I still love it and i need to quit

Want to see if anyone can relate.

Ive smoked weed on a daily basis for probably-5 or 6 years. I definetly love my pot, i love the way i feel, i love the way i think, and im a muscian - so music sounds different to me and it moves me more, i feel more into the music. ahh..anyway...i like the shit. BUT- it has to come to an end some time, i cant be a pothead for the rest of my life. In respect to my wife, my own lungs and my vocal cords ( im a vocalist) , it has to stop. Plus i have one of those jobs that i cannot lose! But im having a REAL hard time pulling away from the shit. I cannot lie and say i dont like it. I still love it and i need to quit. Maybe im looking for a suggestion, im not sure. Anyone else ever come to this crossroad?

 

just calm it down a bit... moderation is key... with moderation... problems become minimal... i've thought about that too... yea... im not gonna be a pothead my whole life.. but i'll still enjoy marijuana from time to time when im much older... i've already calmed it down a bit from what i use to smoke because i saw myself getting no where when i was high 24/7 almost every day of the year... i kinda became careless actually.. so now i put my priorities infront of my marijuana use...

 

good call, maybe moderation is the key. I figured if i just stop buying bags and only smoke when my friends have it...that will force me to cut back. but then...im THAT guy. " heh man, let me hit that" kinda thing. seems like cold turkey would be the best way. Seems like I need a reformed smokers opinion or something...hmmm

 

Get a VAPORISOR so you can still toke without damaging your lungs anymore. Also, what your wife doesn't know won't hurt her!

 

Topnotch, thats the advice I hate to hear...

What I would say is... If you feel you need to stop... then STOP. You cannot let getting high interfere with your life, and when it does, thats when you know to stop. Think about it this way... would you rather have a happy wife knowing your smoke free, a good job, better lungs... or tarnish that all with smoking weed?

We can all agree and be honest that smoking pot isnt all 100% posative...

Good luck man!! Make the decision that YOU want to make... we are just here to provide a light

 

Haha is this guy joking?

 

HELL NO I'm not joking. I never joke about marijuana. He said he still loves weed. Smoke til you croak man!

 

Respect for your wife? Does she respect you enough to not harass you about smoking? Doesn't seem like it.

Look at the factors that make you want to quit. The wife, as I said, if she respects you she shouldn't throw a fit. Your lungs are important, this is true. get a vape, problem solved.

As far as your job, you are a vocalist that gets drug tested? I'm confused by this one.

 

just think of the reasons to quit and the reasons not to.

ur wife...will she actually leave u/whatever?
ur vocal chords...are they sustaining damage (or enough to make a difference?)
ur health...do u believe its really fucking u up in the long term?
ur job...r u really scared of losing this?

reasons against quitting:
the feeling...is the feeling really worth it?
the music...i'm a songwriter myself, and i know not only does music sound awesome stoned but i also write better...is it worth it?
etc

looking at it this way, i would quit. but its your own decision, man. you gotta get down to it and make some life choices

 

alright .. * cracks knuckles *


just think of the reasons to quit and the reasons not to.

ur wife...will she actually leave u/whatever?
- nope: she kicks ass and has been very cool about me smoking weed. we been hooked up since before i ever tried that shit, so she has put up with me for years going through this process of stonerizm. she has told me that i smoke too much, maybe 5 times in my life...but.. I know what shes thinking, body language and just knowing her so well. She dont want to be married to a stoner.

ur vocal chords...are they sustaining damage (or enough to make a difference?)
- erm...recently, after i smoke sometimes a certain part of my throat itches real bad, i just want to scratch my neck to try to get to it. It feels like something in my throat is trying to heal or something. i havent got it looked at but its a possibility, and if weed fucks up my music at all, ill throw it away like a bad habit for sure!

ur health...do u believe its really fucking u up in the long term?
- yah...no way you can say that it doesnt do some type of dmg long term, i know eventually something will happen medically. i smoke alot man

ur job...r u really scared of losing this?
- yes and no...im not monitored at all, im an IT manager. one of those guys that goes to budget meetings and crap and plan networks. Im salary and my boss is the CEO and doesnt manage me at all. So chances of me getting caught are very low. But i know its just a matter of time..may it be 1 year or 10 years. I will get caught eventually.

reasons against quitting:
the feeling...is the feeling really worth it?
- ooo..now this is the million dollar question man!!hmm. I would like to say no, but since i continue to do it. yes mixed in with mental addiction ..so im not sure man, maybe this is the question im here to answer?!?

