what is the best way to lose your virginity?

Hi and thanks for reading my potentially embarrassing thread.

I`m coming up on my 27th birthday, and I still have yet to indulge my very pronounced homosexual inclinations. I think this is because they disturb and frighten me, but at the same time I am not opposed to acting on them with someone not looking for a long-term commitment.

The thing is I`m extremely passive and sometimes very closed, and I also have a really difficult time not recoiling from any advances. At the same time, I am secretly very willing to take it really rough and nasty from probably just about anyone... if they were aggressive enough. Nobody really knows this, because I never show it.

My problem isn`t that I`m ugly or miserable or anything like that... I`m just really really passive and shy... and tend to get really defensive and/or awkward whenever someone shows interest. I don`t think I`ve ever really done anything all that exciting in my whole life, but I am totally secretly willing to do whatever anyone wants me to... and do so with lots of enthusiasm. I guess the truth is that secretly, I`m a slut.

Maybe this isn`t so uncommon, and maybe it isn`t even all that interesting, but I feel like it`s totally something that I need to go through with.

Ummm... so I guess my big question is: Is it really worth it? Or should I just try to find something meaningful?

I am honestly incapable of having an opinion on this, so simple suggestions may be pointless. I would more than welcome someone telling me exactly what to do.

Thanks for listening.

 

If you think you're a slut, then I'm not quite sure what we'll start calling 12 year old pregnant-for-the-third-time strippers. You definately aren't. I for one, am the opposite way. Shy but interested in fucking like no tomorrow. You just need to find the right guy. There's plenty of gay guys that go for guys like you. In fact, I'd even venture to say that most gay guys I've met are more like you than me.
If you just want to hook up, go to clubs or bars or something and just look for tougher guys that fit your dream. Be careful though, because the sex may not be great the first time. Loosing your virginity especially sucks. It's awkward and uncomfortable especially for two newbies.
In my case, I met my boy online. It was soon established it was pretty much a sex only relationship, which I wasn't really into, but I wasn't complaining either. First few times sucked. Ryan's actually quite hazardous in bed. Our actual best time was like five times into the relationship and was induced by a lot of MJ.
Anyway, just take your time, know the first time won't be great. Get some lesbian friends and go guy-hunting. Be sure to report back when you've found the guy.

 

If you want someone who is not looking for a long-term commitment, you're in luck. There are lots and lots and lots of guys out there who fit the description.

Many of the guys online are looking for no-strings attached sex. Guys in bars are often the same way too. If you're in a big city, you'll find it in a gay bath house too.

 

At night. Or at a party .

 

Just be careful with whatever you do, there is a lot of bad people out there, gay and straight.

 

I am pretty sure there is only one way to loose your virginity. . .

 

lol @ photogra1

i lost mine to a girl i met on the net. we had met up a few times and had some drinks, but this one time i went over to hers for a "movie night". it wasn't awkward or messy at all for me. i've never had that...

anyway, like people have said before, if you're looking for no-strings sex you're in luck because so is every other gay man out on the scene. lol actually, so is every gay man AND lesbian on the scene! just go pick up some dude and pull the "your place or mine?" line and go for it.