I can't stand my mother anymore!!

She always wants to spend time with me. She wants to take me everywhere. I don't want to go anywhere! I want to stay home. Sure, I can't stand being around crowds of strange people. But she's always trying to make me go to the mall or huge crowded shops with her. Then when I try to tell her nicely that I don't want to go,she lays guilt trips on me. She handles it like a little kid would. If she doesn't get her way, she holds a grudge against me for weeks. I'm sick of hearing her say,"You'll be sorry when I'm gone"! This is madness. I don't enjoy her company because we have very different personalities. She is VERY closed minded and extremely stubborn. She has a way of taking your words and twisting them so they will backfire on you. And she wants me to spend time with her in a place where I feel like curling up into a little ball in the corner and crying?! I just want to be aloooone. Last time I told her that,she took me to a therapist. *sigh*

 

I dont like going to crouded places just tell her u'll go out later and just keep saying that and never go

 

lol Autumns, I just noticed your sig pic. That's pretty funny, it would be even better if it looked more like kids' handwriting and was hanging on a refrigerator.

 

I dont agree with you at all. Sure she is "closed minded", but people cannot help these things... they are the way they are. Maybe your lack of open-mindedness disguises her desperation and denial of you drifting away with an image of "closed mindedness" Mothers love their children with a love that is arguably one of the strongest.

That been said, I'm sure if you spoke with your mother of your "fear" of crowded areas, and brought up the fact that you would enjoy spending time with her in another place/form, that she would understand. And maybe not... I dont know your mother. But at least if you did this then she wouldnt be able to put you on a guilt trip for never wanting to spend time with her...
There would also be a greater degree of understanding and respect in the relationship... the "sit-down talks" tend to generate that kind of thing.

 

My lack of openmindedness? How so? Can you explain this to me? Maybe I described everything in a wrong way. I have told her many times that I don't like being in crowded places. Like I said,she has a way of twisting your words to come back and hit you in the face. You can't win with her. I've told her many times that I don't like going out or being in crowded places. Yet she suddenly grows bitter and mutters,"So that's your excuse?" She always says that! She's always trying to pick a fight with me. I don't want to fight,because I don't like fighting. It gets us nowhere. I found that when I used to fight with her all the time, nothing good came out of it. All that happened was we ended up having the same fight over the same thing over and over again. I'm a very quiet person. We've gone for drives in the country together before,but those always end up like hell. I sit there thinking to myself, and she becomes angry because I'm too quiet. She says,"So you're in a bitchy mood?" I can't talk to her because we have a different point of view on everything. Talking doesn't work. We have very little to talk about. She has a horrible temper and everything she disagrees with makes her angry. She makes me feel as if I'm not allowed to have an opinion on anything.

 

I see your point hehe. But the whole "Mother should I..." thing is more symbolic this way...because it's on the berlin wall...I think...haha. If you're aware of Pink Floyd I'd assume you see what I mean. Of course,if I asked my mother this...she'd probably say,"trust the government." And then,watch,I'd end up with my ass landed in jail years later because I trusted them...maybe even with one of those micorochips implanted in my ankle... (tell your kids to not trust the government.)

 

Maybe I used wrong words as well. I was in no way attacking you. A lack of open-mindedness is in no way a bad thing...Nobody is completely open-minded. Certain things will remain unevident to many people without outside help. That is maybe why you've posted this thread.
Maybe what I was trying to say before is that there is a bottom line, and that bottom line is that your mother obviously loves you and wants to spend time with you. Sometime you have to adapt to make what is important in your life work. In this case: is your relationship with your mother worth going to the mall for 2 hours where its really crowded. Whether you like it or not, your relationship with your mother means alot, and vice-versa. So be the stronger one.. maybe make a sacrafice for what is important
either way im sure youll make the right decision

 

my mother is also like that(esp the close minded and word twisting part). but dont let it bother you coz it will eventually lead u to start dispising her for real. just accept your mother for who she is. damn girl! where is da love?