the music...i'm a songwriter myself, and i know not only does music sound awesome stoned but i also write better...is it worth it?
etc
- and this shit puts me over the barrel! band practice stoned, band practice not stoned...what sounds better *sigh* what FEELS better? ya know. i think any muscian that smokes weed can 100% relate to this.




looking at it this way, i would quit. but its your own decision, man. you gotta get down to it and make some life choices

- thats what im trying to do here. to not be too dramatic..this is about my only outlet to talk to someone about this. my pride is killing me man. i want to talk to my woman about it or best friend, but man, its tough to say these kinda things to someone that cares about you. it skewes there answers .. anyway..i really do need to throw some ideas off you guys. so thanks for your guys time and such, This is totally helping me out!

 

"Also, what your wife doesn't know won't hurt her!"

- This aint my style. *shrug* to each his own

 

ok... so like i said earlier... tone it down a bit if shes said "you smoke too much"... if ya tone it down to a reasonable level i doubt she'll think of you as a stoner... would you concider someone who drinks 2-3 times a week an alcoholic? i think not... unless you have extremely high morals and views on alcohol

 

It seems like contuining to smoke heavy will keep you unhappy, and it seems that maybe quitting completely may not make you happy either, unless you want to.

Dude, it seems like a really good option, in terms of your wife, your lungs, your job, and your throat, that you should try moderation. It allows you to enjoy the pleasures of being stoned, while also not fucking up any shit. If this can be done, it seems like the best way to use the drug. I personally smoke daily, but its a decision I'm constantly pondering because I'm not sure if I am doing them for the right reasons =)

 

i agree, in moderation might be the way to go until you feel you want to quit completely. if you feel more creative high, then smoke to get the creative juices flowing but not the rest of the day, or whatever works best for you. also try weed in other things, like baking it or making tea so the smoke won't affect your vocals or lungs in general. the vaporizor is a good idea too. i used to be high all the time and now mainly when i want to let my creativity flow or in social settings. i'm fine with that.

definately your choice man, but there is a big difference in a pot head and a casual smoker.....your wife probably wouldn't mind it occasionally, lots better than all the time. why don't you sit down with her and see if she would mind.......ya never know until you ask. also, you may want to cut back slowly if stopping completely, you might become grumpy and your wife wouldn't like that either. maybe she could help ration you if you have poor self control concerning bud.

 

u could always do what i've made a point of: only smoking when ur already happy. it hasnt become a crutch for me since like my dad used to be a pothead and smoke when hes down and that makes it a emotional/mental addiction but whatever lol.

i'm also just a weekend warrior, except for special occasions.

 

lotta good points here. So general consensus is to cut back. That i can do, i mean, ill still want it bad ( i think ) , but i can but back.

If i buy a vaporizer or anything i would probably continue to smoke alot, because it would be a new stoner toy. Also, im not exactly going to whip up a batch of pot brownies while my wife is folding clothes in the living room lol...like i said, she doesnt want a husband like that. And i had family like that..i dont really want to be that guy.

would you concider someone who drinks 2-3 times a week an alcoholic? i think not
- good call here!

why don't you sit down with her and see if she would mind.......ya never know until you ask
- and thats tough as hell. i got that pride things happening still. Makes me come off like somone asking for help. Well, i guess i kinda am asking for help, but its from you guys. so its different. but i 100% agree..i need to get over it

u could always do what i've made a point of: only smoking when ur already happy
- i swear, i have never thought of that. it made me stop for minute and think about that last time i was happy. then .. i thought...well shit, most time im happy im already stoned. i need to have some time when im happy and not stoned. its been a long time....long time...

man ill miss that morning stoney cruise to work.

thanks guys...all of ya...i should have posted here a long time ago.

 

Sorry about what I said about what your wife doesn't know won't hurt her, in retrospect that was kinda disrespectful. My apologies. But I stand by what I said about the vape, It would be easier on your lungs. Like someone else pointed out, maybe your wife would ease up a little if you just used more moderation. It's worth talking to her about. Agree?

 

Wife > Weed
Vaporiser > *
Vaporiser will damage your lungs and throat much less. Respect your wife.

 

Dude quit if you really want, it aint worth smokin if it fucks shit up for you.
Mary is a shitty little whore anyway.