hello everyone my name is stephanie, ive been with my boyfreind for almost 4 years and the past months we've been at eachothers throats between being with eachother everyday and work and school is alot of stress for us, but im so dependent on him that i have to be with him every day to feel better. We both love eachother very much, hes my solemate and im his, we talk about getting married and having kids someday , we just get along great, im so comfortable with him like you wont believe, so is he with me. well im the only girl hes ever been with and hes the 2nd guy ive been with so im all set with guys i dont want anyone else but him , he seems to have gotten to that point where he feels like he needs to mess with other girls to see if he still has it or to see what its like, which i understand so we had an open relationship which was hard for me, we still hung around and talked everyday like nothing ever happened, he went out got girls numbers but it never worked out, its like their not me or something so he doesnt bother but yet he feels like he has to, he tells me that their is gona be no other girl out that that will ever have what we have, but a couple nights ago we get into a fight over nothing and it led into something BIG and he wont talk to me i kicked his car and he kicked my car i made a mark on his car and now his dad got involved and doesnt want me at the house anymore, and neither does he, i know that was wrong of me i made him very upset and mad he wont talk to me now he said its over he wants me out of his life now, so then i keep calling him and calling him cuz im crazy like that, he doesnt pick up so i go to his house which was a bad idea he wouldnt talk to me he wouldnt let me in and he said he would call the cops if i didnt leave he said he didnt want to but he would and his father would if he saw me there, so i left and he called my mom and told her everything now shes calling me trying to get envolved and help me but i dont need help im just upset and so is he, but he told my mom its over for good and shes like well are u sure u just dont need time to cool off hes like no i dont want to talk to her its over, my heart hurts so much im just in shock i feel like everything is my fault he told my mom that i have an attitude problem and i dont know what to do im so upset i love him so much, thats my other half, i need him, without him i have nothing, do u think he'll come around again and that he needs time? will he come back to me soon??please someone help me, we've gotten into stupid fights before and make up like nothing ever happend, what will happen now what should i do!!!!!!
gees, i can't believe this outcry has been on here for so long and else has responded. well, here goes. mind you, i don't have a functioning relationship at this time but also i don't consider "breaking up" a failure. it's only change and change is the only constant so why not be at peace with it? right? i do consider hating a failure because i am always striving to love unconditionally so it's a failure on my part to transcend my ego. ok i'm counselling me here...sorry. my mom once gave me a poem and i lost it now but the most important lines to me i remember and they have made more and more sense to me as i grow and understand more...they go..."kisses aren't contracts. so plant your own garden and decorate your own soul.." those words whisper in my head when i'm trying to refocus my center and keep control. i can't say whether or not he'll get over whatever his issue is and come crawling back begging for forgivness...but since he called the cops and talked to your mom so candidly and confident in his decision i would say it doesn't seem like it to me. you don't do those things if there's any doubt in your mind about the decision. i can't blame you for being in shock--it sounds pretty drastic! i'm sorry for you. :-( remember when one door closes many more will open. i would cherish the good times you had, learn from it, and go on loving. give your self lots of love, take it slow, breathe. big HUG.
