How do you know you're truly in love after being with someone for 25+ years? Just because the number of years full of "wonderful" memories is so high, it doesn't necessarily mean you're still in love or that you ever were. It's comfort. What do we look for - comfort or love? I think, in the beginning, true love is what we're looking for, lust is what we find, and comfort is what we settle with. How would you not know if this person is there in your life just so you can have a witness? Someone who knows your exuberantly high ups and your extremely low downs, someone to be there to keep you company because you yourself are not enough.. someone to know you. Do they? Unfortunately, it's not intelligence they contain, due to the lack of their speculation of your demeanor. Supposedly, analyzing is not one of the "keys" to a healthy relationship. It's knowledge rather. They know only what they see. Personally, I get more out of thinking than feeling. Mental stimulation is the key with me. But others are different. I like to overanalyze someone's every action made and every word spoken to try and figure out whether or not this person will have an impact on my life and if I should waste my time because, in the end, I don't want my time to be wasted on someone's heartbreak. How come seemingly everyone's goal in life is to find true love and/or love someone and be loved in return? Whether it's real or not, the word "love" is used too freely. The irony in that is there just so happens to be so much hate around us. Seriously though... where is the love? How do you know if it's real? How do you know your mind isn't manipulating you into another infatuation resulting in a broken heart?