Okay. I've been curious for a long time how common it was for people to make steady eye contact while having sex. I think I have a small bit of intimacy issues and can't look at my partner while he's on top of me for more then a few seconds at a time. Yet most of the time when I opened my eyes, most of my partners where watching my every facial expression intently. I find it not so hard to do if I'm on top. I'm not quite sure why that is though. Anyone else ever have similar experiences?
Weeble, wow. I find this happens too. Sometimes someone will be staring at my face so much it makes me laugh. I think cause I'm a little shy I just like having my cheek on a nice, strong, chest and fingers through my hair.
I just find looking a guy in the eyes while I'm conncected to him like that extremely intimate. If I really feel deep emotions for a guy I tend to get fairly emotional during sex and I've tried looking a guy in the eyes and nearly started crying from emotional overload. I think a lot of guys would be weirded out by their girl crying during sex even though the tears weren't a bad thing.
prsonaly i'd be touched deeply by someone i was with crying..& i probly would too and weebs u know what i think sabout your eyes..so i'd probly never take mine off yours..well not that we're gonna have sex or anything..just saying..i find that connection..that intamacy is what real love making is all about i knew 1 guy who said hed never even look at theyre faces.. didnt even care who they were....& i can tell you how empty he fel inside but i guss what your describing can go back to the more animalistic dominance/submission relationshhip.. being ontop is the more domminant..in control possition, therefore its natural to study the eyes & face to judge reaction, while the bottom possition is more submissive & averting the eyes is a sign of giving over control but thats just a random idea based on observations of animal behavior & msay not be valid
That's a possiblity. I've also thought that it might have to do with the fact that all of my relationships were one sided. Usually I felt the stronger emotions where the guy wasn't so emotionally attached. I think it might be because I wear my heart on my sleeve and making eye contact might show my partner my pure emotions. As well as the crying thing. That maybe I'd be rejected if I looked up into the eyes of a guy I loved, knowing he doesn't feel as intense emotions for me, and just started crying. That he'd see too much of my heart and soul. I don't think I could stand that type of rejection. It'd probably break me.
perhaps thats self defeatting..& the guys your with never gt to see the true you..make that emotionall/spiritual connection you seek maybe if you bare your soul when you bare your body the relationship will be more real & more fulfilling for you both
i have problems looking at them in the eye too. but olately with my newest lover I've been slowly developing that security
I feel the exact same way, I'm afraid to show my true, deep emotions for fear that they'll be rejected, and I feel vulnerable.
it's hard to do, but i find the connection you get from looking someone right in the eye is a huge turn on. it's weird but i find that the eye contact can be more intimate than the sex, like it helps elevate it from straight fucking to something more emotional. Especially if it's prolonged contact, wow, intense
