I fell in love when I was 15 and have been with the same guy ever since. Now it's 11 years latter and I've had my heart ripped out and stomped on. He became abusive, and refused to go to therapy, so I walked out the door and through out the key. It feels like half of me is gone and I'm learning to live all over again. I'm sick of crying and I know their is no turning back no matter how much I miss the man he used to be. Any advise on getting over this would be much appreciated. He was my first and only love so this is my first heart break. peace, Bee
Heartbreaks are fucking difficult, you'll just have to stick it out and remember that you're alive and well.
-hugs- You take a big drink of air, look at the sky, and walk. It doesn't matter where you walk to, it will give you time to breathe. And know that somewhere out there, there's someone looking at the same sky, wandering, looking for you. That's how I got through my broken heart.
wow, thats rough.. just remember sweety, every one of us have had heartbreaks..most of us have had more then we can count, be thankful for what yu had, & look forward to what the future may bring, all possibilities are ahead of you..be open to them
take the chance to realy work on yourself, go back to school, learn new things, explore. believe it or not someday it will only be a memory
Distraction is key...the more active and involved in life and things outside yourself you are the less time you will have to dwell on it....and the pain will fade out with time. Hang in there
just remember that being alone is better than being in an unhealthy relationship anyday! its hard to see sometimes but with time you will look back and be grateful for the transition. transitions are not always meant to be easy.......but the lessons are great and well worth it.
This might sound superficial, but... One way to start feeling better about yourself after a break up is to get all dressed up and start hanging out at different places sooner or later you will start to notice other men noticing you. It really does boost your entire outlook when you realize that you are desireable to other people. (If you don't feel like you're getting noticed, work on making yourself happy first. You can still go and hang out- just take lessons or go for nature walks or start gardening, whatever makes you happy and the happier you are, the more people will be drawn to you, and the more you are around other people, the less time you will have to spend thinking about your ex.) Do not date for at least a few months!!!
I can only imagine how hurtful it would have been both mentally, emotionally, and physically to have someone whom you thought you knew, and have been with since you can remember turn around and physically hurt you. But you should be very proud of yourself that you walked out and left, that you just didnt stay and allow him to abuse you more. That took extreme courage and that should let you know that you can do anything, and that everything will be okay, and you will heal and move on to bigger and better things.
yep, in that immediate all consuming aftermath, walking works wonders. it's hard to get motivated to do sometimes, but excersize in general is the healthiest way to feel better. just don't turn to drinking.... best of luck to ya
