Hi, this is my first post on this site, seems like a great place....i hope you might help me with this. I'm soon to be 22 years old and i'm still living at home with my parents. This gets me down sometimes because even if i have a great relationship with both of them, i feel i'm not living life as i should at my age. I'm their only daughter and somehow i feel they dont want me to move out and start my life and me on the other hand, i really want to move out but i cant afford it, i'm still a student and have no permanent job. thats the first part of my dilema. the second part is that i have been single for almost a year, mostly by choice. I have had a few opportunities to be with guys but i have turned them down because i know i can do better. Honestly, all of my past relationships have been mistakes, i have never been with anyone who has made me feel good, only once i found someone who i was really in love with but we broke up and i was young and very naive. now i know what i want in life, i want to finish my studies, move out and live my own life. but i feel so lonely, i have few friends. all this makes me feel down and a bit self conscious. I'm not a bad person, i think i'm very trustworthy, honest, kind and i am willing to go out of my way to make others feel special. when i love someone, i love them truly. i could say i'm attractive, i've my fair share of admirers but i havent found that special someone, just for me. yeah so thats it, i dont really know what i want to get from you by telling you all this, i guess i need some reassurance that hopefully i'll make my wishes come true and after i finish with what i'm doing now, i'll be able to live my life the way i want. thanks for reading this x
eh, I don't see anything wrong with living with your parents while you're a student, hell, that's what I plan on doing until I'm done school. And being picky about your potential mates is a good thing in my book, no sense in dating every person you run across, you'll just get hurt that way.
i wouldnt worry about it, you say 22 as if it were really old.. but the party has only just begun! good luck with it all-- peace and love
Hi there, I am stuck living with my folks, and I'm 30yrs old. Not what I had envisaged, but I just can't afford to move out, and health isn't a strong point with me. If living at home is a situation you are in right now, don't worry about it. In the UK it isn't unusal these days, as house and rent prices are sooo stupid right now. Just think how lucky you are not to have to cope with all those additional harrassments and bills that you have when you live alone ! As for your comment on friends, don't worry about that either. It isn't quantity, its quality that counts! Who cares if you've only got one friend or 50, if that one friend is your soul pal. Boyfriends are lovely, and its the companionship we miss, but if there isn't a decent one that you like on the horizon, keep going, and a better person will come along soon. What is it that you think you should be doing at your age ? Pubbing, clubbing, and drugging all night, every night ? That's not such a hot exsistance in my books....and its very expensive on a nightly basis. As long as you get out and enjoy some time with your mates, doing what you all want to do, you should be ok. If you are not happy with that, then start thinking seriously about what you think you would be doing if you were living in your own place. Can you achieve that same stuff in some sort of fashion, now??? Life is what happens to everyone. You aren't alone in feeling like a stick being shoved along in the water with no particular destination. There are millions of us out here, just like you. I know living with your parents is hard, and drives you nuts sometimes, but have hope....one day you will be in a better position to make a choice to go or stay, and then you'll be grateful, if your family life is ok, that you had that extra time with your mum and dad. You sound like a lovely person, who feels a little disillousioned about things right now. Don't worry about it too much. It will pass, you may have to fight for things along the way, and sometimes think 'what's it all about', but in the end you will achieve the very best you can, and you will reach a point in your life where you will look back on this time, and think...yes - now I am happy. Have no worries, LonelySoul. It is all going to be ok ) (((HUGS)))
Where's all the "should"s coming from? Probably from some artificial schematic imposed on you by something outside yourself (society, the media... Norman Rockwell...). Sounds like you're worried about what your life looks like from the outside (look at the title of this thread) even though it feels OK from the inside. Nobody knows what you should do except you. artificial "should"s can get you in a bunch of trouble. walking around thinking I "should" be in a relationship got me into some bad ones.
