I'm already taken but I've got to know this other girl as a friend. The trouble is, I've become attracted to her, both physically and emotionally. Even though there's no real hope for me and this other girl (she's taken, although in a unhappy relationship AND she's craving over my best mate), should I tell her how I feel anyway? I don't wanna ruin our friendship. Even though I'm in a happy relationship now, I long for something a little more firey, which I know this other girl could provide. My aching heart and soul ... goddammit!
dig deep down away from all the sexual urges and look for you answer in your heart. Its the one place that will not lie to you.
i say don't tell her... unless you really think there's a chance and you want to give up your current girlfriend and take all those other risks just to tell her you like her. it doesn't seem worth it to me, but if you're unhappy with your current gf you might want to reevaluate where that relationship is going. i know a couple who periodically asseses their relationship status and their plans and all that, and it really seems to work well, they're both on the same page and all that, engaged and plans ready for the future no doubt.
It's not that I'm unhappy ... I just wish there was a lot more excitement. I'm going on holiday with her for two weeks in the sun and depending on how that goes, I'm going to reevaluate our relationship after we come back. I think I'll take tigerlily's advise and don't tell her. I don't think that there's much hope of me ever getting with this other girl. That said, I would still like her to know how I feel but I don't want to sacrifice our friendship.
If your current gf found a "friend" that she was attracted to would you want her to tell him? and then still hang out with him even if they didn't get together physically? If your current gf told you she was attracted to someone else, would you be able to trust her anytime you knew she was with him (without you around)? If your answer to all that is NO....then my answer to you is NO...don't say anything.
<3wheat<3 I met a girl I'd like to know better, but I'm already with someone Everyone stands on the corner promiscuously Looking like something to fight and for someone to beat. Did anyone else see that girl who was pulling away Like if she pulled off to the side I'd have something to say. I met a girl I'd like to know better But I'm already with someone. And you've got permission to see other men while you sleep And we wage perpetual war for perpetual peace One says hey what gives with you The other says hey what gives with you It's this pace that gets to you all right I met a girl I'd like to know better But I'm already with someone. And it's so so long When you're so so wrong. We interweave so much that we've lost a bit of solid ground All for a kiss the things that we miss are leveling out And I waste my time, question it, drag my heels a bit. Forever pressures me, now I want to be Wrapped in rhythm soul space and rock and roll Nothing appeals to me like bottoming out And I erase time sleep a bit smoke the rest of it Because time don't mean a thing without... I met a girl I'd like to know better But I'm already with someone.
yeah, i wouldn't tell her. we all meet exciting people from time to time, but you really have to truly appreciate the relationship you're in to stay in it. i'm not sure there's many people your age who are ready to stay in the long term relationships. long term relationships aren't really about excitement and fire. they're the slow burning warm embers that last a lot longer. people forget what love really is in their search for the more exciting romance. so yeah, re-evaluate your current relationship. but don't tell her about the temptations unless you have that sort of relationship where that degree of openness is encouraged and accepted. because if you don't, you'll end up hurting someone you care deeply for. you're still young, and there's no need to stop looking and experiencing, but try not to stomp on any hearts while you're doing it. you don't want your current lady to be so embittered that she can't find a better relationship later on should you decide to part, do you?
