Help yourself by letting her learn the consequences of her actions herself. Nobody responds well to preaching.
Take her to a Planned Parenthood to get birth control and some unbiased information about STDs, let her know you care and are concerned, but like BlueBong said, preaching's never well recieved. That's the best way you can help her. If she's having unprotected sex, she needs to at least be on some sort of contraception so that she won't have her life ruined before she even starts high school, but don't push. But don't sit by and watch her destroy her life. While preaching is bad, showing concern is not. Maybe she lacks attention she needs and makes up for it through boys, she may truly just need love. Just be there, let her know you're concerned, and help her get essential education about sex.
welcome to the world of women today, NIce huh! they just keep getting younger. I was younger though so no critisizm intended ....but ramona has the right Idea, my advise is to find a sweet inoccent girl and love her to death.
Let her get pregnant. It'll probably miscarriage and she very well might die. If she doesn't, lesson learned.
Not so true. This girl I knew got pregnant freshman year. She later had a miscarriage, and then got pregnant again the next year. I think that time she got an abortion, but whatever. I guess the worst part of the whole thing was that her boyfriend was using condoms every time. Must have like super-sperm or something. Jeez.
well if u cant stop her protect her. buy her condoms, even if u dont like it u cant alwase change people you can just be there for em. buy her condoms, pregnancy tests, what ever.
Are you a friend or gardian? If you're a friend, Ramona is dead on. You might also need to be a snitch (horrid label, but I'd wear it proudly to help someone I cared about) and let someone who is responsible for the girl know what's up. Hard to believe, but some parents are oblivious. If you're her gardian (and I mean this in the nicest way) get off your ass and do something about this before she hurts herself. At 13 she not a woman. She is a child. As a matter of fact, this thread belongs in the parenting forum, because that's what she needs, some good parenting. If she's strong willed, fucking be stronger. If you can't be stronger than a 13 year old child, the state can help you. I have a best friend who told me he was headed for some serious jail time until his father came and got him away from his friends with a .38 and a pair of handcuffs. Some dick wads might cry "too harsh". I think he was lucky to have someone who loved him enough to do that for him. Maybe you need to grow some balls and stand up to lil miss self destructive before she does permanent damage to herself or her life. Or worse yet gets pregnant and fucks up TWO lives. Just my opinion.
hmm. i think it's common for people to do something by accident, or be taken advantage of, which leaves them feeling like they have already compromised their purity, and its all downhill from there. once this mentality develops, it's hard to bring back a sense of self worth, and they become easier and easier to take advantage of because they have no care anymore for what they do--regardless of it's destructive or not. its like the "good idea/bad idea" light goes out. I think one of the only ways to turn this around is just honest love. maybe if she finds someone with a good head on their shoulders who cares about her and makes her feel like she's worth something again, she'll realize its not too late to take care of herself, and begin to consider her actions before she takes them again. she most likely would really rather not be doing these things, but she doesn't think it matters anymore. as the previous repliers have said: it depends what your relationship is to her. I think it all comes down to making her feel like shes got something to lose again. or just take john lennon's advice when he said "all you need is love."
hahhaa, ain't you talking about my (very very very goooood and loving) friend? Noo, she's gonna turn 18 soon, but 5 yrs ago, she was the same
Unfortunately, you're asking the wrong crowd. I have no problems whatsoever with whatever adults do so long as it's consensual and noone gets hurt. Every time I've tried to put my oar in over these issues I'm told I'm ageist, sexist, a prude, etc. so as far as I'm concerned if she won't listen, enh, AIDS'll get her, hopefully before she spawns and Darwin will be proven right again. That isn't what I hope for, it's a grim realisation of what we're facing.
i knew a girl who got pregnant in 8th grade and she actually had the baby.. she didnt learn shes still fucking every guy she sees
Or, even worse yet, gets HIV then gets pregnant, infecting the baby as well... Being her age, if you're not comfortable ratting her out to her parents, perhaps you could go to the guidance counsellor at school... It sounds like she has some self esteem issues at the very least. Of course, a solid, non-biased education about STDs, prevention, and contraception is always important... But how could she not know smoking is bad for her, yet she still does it... Would she value herself enuf to tell some guy "no glove no love", when he's telling her how hot she is and how much he wants her?
