so i met this guy at a coffee house the other day and he really seemed like a nice guy.. he wants to wait til marrage for sex and so do i so thats good but every time i talk to him he asks me all these personal questions (and i dont mind them too much) but its like all we talk about.. and every time i made a comment that could have some sexual meaning he has to say it. i really like this guy but i dont know how to get him to stop being such a perv. can anyone help me out here??
if he is making you a little uncomfortable that is probably your intuition talking to you. i'd personally be creeped out if some guy i just met was asking me a bunch of personal questions.....that would be the end of that.
er, well, most guys like talking about sex, like everything about sex. I wouldn't say that makes him a perv... but why not just say to him something like "look, I'm not trying to say sexual stuff, so just lay off it a bit hey? conversation can be good without every other word being deemed to have a sexual nature". er, minus the big words, but you know what I mean
There are always people that relate everything to sex. Annoying as it may get, he may only think he's being "witty". So nudge him in the right direction.
How old is he? If he is significantly older than you, I personally think he is a pervy old man who's telling a 16 year old girl exactly what she wants to here so he can get close to you. If is the same age, he's a horny 16 year old boy.
Maybe he's just nervous and resorts to sexual inuendos and overly personal questions or whatever to hide that. Or maybe the other girls he's flirted with have liked the dirty talk? lol I don't know. Just try to steer him in the other direction and don't react at all when he says sexual things. Just keep going with the conversation as if you didn't hear the dirty remark. If he doesn't get the hint come right out and tell him that he's being inappropriate and it's making you uncomfortable. If that doesn't work, move on.
He is not a "perv". He is just a man who obviously is inclined to sexual openness. However, if you feel uncomfortable, just tell him. No sense in going into all the innuendo and assuming his intentions. Goddamn, we've become so fucking conditioned by the puritan philosophy in our society.
When all conversations lead to personal sexual ones, that shit gets old. Is this someone you really wanna persue a friendship with? I've had to tell ppl to knock it off when conversations kept going back to personal sexual shit. It gets to be a huge bore when they can't seem to hold a discussion on anything else. It does sound a bit like someone that told you what you wanted to hear (about no sex before marriage) Either way, if this is someone you wanna persue a friendship with i would judt flat tell 'em yer tired of everything that comes outta yer mouth getting turned into a sexual enuendo and to knock it off and try having a conversation about something other than sex for a change!
well if he's your age I'd say he's probably bouncing-off-the-walls horny, I know I sure turned everything into sexual innuendo a couple years back, the difference now is that it just doesn't reach my mouth.
