I oftentimes dream about personally important people who have died. Usually, it's my dad, who died of cancer 3 years ago. He is for the majority of the time, in a healthy state, but sometimes I dream about him being sick and emaciated as well...I hate those dreams, and they usually stir me to tears. I also occasionally dream of a boy I knew in school of whom I was close to when we were younger, but grew apart later in life. He died when I was in the 11th grade of encephalitis. I dreamed of him right after he had died. I was in his house, (of which I have never seen, but I could have described it to you right after I dreamed it) and there were a lot of kids we mutually knew there. I guess it was like a wake?? Anyway, he showed up, and everyone freaked. He looked puzzled, and pulled me aside...I can't remember exactly what was said, but it went along the lines of 'You're not supposed to be here. You died X days ago...' He looked at me like 'what?', then he turned, and all I could see was light, and then I woke up. Old Crone, who was a dream interpreter here at the time told me that I had helped his spirit move on. (I felt honored!) I dreamed of him just the other night, that we were at someone's house, and he was all like, 'I haven't seen you in a while!'... He's been on my mind ever since... And also, I have dreamed about my Grandfather, who died at the beginning of August from cancer. In that dream, he was with us at church or somewhere, and I was trying to keep my niecs from seeing him, because he was supposed to be dead. I remember crying in my dream, but I don't think I woke up crying... Whew! What I am trying to get at here is, are these just memories of these people stirring in my sub-concious mind, or are they little visits? Sometimes, I feel like they are more like visits... The last dream I had of my dad, I was telling him all about my house and how Adam and I got married and about his grandson Thomas... He was all interested and proud of me... But then again, I tend to believe that spirits aren't interested in the day-to-day lives of the loved ones they left behind... I'm confused... I hope I didn't confuse you all by all that mess up there, but I would like your thoughts as well. ^_^
It could be both. You might have subconscious memories of some people, and there could be real and genuine visits as well. If you feel like you've got unfinished business with these people who have passed, you could end up dreaming about them. My gut feeling is that they won't visit you unless they feel that they have unfinished business with you.
I've had similar dreams about my grandfather. For months after his death I'd be dreaming and he would be there and sometimes I wouldn't realize right away that he wasn't supposed to be there, I always eventually said somethign about it and most of the time the other people in my dreams would act as if I was being ridiculous. I think most of them had to do with not wanting to let go. There were a few that I felt were visits though. The visits were quite a bit different than the dreams.
Oh- duh.. I didn't post all I was going to say. I think the dreams show how much you love the people you've lost and that you think of them alot. The dream about your dad might have been a visit, maybe part of you felt like you needed to tell him about your life and even though he is ppast the concerns of this life he still cares enough to be there for you to talk to- he was there for you, not for news. Just as living people sometimes just listen and respond in order to be there for those they care about.
