Troubled Teen

geez, i don't know. i know this'll sound a bit out there, but i'd always thought that if i had major behavioral problems with my kids (i'm a teacher, not a mom yet, but i've dealt with enough teenage angst in my students...), well, maybe you could check out one of those wilderness survival programs? even for while he's off for x-mas break or sumthin...
y'know, where they pack up the bad asses for a month to a real remote location and sober um up with knowledge that they'll have to fend for themselves to survive...
it just seems to me that your kid is not getting the idea of how his actions are hurting those around him. i imagine that he is a caring guy, and deep down probably is just ignoring the hurt and frustration he is causing you...perhaps throwin him out there in the woods will isolate the situation enough to give him time to think and synthesize...
i'm big into wilderness therapy.
and you live in alaska, for gods sake!

 

If he has FAS he may not be physically ABLE to connect actions and consequences.

 

He doesn't have FAS. His mother did not touch alcohol from the time she got pregnant with the first kid until a couple of years ago. She also used no chemical drugs since I met her.

Kayte, good point with the wilderness bad boy camp. I may look into that.

 

handing your son over to the law probably wont help. i spent 12 months in closed custody when i was 16, and all it did to me was cut me off from my positive normal friends, and hook me up with a group of borderline psychos. when i got out, i had friends who were just as prone to crime as i was, and i went on a nice little sidetrack of criminality for 3 yrs until i snapped one day and went off to college. fortunately, i didnt get pinched as an adult, or i may still be in jail for some of the shit we pulled.

dont throw him into the psychological cesspool of 'corrections'.