How do you know if your gay?

This is probably a stupid question you get all the time but
How did you know that you were gay?

I can admire a man's body for being well constructed, even recognized that I wouldn't mind getting a blowjob from a guy but I just don't feel the same exitement as when I look at girls. Sometimes I wonder if people even are gay/straight/bi or just going with what is convenient.

Perhaps you could try to describe for me the sensation then of being gay?

 

People are all polymourphus (sp?) perverse; meaning that even though we have strong inclinations towards one gender or the other, we could still find ourselves fucking anything given the right set of circumstances.

I wondered for years if I was gay or bi, and then I gave up once I hit a certain point of disgust and alienation regarding the gay community and the question ceased to matter; so I'm not sure how it feels to be 100% gay. I will say that if you feel a strong pull to have sex with men, you'll know it; and if you don't feel it as a strong pull, it's probably just the poly perversity rearing it's hormonal head telling you that you need to get off with someone in the flesh.

 

It's really hard to "know;" it's more of a feeling. I first was attracted to a man (which, would be considered homosexual according to my anatomy); but not for his body. His spirit is what I found interest in. I found myself physically attracted to a woman when I was 7; I found that she was very interesting. She moved away after that schoolyear; but that was the first time I felt physical attraction.

Of course, I still get those urges. I never follow through with them, though; unless I have an interest in the person.

 

isn't it the same sensation as being straight? except if ur gay the love object is the same sex and not the opposite one. remember how u felt when u first fell in love? well that's the sensation. recall the first time u ejaculated over somebody? that is 2. 'gay' is first n 4most a social identity i think (it only really existed as a separate identity in our culture after oscar wilde). be4 'gay' ppl were flexible and uncategorised. i think they still are but nowadays there's a social image and/or stigma attached 2 being 'gay' and more labelling goes on. there's also an argument that being gay is determined by the brain and its chemistry (there was a good thread here about that) but is this neurology a response 2 changing social conditions or the cause of it, noone knows.

 

I'm not sure I would call it a "sensation." I've always been exclusively attracted to men. I can recognize that a woman is attractive, but it's not a sexual thing at all.

 

proberly when u wanna shag someone of the same sex - thats normally a big clue

 

u'd think so. but i remember a guy who was being fucked up the arse by a cock, had one in his mouth and another in each hand telling me he was straight, so i dunno.

 

was it u?

 

do u mean (a) was it me, the guy saying i was straight?... hardly darrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrling. i'm more of a realist, or (b) u were the guy who told me he was straight? my guy didn't have tits.

 

"not straight" is different than being gay. Especially once you factor in the different social, (sub-)cultural and emotional factors (who you fuck is often not who you want to be with).

 

You might be a gay IF:

(wemon stop reading now)

1. You want to suck someone's cock and taste his sperm and swallow it
2. You want to put your penis into a male person's ass
3. You want someone to put his penis into your ass
4. You want to spell another guys armpits and/or penis
5. You want to rub your penis with someone elses, and use lubricant to jack you and your buddies penis's off at the same time.
6. You want to dry hump a guy.
7. You want to massage another guy

 

and who said men couldn't multi-task..

 

If there is someone of the same sex who you just can't get out of your mind, you're probably gay. If you feel that way only about someone of the same sex, you're definitely gay. You're bisexual if you feel that way about people of both sexes.

If this doesn't help, bear with me. I've got somebody...oops, something...else on my mind at the moment.

 

Same as what you feel for a woman, is what a gay man feels for another man. Only he fantacises about ramming the other hole to you. And towards another woman, I feel like snuggling and frisking pussies.

 

let's settle down now. he needs to know.

well, just relax, don't worry so much and just go with the flow.

what makes u feel comfortable. don't worry so much. don't look at a guy and say "Hey, girls make me feel better". At the other end don't say that about guys. Just let it happen. Be kewl.

The most important thing is this: "Think about what makes u feel good after you wake up in the morning". What do you think about and why.

Just be kewl dude

BlueBong - Oh and PS; nice to meet someone that lives so close to me in Penn. Most people live like 20,000 miles from me.

 

I'm pretty sure I'm bi. I have sexual attractions to both sexes....but I guess it could be "bi-curious"...but whatever. I'm just not going to classify myself as anything, and "go with the flow"...

 

How did you know that you were gay?



When I was in bed with another man and realized for the first time how much I was digging it.

 

How do you know if you are gay? Well, I know you won't like this; but you will know. Bi, Gay when u feel good inside after a few times. Not necessarily what u loook at and say "Wow, he/she is hot" but but you wake up next to that "Someone special" and don't care if it is a him or her. That's when you will know. What age you ask; heck, who knows. When u r happy, that's the age. Don't try and label yourself until u feel deep down inside it is time to label yourself. You will know. Just give it time. Don't rush yourself. That would be the biggest mistake of all. I did not knwo for sure until I was about 25 yo. Slept with many girls and guys and well, it was the guys that made me the happiest. Not what my friends said that made me happy, but what i felt made me happy.

Give it time and it can happen at ANYTIME !!

Just be patient.

 

probably when i was in elementary school, and i had crushes on boys, or one particular example was when i was in third grade and i was at a friends house. We took a shower together, then went into his room. We were both naked, and i had an erection. We didn't really know what it meant, and he said he got them when he saw a pretty lady. I said i got them when i saw other boys naked. Niether of us knew what it meant, but i think that was definently when i started to think maybe i was different. Or i could have figured it out in middle school, when i would get online, and look at gay porn, and naked men, but still considered myself straight. I just denied that i could have been gay, and that it was normal for guys my age to look at gay porn. I dont know, I have known for a long time. It was just accepting the fact that took the longest.

 

Wow, how many different things could we say were "Our First Experiences". GEEEE, let me count them. Oups !! Can't cant that high. But they were all great and special in their own ways. Just because they were first; First ? Not necessarilay always great as first. But you don't always do something first and say "Oh, that was my first". Ok, then maybe it is. OHHHHH !! If it feels great, then let it go and enjoy it. Who cares !! Just enjoy it !!