well i have been going out with this girl for about six months everthing was fine until she got these new friends. she has been partying and not inviting me and not answering her phone until she gets home which wasnt one day until 11:00am. i dont know what to do. i am thinking of breaking it off but i really love her and am so easy to forgive. Everytime i bring up something that bothers me about her like that, she attacks me with the stuff i have done which isnt any where close to what she has done. anyone has any advise
invite her out with some of your friends. give her plenty of notice, maybe 2 weeks in advance so she can't say "but you never told me". then next time she goes out she'll probably invite you
why don't you try talking about it with her, rather than breaking up because she wants to go out a lot lately? I don't know about your girl for sure, but personally I'd rather go dancing with my galpals than with a bf, because girls are a lot more fun to dance with. Some things are friends-only activities, and some things are bf-only activities. TALK TO HER!
ahaha... smart me, I usually dont' read the last sentence or two. Not enough caffeine yet. I guess I'd still try to sit her down and ask her to listen without speaking, and lay out why it's hurting you, ask why you can't join in the partying fun, what's going on with her. Try and say what you can without letting her respond until you're done, so it doesn't turn into a bickering match.
Of course I can't say for sure, but if she's avoiding you like that it sounds as though she may not be too interested, or looking around unfortunately.. Especially the way you say she gets defensive when you try to talk about it.. It doesn't seem she would have reason to avoid talking about it like that if she wasn't trying to hide something.. If the two of you can't even discuss things with out getting agressive, I don't see any way the relationship would really work out too long term anyway. Do you know her new friends at all? Perhaps it's possible for whatever reason they don't particularly like you, and pressure her.. I don't know, just a thought..
sounds like she doesnt love u as much as u love her. If she did she wud be more considerate of your feelings.
Go out and have some fun with out her. Talk to her. But have your fun if it doesnt work it doesnt work.
sounds like you're not her number one priority right now....maybe talking to her in a civilised manner could help, if not, well, dont bother anymore.
Sorry dude but its not going to work if you ask me. It's one thing for your girlfriend to go out, which is perfectly fine. It is different for her to shadily avoid calls. Are you blowing her phone up jealously? Or just trying to call just to say whats up. If she knows you are calling to dramatize her night, she isnt going to pick up bro. On the other hand, there are plenty of girls who would consider the feelings of a jealous boyfriend over her fun at the moment because he is there when the fun isn't. Fuck dude, I dont know your situation. It has just been my experience that situations like that will not work. She sounds like she is not ready for what you are.. and by the way, I know what you are talking about when you said she brings up things you did in the past that dont compare to how she is making you feel. Thats bullshit. My advice is move on.
