not allowed to call my self gay anymore?

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If you feel the need to go to GLBT events then go. No one has the right to stop you if you want to show pride or support for gay people.

 

I agree with Stone completely. Now's the time I should add my own comments, but I don't think I will.

 

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Absolutely not! You have turned your back on your former lifestyle and heritage. There are no second chances. Leave! And don't turn around or you'll be transformed into a statue of salt!

 

I want to show my straight pride. Who would like to join me in a ceremonial parade?

 

So you're in love with a man and are about to marry him. Good for you! I would say that you're a bisexual like me. Only you might be more gay leaning than straight leaning. I dunno. But what I do know is this: There is an international conference on bisexuality to be held in Minneapolis this summer. It might be of some interest to you. Here's a link www.8icb.org

 

you have been shown grace to be pulled out of your confusion(if what you have now is your true love) once you find your true love then you realize that the things before was just a confused state.LOVE! i can relate because my lover used to be gay or bi. andif she were to say that she still was-that would mean to me that she doesnt feel that we were meant to be together-it give the impression that you are still holding reservations about what you truely want and feel.

 

I think that would be just fine for you to still go to the meetings and call yourself bi. I myself am in the exact same situation. I'm getting married to a man next summer and have had some friends say "well, i guess your hetero now huh?"...but I just tell them no, I'm bi, always have been, which just meant the whole time that I felt I could fall for a man or woman...that if I'd ended up with a woman for the rest of my life doesn't mean I'd be a lesbian either. I am what I am. period. So keep going to your meetings, and if anyone brings it up, tell the truth about yourself...tell them what *YOU* FEEL you truly are. If you end up feeling you were wrong, that you indeed are hetero, don't be ashamed to say that either. But also don't be ashamed to say you aren't just because you ended up falling in love with a man.

My fiance was a little hurt the first time this came up with us. But I just told him, look, I'm monogomous, I don't WANt anyone else, man or woman, you know that, so don't worry, don't feel like just because I call myself bi I'm going to want a woman too...it didn't work that way the whole time we were just dating, it won't work that way now or after we finally get married.
Dunno how your fiance is about it, but if he's like mine, he might need that little pep talk. Mine's totally fine with it now and my friends get it too now.

 

thank you!!! (especailly you cookiezgurl!!)

 

There's nothing wrong with that. The lady who outed me @ work & turned out to be a very strong ally for me as I came out again last year was very involved in GLBT things here. She calls herself bi and she just recently got married to a male. She is monogamous with him.

Up until about a year ago I spent the previous about ten years monogamous to my female wife. I was still bi all that time just not actively doing anything about it. My case is a litle different than yours in that although my wife knew she assumed that I had left it behind. I was also in the closet as far as anyone else knew or maybe I should say didn't know. :&

As has been said you are who you are. You should be proud to be you.

 

Just because you're married doesn't mean that you're refused the right to be bisexual.

 

Why is this a concern? I guess it's an over-used question; but why do you care what other people think? Of course you still have the right to consider yourself bi; you never signed a contract or anything. If you're still interested in girls or whatever, then what's the fuss?