a blow to my self-esteem

i recently recieved a massive blow to my self esteem, and if i dont blow off some steem ill be torturing myself with it forever. i know it sounds like something from a stupid teen-flick, but i was stood up for prom. for one thing, i am the dateless wonder, i guess guys find me unatractive. so when my friend told me she found a date for me i was estatic! she told me he would call me, so i waited to buy the tickets until he did. (foolishly i already bought the dress) well, a day or two went buy-no phone call. one day she told me that he decided to go with this other girl instead of me, after saying yes to me. i felt horrible-i still do. that was my senior prom! i didnt get to go to my junior prom bc my dad was in the hospital, and now i missed my senior prom. i watched that made ep. on mtv with that punk girl who gets made into a prom queen and cried my eyes out. i feel shallow for feeling this way about missing prom, but i just wanted one fun night to remember high school.

 

i feel bad for u man, like you only get one prom and its supposed to be like a huge thing. but you still have ur whole life, and prom isnt like the best thing in the world. think about the other times u had w/ friends. be happy!!

 

thanks for the love forest! but its not as much the prom that bothers me as it is being stood up.

 

Try to get some people from your highschool together to do something fun, like play spades. Then when you think back on your highschool years, you wont remember prom, but the fun you had spending time with people. Really, all the porm is is a bunch of people in dresses and suits, not a bunch of fun. Those people are still there for the most part. Prom could have been fun, but you don't need to dress up and have a boy dance with you to have a good night from highschool.

Your too young to not be attractive, almost anything you do to yourself at that age pretty much you will be. Your probably just too shy, but I wouldn't know.

The television show you watched was made that way for you and others like you to watch and go dfewre because it feeds off your emotions right? Then you see something on the commercials you might buy later. That is really the entire point of t.v. So never listen to television or feel bad watching it, because all television is is something to get you to buy things. Its lies, basicly. Lifetime is a good example.

I'd recommend you take a walk, that made me feel better some today. The prom is overrated, its the people you want.

Edit: Thats you in your sig, yes you are attactive.

 

Society has a huge influence on how we think and feel about things, so it's not really shallow to feel the way that you do.

All of us are products of our programming, even those who flee into the mountains and try to live free of the system...they still carry that programming with them.

The only thing I can think of to say is that you can always do the yearbook thing (which is more permanent anyway) and that many people in and out of the mainstream either missed their proms or had really crappy ones.

You missed one event that society tells us is supposed to be special and uniquie, but with a little care and luck you'll be on this planet for another seven decades, and you'll have other momentous occasions to live through, both mainstream (graduating college if you go, your first job) and some unique to just you, yourself (travelling, perhaps; mystical insights or experiences.

It sucks in the short term, but there are other ways to commemorate your high school experience and you'll have other large (even larger!) experiences ahead of you.

 

ooooo that bites. All you can do is realise that it's quite literally their loss.

 

Your right about programming. People are being programmed and they don't even realize it. Anybody can be programmed.

 

IMHO, the trick is to learn where you're programmed and then work around that, if you're able to (or how to live with it if you can't.

By being alive in our society, we're constantly bombarded and programmed by the values of the society we live in; killing your tv helps, but doesn't stop it.

 

This is one of those situations I think in which it is GOOD to remember the world often doesn't operate according to any rules that make sense.

It sucks, but not because you are ugly (I would most certainly enjoy taking you out) but because your date was a jerk. He is screwed up in the head if he thinks that is an okay thing to do (sadly there are a lot of people who are screwed up like that, but it doesn't make it okay!). Nobody needs a date like that.

Not to be insensitive, but look on the bright side: its better you realized what a tool he is now than having developed a relationship with him. Who knows how unpleasant it might have been as you discovered that you were at your prom with a selfish jerk!

Trust me there are decent guys out there, but to meet them you have to ask them out yourself!

And thank you for sharing this, because you helped me to realize that I should take my own advice on such matters.

 

i find you very attractive minus all the face goo. i was actually getting ready to comment about it in another thread where you posted the other day, but i hesitated like i so often do posting around pretty girls on this forum, ha ha

and i think lizardman is onto something. being a dork in highschool would have been fun probably, i was just sordove a stumbling dope like everybody else not quite sure where i wanted to go or where i was going. i could have totally dug on some d and d in some losers basement while all the other fools were being fools at prom, lol. dorky friendships are the truest and by far the most rewarding i would imagine, the only real friendships i bet a lot of people would claim....

and whoever said your influenced to feel this way is probably right too, its totally natural to feel like you are unfortunatley. in the next couple months though, i bet if you come back and read this post you will think you were totally caught up in yourself for no real reason...

 

Prom was just like any other party except I wore a tux instead of comfortable clothes, smoked big fat cuban cigars instead of cigarettes, drove a mercedes instead of a jeep, and drank scotch instead of bottom shelf whiskey. and by the end of prom, my date hated me, hah.

 

Think about it... it wouldn't have been a fun night. Were the ingredients really there? You've been saved i reckon.

 

I went to my senior prom with my cousin, who was on probation for dealing A. We got special permission for him to be out that night, had my mom's badass GS super sport, and left the prom right after the pictures for some tripping out in the woods. The prom was dullsville, with alot of 'cool' people trying to impress each other with their outfits and the table they were sitting at.


You didn't miss anything - you'll have alot more fun dressing up for your wedding or whatever in the future.

And beauty is in the eye of the beholder and *I'm just saying* all in your school must be blind.


P.S. drummingmama - I love the fact you gave your dress to a drag queen. Right On!

 

You're muay-muay-sexy! ::growl and stuff:: Prom is only as cool as the people you go with.. and if this toolbag has the audacity to stand someone up, than he certainly wouldn't of been much fun to be around.

You're got beeautiful eyes!

Gimme this kid's name and address. I'll judo chop his face off.

 

You know, I think you are beautiful, and one day you are going to find someone who will make you feel ten times better than any dumb guy could have at prom. I was at my prom for 20 minutes and we left, the build up is way more than it should be. But believe me, you'll be able to move on and not be bitter, but if you ever see the guy that was suppost to call you....grrr. haha

 

*blush* thanx guys, i feel much better now! (ive never gotten so many compliments before!) and yes stranger, i know my makeup looks like goo, it was late at night when i took that pic and my makeup was all smudgy-not a very good pic lol.heehee youve all made me happy =^.^=

 

I have no idea why you're dateless.
You're absolutley BEAUTIFUL!

 

hey hun, dont worry about prom, i was ditched also, and you know it didnt really matter as much to me as it did to you, but take this for what its worth, prom is a night ware cool kids jocks and the cutie lil skanky girls shine, and kids like us hide in the corner and wait for them to open the locks on the doors, (or so i was told) but that night i went to a little party at my friend phishy's house got high, drank some beers and played hacky sac listening to the dead, and u no i had more fun than sittin in a big room of people who think im a dork for the clothes i wear, listening to g unit or eminem, not a loss at all

*PeAce & LoVe*