Poor me, stupid love, stupid low libido boyfriend

hi there yall,
been dating this guy for 2 years, he was a virgin until me and at first our sex life was GREAT, we had sex 1-3 times a day when we were together and it was wonderful... this lasted most of the first year if not all of it. then kind of suddenly he started saying no more often and now we barely do it a few times a week. I am highly libidinous and I sort of NEED sex often and regularly... so this really sucks for me... for this past year we've been having lots and lots of issues on and off and this sex thing isn't helping anything. We've been having a pretty shitty time for about 2-2.5 months and I don't really know what to do... help?

 

Well, I think it's time to move on.. When the sex stops then you know something isn't right.

 

Low libido sucks.

I personally have low Test issues - but docs won't treat it.

Naturally, if I had low oestrogen I'd be given pills up the yingyang.

 

I'm gonna have to agree with that one, if he doesn't want sex and it isn't working out that great between you, move on cause something's definetly wrong

 

I've been feeling that way too but I feel kind of bad for it.. I really love him, I enjoy having sex with him sooo much... I just don't want to continue feeling so hurt sometimes... I don't want to let him age me you know?

 

damn people dont jump to conclusions. None of us can properly asses your situation, you dont have to move on just yet. comprimising pride to talk about it may be neccesary. I used to be just like that, its probably just stress eating away at his mojo, plus the arguments make it hard to be assertive when its appropriete. Sounds like a mess.........mine was, she left.........then came back and weve been playing it by ear. maybe you just need some space and a vibrator!

 

if you ARE NOT MARRIED, whats the problem? move on--personally, pity sex is not pretty at all, and just remember, if a man is really into you--you dont have to cajole him into sex---its a no brainer--

 

he's a little weird, he has deep seated issues with sex cos as a teen he got sooo turned off of it because he hated how people talked about it and acted like it was some huge deal that he burnt it into his mind that he doesn't need it and that its not important.. trouble is that it is important to me. I don't think its stress, he doesn't really have any and if the little stress we had while taking two classes this summer is stress I certainly don't want to stick around until he has a full time job with deadlines and such... I don't just want to move on...its been two years and I do love him even though he's fucked up. He's a good guy but he's also a jerk.

One scary thing is that he chooses to read than have sex with me alot of the time... and he gets irritated when I talk to him while he's reading.

 

Wow... sex is a priority in my house. If my girl hints that sex is available I stop whatever I am doing and accomodate her.

 

its terrible, I say i should be above books in his mind and he says no way... I don't get it myself...oh well?

 

That is unusual to me. I wonder what he's thinking? That book will be there forever and is available anytime he wants to pick it up. You are not. This is not a difficult thing to understand.

 

what's wrong with a couple times a week?

 

a couple should be more like a few...ie. 3 times if I'm lucky...

 

Heesh you're complaining about 'barely do it a few times a week'. That's more than what many couples do. It's not unusual for sex to be more frequent earlier in the relationship and then tapers off somewhat. A few times a week just might be his natural libido so don't take it personal.

 

I happen to have a higher "natural" libido...and so it does matter and I do take it personal...I take it personal cos he says no no no no no no no. and tells me that books are more important than making love to me.

 

btw it didn't taper off "somewhat" it went from 1-3 times a day for a year to maybe 3 times a week if I'm lucky...that doesn't seem right.