What do you do when you perceive someone has a drug problem? I have this friends who I really care about, and I think she's having some issues with drugs, I have told her many times, to use the drugs not abuse them, but she doesn't seem to listen. Seriously she has like no control.. she would take as long as you would give.. she has no limits. And I go to her as a friend telling her.. like get informed drugs are fun but they can harm you. I tell her to read about what she's using so she knows what does it do to her.. I gave her the link to this forums and Erowid. But I'm still really worried about her. I'm talking about a person who can easily take 10 pills of E in one night.. while she's crushing some and mixing them with cocaine. She once got into trouble an had to to go to the emergency room in the hospital, but she hasn't change at all, I'm worried that next time somethin worse can happen.
you should really talk to your friend i cant see how doing ten Es in a nite can be fun at all, plus doing yay on E is supposed to kill the high.
The most you could do is talk to her. But the most important thing you could do is be there for her. I have been through addiction myself and all the talks in the world from people couldnt change my mind. I even had friends that couldnt stand to be around me anymore because of how bad things were and they stopped talking to me which didnt help things in the least. But there were a select few that stuck by me and was there when no one else would be....and I was very grateful for that. When she decides to wake up from it all it will be her desicion for her own reasons and probably wont have anything to do with outside influence. So if you love her, then just except her for the way she is if all else fails. There isnt much else you can do, really, as frustrating as that is. Good luck to you both though.
You can't change a person unless they want to change. You can only make a decision for yourself. I quit weed recently because I would lose the love of my life. Hell if it wasn't for that I would still be smoking weed. But a lot of things are more important than drugs, your friend has to come to realization herself.
Once the person realizes they have a problem then that problem can be solved. But until that person realizes that then its a hopeless battle that ends with a lot of hurt feelings and even lost friendships. I've been through it a few times with friends, and even I cant roll anymore. I just cant control my consumption of E, when all my friends are taking a roll, I want 6. So for me its better to not do them at all. Remember you do the drugs the drugs dont do you, so you should always be in control.
Im sorry, but i would tell her if she doesn't stop or at least slow right down, that you will tell her parents! I lost great friends in the past, and one of them was through drugs. She may not thank you know, but at least if anything was to happen to her you won't be weeping 'If Only's! It's such a shame when people who want to use drugs can't do it in a controlled manner. I have done a far few drugs in my youth, but at the same time, i was as sensible as one can be in these matters! Plead with her, and tell her that your only on her case because you care about her! The power of pray is good. Keep that in mind .
I'm not going to go easy, and inspite of any immediate reaction, I AM a compassionate person who has seen MANY fall to drugs, but, if you CARE, you can do only one effective thing: Stop being her Friend.
I really agree with the post that suggested you tell her parents. I personally, would be pissed if someone had done that to me (my parents live in another state so they had no real way of knowing) but it is possible that they could stage an intervention if things are really THAT bad. And if they care about her, the way most parents do, they will do something to help. Even though sometimes even parents cant help. If she is of legal age than there may not be anything they can do, but it is worth a try. It is also possible though that doing so will make her feel like she has been betrayed and she may not want to speak with you after that....but if she realizes WHY you choose to go that far, then she might just be thankful. Who ever said to "stop being her friend".....I have to disagree with that. What will that solve? I had some friends that stopped talking to me when I was going through my ordeal...some were even down right mean to me....and it helped nothing. Plus loosing some of my best friends made me feel like the drugs were REALLY the only friend I had to rely on.....so I said "fuck em". One of my friends (who I now talk with again) said that she just couldnt watch me kill myself and that is the reason she split. So maybe if you decide that you have to stop being her friend for your benefit, then do so....but I dont think it will benefit her to do that. I dunno, everyone is different....but that is my guess.
People only stop willing and destructive drug use when they want to. Rehab, especially forced rehab, gives temporary results only. She'll stop when and IF she wants; some people NEVER stop. The only hope you have is that her drug-addled life becomes intolerable to her. So cut her off from any emotional (or any other knd) of resource you can. Let her wallow in her drug use if it's so great. Only when she slams into rock bottom will she stop and consider things more objectively. In the long run, it's her only hope.
Thanx everybody for your words, really they were helpful. I don´t think I could stop being her friend, I just tell her what I think about the things she does. She´s a member of the Hipforums, so I think It would be good for her if she would read this. Maybe she would realize how bad things are.
I know it can be difficult to take that action, however it probably is the only way. Believe me, save your friend. It's very difficult and painful to do, but telling you from my experience, when my gf broke up with me, it made me realize a lot of things. She got back with me after I stopped. She'll thank you one day.
My sister's been on meth for 20 years. She never has to stop becuase my mother took care of her kids and gave her a plce to live. If she would have been tossed out years ago, maybe my sister would have took responsibility for her life. DON'T be an enabler.
