ok, i've made the decision to remain emotionally uninvolved for awhile until i can get through the painful process of letting go of certain people and let myself get over stuff. probably a smart move. i really could use sex, but i guess i can get by with my BOB. but what's really killing me is not the lack of affection or love or sex, it's the comfort. let's face it, i'm pretty stressed out. i want some one handsome and sensitive and caring, just to hold me, if only for a few minutes, or let me cry my eyes out into his arms. is that so wrong? i mean, doesn't everybody want that, once in awhile?
aye to that. Even if I have a handsome boyfriend who is commited to me. He is far away from me. I can't get the hugs and kisses and love that I want when I so need them.....
civilization sucks , theres a profound lack of co humanizing.....i cant wait for civilizations noisy collapse im gonna run to the jungle n live like bonobos do !
I've felt that way Kitty. I think its probably because your used to the comfort feel of a man in your life if he held you or not. Just the security feeling in your head of not being alone. I thought long and hard about it since I'm alone too and I've come to this as a conclusion. Anyway, when I think about it, it helps me get through just wanting anyone to comfort me. It helps me hold out for the thought of finding someone truely special and deserving who can care for me as much as I do them. He is out there Kitty and no one deserves him more than you! Hold on hun, and in the mean time when you feel this way try something different that makes you happy... I know this sounds silly but I do this when I'm sad and alone (no laughing please!), I dance...I turn on some great music like the Beetles and dance my silly little heart out. It gets my blood pumping and the endorphines going. The kids join in with and laugh and then soon enough everyones happy. I hope things get better for you, I really feel for you...Loneliness is rough and it sucks!
ive had that feeling before too, someone should set up a club for people who need held. No sex or relationships required just people who need held, or hugged or a shoulder to cry on. I know id have been there needing a hug quite a few times. And somethimes when i wasnt down just cause i like holding and cuddling.
well Mama, at least according to your profile you're still only 19. Imagine being my age and alone. Yeah music helps, but sometimes even that is not enough.
yee ..dancing is a great way to help things.. not only does it seems to shake out stagnating thoughts that wallow upon your mind..( even if only for a while).. it loosens up your body..even when u dont realise how much it holds the stress from your thoughts.. almost like showering away a build up of toxins and suddenly you feel much fresher, clearer ..then its easier to see a new prespective of the things that may get u dooown.. and of course with music as it sweeps through you -it can really lift the spirit in u. .. hmm doesnt even have to be 'dancing'.. can just be trashing yourself around a room.. lol whatever your body wants to do with itself. for me when i really want a hug.. its for affection,+ love ..that my life sometime feels empty of, ..its like i have lots of it inside me that i need/want to share but can't find ne1 to express it to..so it gets trapped and that makes me sad!..and ye also security in a way.. but thats a paradox for me as i have to be feeling secure in myself first in order to feel comfortable of recieving it..otherwise i feel vunerable... really just to know that som1 cares when im alone...usually im wantin to be with a certain person many miles away ..but that situation is all too messy..but still..ah! whooooa ..sorry i really startd rambling here .. ..actually.. about hugs..i heard of som place in india where peaple r queuin to recieve a hug from a woman there, ..+she just gives out hugs all day to lots of pepz .. so nice.. xx
