what I do for a living or when I was in school what my major was....sounds like maybe you tried some other things too...but speaking from experience when girls (or guys really) have come up to me and rattled off those types of questions I'm just trying to get away from them as soon as possible.

 

nah, youre alright
screw

 

i didnt only ask thoughs questions lol.
i asked about his trip to AUS, Thiland, and south east asia...
I asked about his roomates, his dog... lotsa stuff haha

 

I'm like that at parties all the time. I'm just nervous and uncomfortable. The only way I could ever feel comfort was if my best friends were around me. Since he didn't know ou, it would still make him shy. That's how I would be anyway.

 

I was extremely shy when I was in high school. . . So shy, in fact, that by today's mental-health standards, I could have been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder (SAD).

I was a loner in the extreme, in part because I was paranoid about anybody finding out that I liked guys as well as girls and getting beaten to a pulp (I didn't come out of the closet until I was in college) and in part because I was already bullied out of pursuing a girl in my freshman class whom I had a crush on. Why? Because she was white and I'm black (It was 1968 and my high school was ripped apart by black-vs.-white racial fighting after Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated).

The possibility exists that the boy you had problems "breaking the ice" with is a loner or even has SAD. Or he could be gay and is terrified of "coming out," as I was. The worst-case possibility -- and it saddens me to mention this, but in the wake of Columbine, I must -- is that he could be another Dylan Kleibold with a serious anger-management problem; a ticking time bomb ready to explode.

If I were in your position, I would talk to a school counselor.

-- Skeeter

 

how would i do that??
im not in school ha

 

I had that problum when i was younger about 15 now i'm 22 now you can't shut my mouth hey try to warm him up i know it took me awhile to talk to girls..Try this talk about a subject that he wants to talk about and another thing try to talk to him one on one that might work i don't know i just gave you afew idea try them ok

 

i just thought of this before when me and my best friend were talking about insecurities in general...

like the above guys idea of talking to him one on one... But instead make note of who his tight knit group of friends are. Then when u notice him off to the side with a couple of his closer friends, then go in and try for the kill... lol. But seriously my friend and I stumbled across the idea that you feel more open and less selfconcious when your introuced/ or get to know a new person when it's part of a small group. and within the small group are already people that u know fairly well. so it's like u have a sorta bridge between them, and another person to participate in conversation.

 

well, if this is you,


and the guy is like me, pretty quiet, than you TERRIFIED him.
girls like you, scare the crap out of guys like me and him.

give him time, and unless you get a notion otherwise [like he's married/has a girlfriend/is gay] than flirt shamelessly. if he's like me, he wont get it still. seriously, you could push him into a chair, and give him a lapdance, and he'd still be unsure if you were interested.

just keep tryin, give him time...

 

loud bad boys are usually douches... especially if you find them in bars...

 

haha im too young to enter bars...

 

............. I don't ever want to go in any bar.

 

I'm a pretty quiet guy myself. If he's anything like me, you'd probably find yourself feeling pretty damn amazing if an intimate encounter came to pass.

 

I would love for that to happen :&... there is somthing about this guy... I dont know what it is... but I like it..

 

lol ditto

I'm pretty quiet too btw, doesnt mean I'm not confident though...

 

Originally Posted by Trotsky311

if he's like me, he wont get it still. seriously, you could push him into a chair, and give him a lapdance, and he'd still be unsure if you were interested.



REALLY??? thats nuts... I wouldent be confident to do that, but yea i get your point...

 

you were hanging around him, when his friends were around, right?

interrogate one of his friends, find out the guy's story. if next time you're out around him, and like I say 'flirt shamelessly', and he still hasn't asked for your number or such, just write it down right when you or he is leaving, give it to one of his friends, and make sure it gets passed along.

that happened to me once, and guys like me need all the help we can get