Why Do Kids Have to Suffer During a Relationship Breakup??

Sometimes when two people break up or divorce the one that has been wronged will not let the other see his or her child. Why does this happen?

 

Because people are selfish.

 

pure pettiness...one person taking out their own hurt and anger on an innocent child, or trying to poison their child against the other parent. it is infinitely selfish and stupid, but people do it all the time...it really pisses me off...parents really should learn to at least be civil to each other for their children's sake. let their child know that even though they don't love each other anymore, they love their child enough to at least get along so their child can have a peaceful life and a good relationship with each parent. joint custody is a beautiful thing.

 

my mom tryed to do that to my dad

 

So, did she succeed?

 

nope

 

I was fortunate enough to have two parent who, though divorced, still cared about each other and my siblings. And I lived with my mom most of my childhood. The only problem I have with most joined custody cases is that the child begins to feel like property, not a human being. They have almost no choice but to go to the other parent's house at the end of the week. They can't spend another few days with one parent, they have to go to the other's. I don't like that.

 

Judging from my own experience with two childhood divorces (and this is just my opinion, please don't flame) it is because the inability to be a good spouse tends to go hand in hand with the inability to be a good parent.

They weren't smart enough to avoid a marriage they couldn't deal with and they weren't smart enough to avoid children they are ill-equipped to nurture. While an amicable, rationally arrived at divorce may be possible, I suspect it is far more often the result of emotional problems the divorce will not cure and which impair parental skills as well.

 

but i think it's wrong to completely deny the other parent to see their child (and deny the child of seeing their other parent) in at LEAST the form of visitations...unless the other parent is dangerous or abusive.