slit her wrists

ok dudes im drunk but i just found out my little sister who is my best friend is slitting her wrist's i dont even know what 2 do, i dont understand it or know whaqt to do, she hasnt done it deep only to 'release' her self, fuck i dont know what to do HELP xxx

 

You should sit her down and talk to her about it. Is she depressed? I know a girl I used to be friends with did that because she was depressed. Anyways, tell her how bad it hurts you (as a sis, and a bestfriend) and that you think she needs to stop. That you are afraid that she could seriously hurt herself. C'mon slitting your wrists are dangerous. Just try talking to her, if that doesn't help...I know you dont wanna resort to this but it maybe an only option. Tell you mom, or an adult that can get her some help. How old is she?

 

ok my mum knows i know she does but my sis dont wanna talk bout it, it kills me i fucking hate it, why the fuck cant she come and slit my wrists instead of hers

 

see, that is what I am saying. I know that she doesn't want to come out and talk about it. No one does. Ask her what it is that upsets her so badly that she has to resort to cutting. Thats not cool. Has you mom tried talking to her about it?

I was in a bad situation and even though I didn't think that I needed help, I was forced to go through with therapy. At the time, I thought, "this is so stupid, it's not helping me...just annoying me." But, then when they were over I felt alot better about everything. It made me look at things differently. I am not saying that you should throw her in some loony bin or nothing. Just saying that even tho she may not want help, she may need it.

When I have problems and I think that there is no hope, I put my problems in this senerio: My problems are on a beach, just a tiny grain of sand. I mean...everyones problems compared to the problems of the world aren't really that big. Tell her that senerio and how it hurts you and see her reaction. She may still put her defenses up, but try it.

 

Tell her parents to take her to get help.

 

There's not really much you can do but talk to her about it. I was a cutter for about 3 years but I just stopped recently, and honestly the only way that someone will stop is if either you help them come to the realization that what they're doing isn't helping, or they realize that themselves. Really all you can do is TRY to talk to her about it. I didn't want to talk about it with my dad but he kept insisting and eventually he helped me come to the conclusion that it wasn't helping at all. Maybe try getting a parent to talk to her about it or something. Hope it all works out...

 

ok i will try it all, the people who have done it, do u know why u did it? cause she says to release why cant she punch something, or do as other people do? i really dont get it, i think thats the part which is confusing me ohh well, cheers for the advise

 

Did it as well, not to serious though.. but for me it was to control an emotion that I couldn't vent any other way. Girls are often very internalizing when it comes to problems, not as acting-out as guys. So we don't go around hitting walls and punching stuff, we hide in a corner cutting It can be seen as selfdestructive, but for me it wasn't a 'punishment' or anything.. the blood just released emotions that crying couldn't do anymore. It had the same releaving effect as a good cry though.

Don't try to stop her, that will chase her away, because at this point this is her coping strategy. Unless she can replace it with something, this might be what she needs at the moment to help her handle life. Let her know that you are there for her and that she can tell you everything. She has no use in you freaking out over this, so try to control yourself when she tells you this. Make sure she doesn't cut too deep and the wounds don't get infected, that's the main thing you should worry about now.

For more info check: http://crystal.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

That website gives advice on alternatives as well, that you really might want to check out.

Good luck!

 

oh.. and here is another thread about cutting.. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=86789&page=1&pp=10

 

I did it because I felt it was helping me release my anger and sadness, when in reality it was just pulling me deeper and deeper into depression. I can't really say why she does it though, I guess some people have different reasons, but for the most part people do it just to release emotions because they heard that it helps and are willing to try anything.

 

"right i see it this way - u might not6 but i do ,if she is telling u about things then shes after attention - she proberly wants to be cared for and crap like that"

"thats so stupid im sorry but people who make themselfs ill on purpose just pisses me off"

-Wiggy, 7/25/05.

 

right lonelygothard this is a thread about my sister being ill and how best i should cope with it NOT for u 2 be a prick in, as i have said before i do not understand things like bullemia, slitting thats why i wrote this thread, please leave me alone. if you have said all of what u needed piss off dude

 

Lock her up for her own protection. Seriously. No joke.

 

naa i dont think locking her up for her own safety will work that well really, cause she will have to come out sometime and still have the problem.

 

That didn't have a god damn thing to do with this thread. Quit fucking harassing people you dumbfuck.

 

I did it in part to release emotions and to feel alive but also control I felt I didn’t have control over anything else, when your chest hurts from crying all night it was also a distraction one that came to feel very good.

You cant force her to stop but you can help her so she doesn’t feel the need to do it, also if she has to cut don’t do it on the wrists one slip when she’s alone and you could loose her.

 

i know i cant stop her at all, but thanks guys for ur advise its help me understand a bit, cause as i've never done it i cant quite get the idea of why people would do it. but she hasnt done it for a while and i know im not ment to crowd her or anything, but thanks guys its helped haze xxx

 

That's bullshit. I cut myself and am trying to stop and it isn't done as a suicide attempt. If you do that you will probably just piss her off more. She just needs all your love, and someone to talk to. A psychologist would be fine, not a fucking aslyum.

Kelsey

I hope everything turns out alright with your sister.

 

listen to me dear, was a cutter and this is the way it goes.

its a stage, shell be done with it in a year tops, dont bring it up with her or try to talk to her about depressing stuff, itll just get her more pissed off, let it pass, once you notice its getting of hand, then you should take action. but its really just a stage. the only thing that ever stopped me from actually doing myself in was i didnt wanna put my brothers through anything, and if your relationship with your sister is that good shell feel the same.

 

right is it like releasing yourself that way cause u cant find another way though. because seriously i have never been through it or never wanted to, i think i need to understand it more