The Virutes of being single

Right. Mihgt have to edit this tomorowo coz, not sobre.

What excatly is it that makes being so single sto briliant?
People saiy: yu are young, you don;t wanna be tied down at you age.
Why not?! What is sogood about being aloine? Converesely, what iks so hood about being in a reliationship?

 

hehehehe good question. i often wonder the same thing...dont worry i'm not sober either!!! i guess most people who say that are older adults that are married or have been and you know, they were in your shoes at one point in your life and realise that life when you're young is so less complicated and that also might refer to relationship commitments...they might say hey enjoy your single life cos you're free to do whatever you cant when you're a in committed relationship!!

just rambling

 

im not yuong anymoree. im 22 in septembre.

 

i'm 22 in october, but that doesnt make me old.....yet

 

Being single frees you up for loving lots of ladies/lads when ever you wish.
Being in a relationship does not stop this, just increases your phone bill ten fold.

 

Woah. So I didn't dream this. How embarasing. Never mind.

It seems to me that lots of people extol the virtues of being single, but never actually reveal what is so great about it. Being single really only leaves you free to spend a lot of time looking for somebody nice so that you can stop being single.

And yes, I feel old, because I refer to people under 19 as kids.
I will say no more, and I hope nobody else does, so that this thread can sink like a stone.

 

bah drunken threads should never be forgotten!!!

 

You've got a very good point there. I am the only one among my close girl friends who is single. To avoid letting that affect me, I often brag about being single to them, and tell them how great it is to be free to do whatever. But who am I kidding? I'm always subconsciously looking out for someone to end my singledom at the end of the day. So people who say being single allows them to go out and do whatever they want...surely that means "I can go out and meet a thousand new people and pick someone out of them to start a relationship with."
Crikey, my friends have got it sorted, they don't have to go through all the fuss of looking anymore!

 

Being single... is good?

Being single helps you, if your willing to build you as a person. When your young your so damn impressionable when you get in a relationship sometimes your so involved you don't know where you end and where they begin - this for a while is wonderful, but then its painful to. When your single you learn what you like and what you dislike, you choose where you go, who you go with and you don't have to be concerned about anyone else but yourself.

Whilst i agree this is also nice, caring for someone, taking into consideration their dislikes and likes. It's good to be single, because you work out who you are without any interuptions. Ofcourse relationships can shape you too, i'm not denying that. But being single, knowing you can be alone and be alright and happy is important too. Something we all need to learn, being single... is alright, being single doesn't make us any less of a person. It makes us more of a person, builds character, you find yourself alone and you enjoy it. You go out, you flirt, you meet people you may not have met were you not single. Being single is fabulous, you learn so much, so much so that one day when you settle into a relationship, when you feel older and wiser things feel better and make more sense and you are a seperate person, part of a pair you don't become so overly involved in that person you do know who you. You do know, becuase you know yourself alone. Well... thats what i'd choose to believe, myself.

But hey, no one likes to be alone for to long. I guess i to am subconsiously looking i suppose, but i never am aware of thinking "i hate singledom" or maybe i do. I guess i miss the closeness, the hugs, the general day-to-day crap, like how they like their coffee, where they are most ticklish and that feeling when your walking down the street and you just remember the daftest thing they said to you once weeks ago that makes you laught or smile and you just know everyone else things your completely insane!

But i fully feel being single is good for people who are young, who are so idealist, so easily effect, so broken hearted, so easy to fall in love.. and so unaware of who they are. I suppose do we evere know, its only through people we learn it on the other hand.

(look at me arguing with myself again)

I think i'm going to stick with single is good, helpful and not really all that bad. But so is a relationship. Bah.... Both.

 

Totally agree with you Dandy. Except...I am older and wiser now, know exactly who I am (on most days!), and am starting to feel that maybe I've missed the boat! I know that this is a ridiculous notion, and that as soon as I stop looking for that special someone, that special someone will find me.

Seriously, is it normal for a 21 year old to feel like their life is almost over and that they've missed out on it all?!

 

Come off it 21 is not exactly old huh! youve probably been through more relationship wise than most of us will have by 21? Having been engaged and all that. So you may not have someone at this precise moment but at least you have the confidence experience brings from past relationships.


Maybe the Whitefriars ale house isn't the best place to be looking for women either lol

 

Hahahaha! From what i understand, when your young its the time to experiment but as you get older, other things being to prioritised and the places you meet the opposite lessen! Its harder to meet people, people just think that and sort of put a cork in the possibilities of finding someone they think - i don't go to bars/clubs any more, i'm to tired or busy - well they should make the time if they wish to meet people!

You Kristen, sound like an old fart! Hehehe, have you honestly put much thought into finding a person? Do you reeally go up and chat to people regularly?
Have you looked at the reasons relationships have ended in the past, cos if you've had a lot of them maybe theres a reason they haven't lasted. - just a thought.

 

I think both single and not being single have their precious times... I love it all the way it be at the mo And I always will

 

Ello Miss, whats so precious about Johns smelliness aye? hehehe do tell!

 

Well, thanks so much everybody for not allowing me to forget this stupid thread!

 

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bwahahaaha.... granpa kristen!

 

Hey!!! No using my real name...ah man...now everybody know's I'm a loser......dammit!

 

i see what you're saying dandy, but i've always been single, and to be honest i'm sick of knowing myself. i hate being alone.