*bangs head on wall*... repeatedly

Um... I don't know what to think of this.

My old roomie and I have been.. a little more than friends for a while. you knwo what I mean, but there has never really been anything serious nor do I know if there would be but fuck out of the blue on the c-train ride home just when I got off I said I love you to him. I don't know why. I don't think I love him. I like him a lot, and I love the time I spend with him and I love the person he is but... it was not approriate. and I hadn't thought of anything like that and I haven't pondered over the though but as I give him a kiss and send him on his way it just blurted out of me. so unconsiously. and now. I feel like staying in a black hole for a while.

I don't know how to continue on with this now, and I can't even imagine the thoughts that are going through his head. and yes I would love to have something serious with him *sometime, Not yet. and we are not sure what 'we are' or what we think we are or thought and fuck... what do I do. I can't do much I know but.. help please.

any suggestions?

Guys, what would you think if this happend to you? how would you react...
...
Help please. anything.

 

do you know what the best thing about banging your head against the wall is?


It feels fucking marvelous when yer stop!

from acorns....mighty oaks etc.....

 

Thx for the damn help albert

 

yo yo baby dig it like this,
haha just wanted to say that, but yeah

how old is the guy? if, there was a girl who I really liked and we were just sorta dating but she said this to me, if i hadn't known her for a long time i'd probably want to sit down and communicate with her exactly if she feels this way, cause i don't feel it in the same way. if id know her for a long time, id prolly take it very nicely, and if i felt the same it would be satisfying and comforting to hear the words spoken that mirror (or can mirror) the true friendship/relationship of whatever nature, that you have.

honesty and communication--if you've been roomies and uve been intimate, and u care and love him in the ways you said, maybe u just dont want such a serious relationship right now--so tell him what you've said here, if he knows you half way as much as the time u spend together, he'll see you're sincerely embarassed or just, that you care very much but was not trying to 'drop a bomb' on him.

ok
peace love and grease

 

mmm he's in his 20's ... and we're not dating I don't know if you can even call it sorta dating just having fun and enjoying eachothers company. and I've known him for like 2 months. and within the 2 months, maybe 3 not sure but we just started to get to know eachother within the last couple weeks.. I feel like such a dufis and it's worse because it like wasn't even me that said that. it was so damn weird. after I said it I was fucking stunned and like wtf? no I don't. haha and he just smiled, we didn't have time to say anything about it cuz he was on the train I was not... and the thing is I really don't even know what he wants or thinks he wants or would like to happen or even how he truly thinks of me and my head has just been lost in the clouds for so long... I really wish I knew why i said that. I guess I'm just like that. I just say things, but i've never thought about love with this guy, not the word love nor the meaning.., mostly just lust and good times.... fuck. I'm so...lame

 

i can hear part of myself in this to some degree. over-analyzing or self-critical. i wouldn't sweat it. he would have looked uncomfortable if he felt that way. he was smiling cause you like him, and he knows it and he found it cute that you said you loved him and that it totally caught you off gaurd/embarassed you.

until we go through enough experience and decide what it is we want, sometimes lust and good times, we love those, and even after experience and all this, we still love those times, nothing wrong with voicing it.

if you don't pigeon-hole the words 'i love you' into a narrow corridor of meaning, but just let them be real open and blossomed, it'll only feel good that you said it--ya care about the guy, no?

meh, just my 2cents
peace be with

 

Yes I do care about this guy, and I'm coming to terms that what I said could just have ment other little things however I'm still terrified of what he thinks I ment and if he even realized I was shocked when these words came out of my mouth.... I'm still speechless as to coming to a conclusion on why I would have said this.... I feel really lame I wont lie to ya, but more frusterated.

Haha I think I was more stunned then he was when I heard that come out of my mouth, it was so fucking stupidly unexpected.

 

I've Been In This Situation Before...Think This Out, And Talk With Him, Just Be Honest And Forth~Coming Whether It's To Let Him Know That You Meant It, Or Not, Or Whatever...Chances Are He May Not Know What To Think, And He'll Appreciate Your Honesty (It May Put His Mynd At Ease) And Good Luck...It'll All Work Out : )

 

I would react to that by falling in love with you. I have a good girl friend that says I am a woman though because I can be very emotional at times. I am a hopeless romantic, and therefore if any woman professed their love for me, I would immediately want to reciprocate. I don't think that most guys think like I do on this subject though. Or maybe they do and just don't want to admit it.

 

You may not have meant it in the way you think.

Perhaps you love him in a more friendly way then you think.

There are all kinds of love, just figureout which kind makes the most sense and run with it.

The heart never lies.

 

Would you ingore me for a while, or just stop making contact with me all together?

 

... because I haven't heard from him since.

 

He Probably Doesn't Know What To Think...Talk With Him : )

 

I'v tried. I've emailed him a couple times, but I don't want to phone him because it would be such an ackward non-existance conversation. Plus I'm scared he took what I said literally..