 

I'm not one to really despise many...I don't even despise my father,who was without a doubt one of satans minions on earth. So chances are,as awful as my mother is,I'm just going to keep on locking myself in my room and coming out only when she's asleep. Hopefully it will work. Today she pulled another one on me. She's starting to get worse...now she's trying to kill the little self esteem that I have. I have a few aquaintances,but only 3 people would I truly consider 'friends'. One of these friends,Olivia,lives across town. Tonight I asked my mother if I could go visit her,as the last time was a few months ago and I haven't seen any of my friends or aquaintences in 2 months. She suddenly grew extremely bitter. "No. If you ever want to see those gypsy freaks again they'll have to come visit you themselves. They don't care about you. They don't like you. If they did they'd come see you and I wouldn't have to drive all the way across town for you to see them." She went on about how the last time she drove us back home in the pouring rain and blah blah blah...She was REALLY pissed off about driving home in the rain. This was over 2 months ago! And I don't know how she gets the idea that they are gypsies...She got even angrier. Now...about their situation,they are a big muslim family(by no means gypsies!) with a single mother. They can't afford a car. The mother and oldest daughter both are working to support the family. They have to carpool with co-workers to get to work! My mother is totally insensitive to their situation! I calmly asked her why she was holding such a grudge against something that happened awhile ago and we had all apologized for. She just kept on getting angrier and angrier and I tried to explain to her why they couldn't come to visit me. She would only interrupt me and say,"I don't care! Nothing you can say can change my mind! No. I will never take you over there again. If they are such good friends they'll drive to see you. No!" I told her that I didn't have many good friends and that Olivia and her family were part of the few that I have. I've known them since we were small children! She says,"Well go back to school and make NEW friends. That's what I have to do at work." I told her that I was happy with the few close friends that I have,because I can trust them and we are always there for each other as we have been through all the years we have known each other. This is when she started trying to make me feel bad about myself. "Oh,you don't let yourself make new friends. All these crappy people who you think are your friends are just your fake security blanket. They don't like you. They're just using you." ?!?!?!? I don't understand! They have never in any way taken advantage of me! My mother then even told me that she wanted to call Olivia and tell her how much she didn't like her. Why? She says Olivia gossips too much. Olivia NEVER gossips. My mother has rarely ever heard my conversations with Olivia. She's a really funny girl,and whenever she can't be pouring her heart out(which she only does in private,she's very secretive when it comes to her emotions),she's always playing around. Funny thing is,this is the girl who helped us pack our things when we were kicked out of our apartment. She helped us move our belongings to a storage facility. She even cleaned our house and washed our dishes! This is just one of the many examples showing you how rediculous and cruel mother is. God help me live another day in her prescense...

 

maybe ure mother thinks ure friends do drugs? dunno

 

Uhhhmm...no. All my friends smoke weed. Except Olivia. My mother only likes one of my cousins. She's a notorious pothead.

 

My mother tried to control me from the minute I was born to the minute she died.
She told me my job sucked, my marriage sucked, that I was a poor father to my daughter and,overall, I was a loser.
I hope if there is an after life that her and myself will reside in different zones.
The strange thing though is I still loved her and think about her at least once a day

 

Is she a Scorpio?

 

Man youre mom is a bitch... how old are you anyway? just curious

 

I wish my mother would spend time with me, infact my mother doesnt even know I exsist. She never sees me, never calls me, never visits me. Even when I lived at home, she never wanted to spend time with me. So sorry I dont feel bad for you at all, infact I am extremely jealous that you have a mom that loves you and wants to spend time with you while I would die for a mother like that, i got stuck with one who could give two shits about me...When I was in the hospital for serious health problems, she didnt visit me once at all..
So your post somewhat angers me cause I think its ridiculous that you are getting this enraged cause your mother wants to spend time with you, people who's mothers treat them like shit would die to be in your position..
GROW UP!

 

^^^ Listen, while you're mom is the bigger bitch her mom isn't normal either. Just because you're problems may seem bigger to you doesent mean it's not bothering her.

 

You're mom is right, you will be sorry when she is gone. Cause there is no going back. Take it from someone who knows, trust me. Me and my Dad were really close and then we just drifted apart, we got into an argument and he died. I really miss him, you should be glad that your mom loves you and tries to do things w/ you. My mom gets on my nerves sometime also, but when she asks me to go help her or to go and do something w/ her I usually go. I dont want the same thing to happen w/ her. You should take it from all these people tryin to tell you. If you dont understand right now I can promise that one day when you have kids and they dont want anything to do w/ you, you will understand.
Just take it into consideration, give her a chance...for all you know it could work out for the best!

 

^ ur real purdy

 

I'm curious as to your age, also? I'm thinking this is a time where you are trying to assert your independence and she probably senses you moving away in spirit and is trying to hold on as best she can. It is a hard time, but none of that excuses her trying to put you down.

 

hahaha omg...Im not going to listen to some moron who made a post about getting a "retarded" person high...