That's right! 180 ugly, useless pounds! And I'm going to keep it off! And my maiden name has been restored!!! I just got a letter in the mail that my divorce is finally final! Excuse me while I jump up and down and giggle. I have been trying to divorce that turd for longer than we were together, which was a few years. I thought we were divorced for a couple of years one other time, until the child support people told me we weren't. It turned out that he had split town without signing his end of it. He knew this, but for 2 1/2 years he let me think we were divorced. Now I know FOR SURE. I had to pay for the whole thing and he hasn't paid any child support in a while. So, at least part of the financial problems are almost over. I feel like singing!!!!!! YAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!! I can hardly contain my relief and joy. I just had to share.
I feel that the joke in your thread title is questionable at best, considering the anorexia thread that is currently running in the same forum.
lol good for you!! thats good news. and especially that you're going to try and keep fit and healthy and keep off the weight.
When I wrote that I had not read the anorexia thread. It was in no way intended to have anything to do with people who struggle with eating disorders. I think of it more like having a tumor removed. The first time I thought I was divorced, I guess it was about 4 years ago, I was in a small class at a college. We were supposed to talk to the person next to us, tell them about ourselves, and then introduce the person we had spoken with to the class. I jokingly told the woman that I was talking with that I had lost 180 useless pounds and that I have two kids, but that everyone agrees that at times the younger one can seem like several, so sometimes it feels like I have seven or eight kids. When she introduced me she told the class that I had lost 180 ponds and that I had 8 kids. I guess she didn't listen very carefully. So, I had no bad intention with my joke. I hope nobody is offended. Now I have read that thread about anoerexia, but the title of it doesn't refer to an eating disorder. I had no way of knowing when I wrote that. Just let me be happy. I'm so happy. I have been through a lot of shit. This man tried to run me over with a truck when I was pregnant. He drove the car INTO the tent that our babies and I were in so that we couldn't get out. He got rid of the phone, broke the phone jack so that I couldn't replace it, and promised me that if I left him he'd kill me and my mom. Eventually, I had to sneak away, in the night, with the children, fully realizing that the decision might cost me my life. So, please, allow me some joy on this awesome day.
Oh, yes! I'm keeping it off! If I ever get married again it will be after a ten year engagemnet and a thorough background check.
I'm sorry people, but dont you think were being a bit overly pc about the anorexia thread. Yes its a tradgedy and all, but that doesnt mean that we all have tofluff about trying not to offend, when she probably isnt offended anyway. If I had cancer, I wouldnt want everyone on this forum to stop makeing any reference to it, especially if it was inadvertent.... Now in other news Levi, thats so fantastic!!!!
Well... with those kinds of results that'd have to be some powerful juice fast or whatever, hunh? But, since my, um, transformation, I do have more energy and self-confidence. If anyone is married to a violent, abusive turd, I highly recommend this program.
LOL I read the title and thought 'wow, that's a bloody good diet.' *hugs* Congrats, and yay for you. Dance and rejoice. Then go out and have an awesome life. Hope you find happiness, with someone who can treat you right, but then hey who needs a man. Good luck with whatever happens.
I had to stop in and hug you.. I know exactly how you feel..(dances for joy with you). Live your life on your own terms, sister. There is so much in store for you in your new skin. Put the old life behind you and go forward with love and light, and the experience to know and not repete. A new wardrobe is needed to compleat your trasformation. The "New You" look will help break bonds that bind you into a pattern set. Perhaps even to smudge your home and clear out any negitivity that may have gathered there. Ring your bells and release any pent up hostilities, for you have been released.!!! Brightest Blessings on your journey. SH
Thanks so much for that, Shameless Heifer. Even though I left him a few years ago, I feel like now that I'm legally free, this really is a milestone and a turning point. It's funny, because I have two sort of contradictory feelings at the same time. Partly, I feel like making a change. I have lived so long with this burden. He was so controlling, and the divorce took so long partly because he wanted to continue to do that, to drag it out, etc. Part of me feels like, "YAY! I'm free! I want to make some kind of visible, symbolic change to mark this important passage." And part of me feels like the battle is over and I should just kick back and do nothing for a little while and enjoy having that option. I think the smudging is a good idea. Cleanse my space. I feel so liberated. It feels so good to have my own space and do things my own way in my own home. I don't think I could ever take that for granted again. No more tiptoeing around trying not to piss off the irrational drug addict. I can just have a peaceful home. Friends and family wonder why I'm not in a hurry to get serious with anyone, after leaving my ex a few years ago. I just really enjoy my freedom. Thanks for the positive thoughts.