I feel like Ive made a huge mistake. I am interested in this guy, who had given me signs he's interested to ( I think ) so I finally got up the nerve to make a move and give him my email address. But somehow since then Ive had these really bad feelings about it, like it was the wrong thing to do. I think its just my lack of confidence, but I just dont want him to treat me like Im crazy or something the next time I see him, if he isnt interested. I dont really know for sure my question...but does anyone have any input. I havent stopped thinking about it since it happened, and I just want to get it off my mind. Thanks so much. Sasha
You go girl! Sometimes guys need a girl to make the first move. It takes guts to show someone that you may be interested in them.
Hi Merenwenelanesse let me share another thought here if you don't mind. A mistake is a mistake only when you do not learn from it ... so its like you have set up a lesson to learn from instead and it is as huge or wonderful as you want it to be and only you decide that, not him or anybody else. As it is not really about the guy, but about you and your need to face and embrace the bad feelings that he has helped you to find, and let them take you to where your real questions are. And whichever way he reacts it does not really matter then, just honour him for having been part of the experience, and honour yourself for who you are, without putting yourself down ... but with a smile and knowing you are worthy ... and sometimes just crazy enough to take the risk to change.
If you're not making mistakes... you're not living life. If we sit around with our thumbs up our asses, afraid to make a wrong move... well, you might as well go ahead and crawl into that pine box now. At least you won't make any mistakes in there. 28 years ago I followed my impulse and went over and sat on this guy's lap who was sitting at the table next to mine in a bar. I thought to myself before I went over, "He's the meanest Dude I've ever seen. He'll probably dump me on the floor... Oh Well, fuck it... I'll do it." He didn't dump me on the floor... he smiled. He's still smiling today, 28 years later... we've been together since that night. If you don't take chances in this life you won't have much of a life.
thank you so much for all the kind words...I got an email from him today. So I worried for nothing. thank you all though you made me feel so much better. Sasha
....you just gave him your email--its not like you kissed him or anything--if he thinks your leading him on just tell him you wanted to be better friends or something--peace
