Do you like it when old men look you up and down?

i think whoever one is phisicaly conversing with ones words , energies and gestures should be vibing affirimitave and not demeaning or objectifying .....if i feel percieved otherwise ,,,,it discomforts me ...

 

NO! Ugh, hell no, it's gross and nasty. I'm sorry, but I've had to deal with leers and extremely inappropriate comments from older men for three years now (hurrah for working in the public) and aside from saying you're going to run to hte back of the store, there's nothing you can really do. It's disgusting. The worst part is, I keep getting this feeling that they're hitting on me because I'm overweight, thye think I must be desperate enough to want to fuck a 50+ year old. Repulsive.

that all said, there is a difference between a nice glance, and a leer. Glances are inevitable, I barely even notice them. Leers are what gross me out.

 

I don't mind it as long as that is as far as it goes...i enjoy my boyfriend's rare moments of protectiveness

 

oh yea, christianity always means pedophiles doesnt it? damn hippy

 

well they are guys too, just older ones. if they look all creepy when they do it, tyhan i get uncomfortable , but same goes with young guys too. Sometimes they take it too far, the other week I had I guy tell me he'd buy me a house and leave me all his money when he died if I had his kids! hes like: " Im rich you know, Ill do it"...thats too far..

 

If its no more than a glance, I'm fine, but if anyone over 23 or 24 looks me over I find that scary, seeing as it makes me think 'pedophile'... If anyone younger than that looks me over though it makes me feel happy and flattered! ^_^

 

(Sigh!) Dare I ask -- How old is "old" to you? Given the fact that I've been on the receiving end of unwanted attention by older men when I was your age -- and now I'm an "old fart" myself -- I'm rather conflicted by the subject matter of this thread.

-- Skeeter

 

No, I don't like it when old dudes leer at me.

 

If "thriving off the dream" that one day you'll castrate a man isn't crazy, then I'm compelled to ask you what I freely admit is a rude question (One that I normally wouldn't ask):

If you're not crazy -- and/or you're a lesbian -- why on Earth would you want to castrate a man (unless he sexually assaulted you)?

-- Skeeter

 

i dont like it when guys who are old enough to be my father check me out for a while. its just creepy and pathetic. yeah a quick glance is ok but after a few seconds they should just decide to buy a playboy magazine, go home, and spank it. i hate it when they make comments too. i was in the mall once when i was around 14 and this guy who was probably 45 came up to me and asked my name and who i was there with. i tried to walk away from him but he kept following me around and asking my name. eventually i found my mom and when he saw her he ran off somewhere

 

I don't like it when guys my own age look me up and down. that's rude. a glance is one thing, but seeing guys strain their necks to get a good look is really rude.

as for the comments- dont even get me started. I walk to work a lot and every day guys hang out of their cars and scream things at me. how much do I hate that? let's put it this way- I've been in court more than once for breaking car windows with a rock

really guys, do you think I'm going to run after your car begging you to date me? oh yes, you really won me over with you yelling and beeping the horn.

 

Why are priests all such child molesters?

Something can't be right there. I'm a Christian and I don't have any inclination to molest a woman, let alone a child.

Is it just when you become a priest you turn bad?

 

when a guy does a double take, it is flattering, but ogling can be creepy!

 

Older men (at 39, me among them) should know that comments and oogling are nothing less than harrassment. That's wrong, of course. But it's also hard not to realize that when you dress in a lot of todays more revealing styles, you have to expect looks (appreciative, condemning, appropriate or not) from everyone. When I see someone 20 something in jeans and a teeshirt I never give it a second thought. But capris cut below your hips with your belly ring showing... I'm looking. I'm not gonna stare, or comment, or blow the horn or hang out the window. That's very wrong. But if someone noticing you offends you, it only makes sense to be less noticable. It only makes better sense still that you wouldn't be dressing that way if you didn't want to be noticed. And knowing some people haven't grown up and can't act thier age, you have to expect it to happen.

 

All christians priest have that right. Let me explains how it works , your sin 6 days a week . Then on sunday you are forgiven for those 6 days . Monday comes and you have a whole new 6 days to sin again. This have been going on for the last 2000+ years.

 

To clarify my emphatic "no" earlier, it's the leer up & down like you're a piece of meat they're evaluating that I have a problem with, everyone glances at other people. And age doesn't matter to me.

As for the comments above, I would take "you are a beautiful dancer" as a compliment because he is commenting on my actions. I also have no problem with comments on my eyes -- he damn well better be looking at my eyes when he's talking to me. The problem comes in when the comment comes from someone who is not such a gentleman, especially when he's too focused on some other body part to even notice the eyes.

 

So maybe the real issue isn't the age of the person gawking, but rather their actions and whether or not they are behaving "as gentlemen". I would wonder about someone who thought inappropriateness from someone closer to their own age is okay. But aren't "inappropriate" comments made in this forum? And accepted as compliment? I can understand that it isn't the same. I mean, it could be much more personal and offensive when you are face to face. The net is basically annonymous...