I have a ten month old son with my perfect partner and I'm just so full of love. It's all so good. But so tiring. I used to love my lie-ins but they just don't happen anymore for obvious reasons. All I want to hear from you guys, parents of older children, is how it gets better. I don't want any balanced objectivity. Just how it gets easier. Thankyou.
Eventually, hon, he's going to be able to entertain himself in his bedroom in the mornings until you wake up. Once he's old enough, you'll get your lie-ins again.
Very true Then eventually he will be able to entertain himself. Giving you a bit of peace. He will learn to do things for himself; the spoon feeding, nappy changing etc will end. You'll be able to have proper conversations and play together (kids have such cool toys now) One day you will even be able to trust him to stay home while you go out, saving money for babysitters. At least that's what I know from my brother and me. We're 16 and 20 now. Though to honest, I'm not sure it does truly get easier. You just end up with a diffrent set of challenges.
I think I'm an honourary UK forumer. Friends with tons of you lot! Fleassy and Jaycee came to visit. I've talked to Claire. Love IMing showmet and sax_machine. You all are so close and fun. But I'm in Seattle, Washington.
When I would want to sleep in a few extra seconds, I would just bring baby into bed with me-snuggles are great to use to sleep in!
All I can say is, cherish these moments now while you still can. Yes, I know that there are days that are tough, but let me tell you, in the blink of an eye, you'll be looking back wondering where the time went, and wishing to have those times all back again. I say this from heart-wrenching experience as a mama who wished days away, counting down the days until my oldest son became more independent, giving me a little more flexibility. Yet now I sit here wishing all of those days back again. My 5 year old just started kindergarten yesterday. Do you know how hard it was for me to take him today, when he was crying and saying how he didn't want to leave me, that he loves me so much and that he's going to miss me so much it hurts? Talk about heart breaking. Yet I had to put on a smile and tell him that he was going to have a wonderful day and that I would be back to see him at 2:00. As I pulled away from the curb, I kept turning my head watching the doors to the school, waving, smiling brightly, craning my neck to see my little boy, and bursting into tears the moment he couldn't see me anymore. No, don't wish these days away with your baby. Trust me.
It evetually gets easier, then you have to worry about who they will play with, and how you will educate them, and then, when they are older, you worry like crazy when they are out. It gets........different. A 8 year old doesn't have the pure level of physical NEED that an infant has, but they have NEEDS at every age. My only consolation is that in infancy, YOU can take care of all those needs yourself (you and your womyn, of course) when they get older, they have to deal with society, and you don't have the ability to shelter them from the evil and hatred that you can sheild them from when they were babies and they were just YOURS. But, the sleep does evetually get easier. Unless they are sick, then it is back to up several times a night. Aside from that, you do get more rest somewhere in the second year. Take the baby into your bed, let him nurse while you and your womyn relax. This is almost as good as just being alone.
