should you keep a certain pot leaf tatoo from your kids??

On my left calf I have a tatoo of a greatful dead bear with a pot leaf in the center... I have been getting a lot of greef for it...people saying "how do you plan on explaining that one to your kids?...so my question is...should I hide it...I don't think so. What do I tell my kids when they do ask about it, and what do I tell the people that do make those comments? I happen to think that alcohol does much more damage than pot (however I have had a few drinks tonight) So should I teach my kids that this is OK...I'm rambling...please give me your thoughts...thanks!

 

Personally I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, but that's just my opinion. I don't have any piercings or tattoos myself, but I find it annoying when some people bug my friends over that whole "what're you gonna tell your kids" thing. I'd just tell them matter-of-fact like when I think they're old enough to understand.

 

Dont listen you other people. To be honest you chose that tatoo because you wanted it therefore it is a part of you. If and when your children DO ask about it, you tell them just tell them its a bear with a leaf if u think they are still too young to understand canabis then when they older no doubt they will learn what cannabis is and you can tell them in full detail.

The point is, its like sex ed, a kid WILL ask, but you can tell them in any which way you please its got nothing to do with other people.
Love Respect
Fleassy x

 

I've always been honest with my kids...giving them certain age appropiate answers to their questions...and they grew up coming to me for info. because they always appreciated that honesty...I also told them, that with their behavior towards things there will be consequences....good and bad.

I lived my life according to me, and sometimes I screwed up and other times I made great choices, I'm human, but with the mistakes I made, I did try to learn from everyone of them..

If they were curious about something and struggling with a desision I told them that the good decisions are based on facts, especially with anything that is large enough to make any kind of impact on your life...therefore "inform Yourself" then make a decision...not everything is for everybody, and we will all make mistakes but at least think first before you act...

As they grew I found myself at times with my mouth hanging open with some of the questions they cam to me with, but I was ALWAYS glad they came to me...

They are now almost 28 and 21 and they are both wonderful people...and they still come to me...

And actually, I gave them both their first tatoo's....my daughter the chinese symbol for year of the dragon, on her 16th b-day... my son,year of the boar,on his 13th...

I have 3 tatoo's myself..one was a skull and crossbones, now covered with a big purple camellia, one of "L" for Larry, and one of "A" with a tiny heart, for "Ace", Larry's old biker name....

And no we are not into anykind of biker lifestyle now....that was "oh so long ago"...lol

 

Thats a really mature and great way to bring up your children, i respect you greatly for that. My mum i couldn't and still cant soeak to about anything, however my step mum approaches being a mum in a different light, a lot like how you described. And your right, it gives me confidence to speak to her, she knows a lot of things about me and im honest with her about what drugs i will and will not take and what i do at weekends. Obviously theres some information a mum doenst want to know same as theres some a daughter doesnt want to know so both of us can talk to each other easily because we know what we can and cant talk about. (for instance i can only handle so much talk about her and my dads bedroom activity *shudder* ) We are like good friends rather than mum and daughter.
Your children sound very lucky to have an honest mum like you.

 

yeah, its good to be honest to your kids.... my best friend has a mum who is up-front and teaches her about things. They can talk to eachother, she can she her deepest poetry with her mum (I'm so jealous). Her mum has a pot-leaf tatoo kinda similar to what you described. They don't hide from it, and she is not like, running around smoking dope. She plans to do a little when she's older under her moms supervision...

whereas, on the other end of the spectrum, my parents dont talk about their past. they hide enormus things from me. When I found out how much they lied, it created real distance. I don't know them.... and they certainly don't know me. they think im a totally different person....Anyway it isnt good.

My advice would be to be honest. Lies lead to more lies, from you or your kids. Thats just from my experience.

Anyway, you sound like a pretty hip mama, dont worry about what other people think.... you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and know whats right in your heart.

~~~~good luck!
~~peace~~~

 

actually, i just found out about 5 days ago that my dad used to doa lot of drugs back in the 60's and 70's. personally, i think he probably did that right thing by waiting to tell me.

 

Next time someone asks "How will you explain that one to your kids" say something like "With truth and honesty, how do you explain your youth to them?"

Fuck other people... My mom lied to me about damn near everything my whole life and I don't envision her in my future... Be honest with your kids, they will remember

 

Tell 'em to #$%@&*!

Seriously, don't hide it from your kids.
It won't mean anything until they are old enough to know that thier mom is thier mom and she has a tatoo- so what?

I've raised two kids to teenage, and one is alot like me, and the other is nothing like me. I don't think I was as much a life-style influence as I expected. And both my kids love and respect thier dad.
Too each his own!

Help your kids be who they are by letting them see who YOU are.

 

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how old are your kids?

 

ahhh where to start...lol they are 9,5,3, and 10 months

 

Hello
I tell my little boy anything he ask i think it will make him a wiser person
why not learn evething he needs to no from his mom
MOM NO's BEST
much love and sunshine

 

i say, dont hide your tattoo. its who you are. your children will understand and tell all those other people to worry about themselves. i think its cool that your showing the world who you. the people who have a problem with it most likely have a problem with themselves and cant face their own children.
show your tattoo and when your children are old enough, let them know what it is and educate them. tell them about your experiences and show them your tattoo. its part of you, its who you are. why hide that from your children?

 

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