a HUGE dilemma... wtf to do...

damn... what the fuck am i going to do?

my boyfriend has just told me that he's gunna move to delaware... he's just graduated high school, and he lived out there when he was younger, so he has friends out there. one of those friends IMed him and told him he needed a roomate... he has a guaranteed job there, and they have some hydo systems and stuff... he'll live right on the shore... so he really wants to go, cause the town we live in now is so shitty. absolutely nothing goes on, and its just boring...

i'm only 16, so there is no way i can go with him. i dont know how i'm gunna last 2 years without him...(cause i'm gunna get outta here when i graduate too).. i absolutely begged him to stay.. but he's still not sure. i feel like a shithead to make him pick between me and delaware... but... he's my best fucking friend, and the best boyfriend.. he's the one i run to when my family life is fucked up... when anything gets bad... i run to him, and he makes everything okay. i dont wanna seem like a needy, selfish bitch by asking him to stay just for me... but i need him. is this selfish? but on the other hand, i want what's best for him too.. so i just don't know anymore.

a couple months ago i was worried about once graduating, he would up and leave me to go on tour with WSP or something... and he fucking promised me he wouldnt... and now, he is.

i feel shitty for making him choose, and he feels shitty for breaking his promise.. but its such a good oppurtunity.. but i need him!

blah! i'm 16 years old, i shouldnt be having to go through all of this.

opinions? anything... i just feel so shitty right now.

 

i'm just a year older and my bf just graduated and he goes to college 300 miles away...it sucks ass and he has only been gone for a couple of weeks. I wanted him to stay and he knew that but there is also the valid point that i would be holding him back and why should he plan his life around me when we're still teenagers. We are doing the long distance relationship thing and i believe if it was meant to be it will last or in the end it will all work out...But don't think by any means it will be easy, because it hurts badly missing someone that much and needing them to help you and make things better when they can't just reach out and hug you....sorry i haven't helped...i ended up venting more than anything...good luck is all i can give you

 

Well my suggestion is urge him to go and maybe that is the only way you won't lose him. Cause otherwise that is immense pressure you are giving him. There will be others in your life. You are 16. Be strong and wish him the best.

 

Im in the same situation.. I live in VA an my boyfriend graduated and he's trying to go to a college in FL but he doesnt have the money to go an so he's trying to go to the navy.. which is way worse.. but 5 years.. in the Navy.. is a longggg time. the ONLY good thing is they pay outrageous amounts of money an for your lodging an food an stuff an then 120,000 when you get out..
I told him he can do what he wants and ofcourse im not going to try an control him .. Think about whats better for your boyfriend .. an think about what you can do in the mean time to keep you occupied if he does go.. (ex. school) I know that you'd miss him.. trust me. But maybe in the mean time you could do somethin you'd benefit from.. ya know! =)

 

well... he's going.

we have two months... i guess we'll just try and make these two months the absolute best...

god, i'm so depressed.

 

Sorry you're having to deal with this,Peace. Sometimes the paths of life take people in opposite directions. You have to have faith,if it's meant to be then it will be,regardless of where he is or where you are. You can do the long distance thing,it's hard,but it's not impossible. Maybe you could visit him there or he could visit you..write letters...call each other.
Try not to worry too much...who knows how it may work out. Once he gets there,he may not be happy at all. He may change his mind. Even if he does go,that doesn't mean it's the end for you and him.

Cheer up,okay

 

uh well.. delaware isn't a great alternative, ya know? Trust me, it's pretty much the deadest place on the east coast unless your idea of a good time is product distribution, shipbuilding or refining oil. It's where you fall asleep on a trip to New York and hope it's at least Newark by the time you wake up.

 

why don't you see if he can at least visit you often, or you visit him? By bus or plane (though planes are expensive, busses take a lot of time). I have no idea how far away you two will be, i suck at distances and geography, but it can't be ridiculous to think that you two can get together at least once every month or two.

 

Eh, I rock Greyhound all the time, all over the place. The original poster is from Illinois and her boyfriend is moving to Delaware-- so let me just use Chicago and Wilmington as example destinations.

The average travel distance is roughly 22 hrs, most of which you can spend sleeping or talking to people or listening to music.. it's actually a decent way to relax. Roundtrip is $159, $98 if you purchase tix a week ahead of time.

 

yeah, I used to bus up to Prince Albert every second weekend..two hours there, two hours back, started when I was 5 (admittedly not on my own then, heh). Busses are good as long as the trip isn't too freakishly long. More than 24 hours I'd probly start to be unhappy with it, but everybody has a different point when it comes to bus travel

 

geez im soory you are going thru this, life can be so unfair at times, just be strong,let him go and hopefully he will realize how much you really meen to him, i know no matter what everyone says it sucks. remember if you need to talk you have all of us to talk to we really care about you.

jon

 

perhaps this is the time to test your relationship...if u can last through this...you can last anything...