Got a enlightening message from my boyfriends ex...tell me what you think...

Well I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 months and I have posted things on here that I might be pregnant...which I was happy about and now I don't feel so great. I started talking to my boyfriend when he had a girlfriend of about a year, but I have known him for about 2 years and we were talking as friends...I was dating people at the time. He had told me he didnt want to be with her...and I said to do what makes him happy...I never wanted to intervine. He broke up with her and we got together. Our relationship was great and all based on honesty...so I thought. 7 months ago I had got out of a 6 year relationship cuz my ex had got another girl pregnant. I am still trying to trust people again and my new boyfriend has been doing a great job with helping me, until recently. He has said weird things like "If I cheat on you, promise to dump me...etc"...yet he says he will never do what my ex did to me...kinda contradictory huh?

He had stayed in contact with his ex and I was sorta ok with it until she started inviting him places and he didnt see anything wrong with it...then she was going to his house to visit his family....again he saw nothing wrong with it. Then the other day I got an email from his ex...adn the letter was nicely written and not offensive. It stated that He told her all the things he is telling me...about marriage etc...and that he called her 2 weeks after they broke up saying how much he loved her...that he cheated on me with her and that they were talking when he said they werent. *sigh* He denies it but doesnt really get mad and sorta brushes it off. Then I come home today and find tons of porn shit on MY computer that was accessed about the time I had tried to call him on break, and he said he was in the restroom!! To top it off I thought he was gonna be home when I got home cuz its the 4th of july and he is at a friends house lighting fireworks...while im stuck at home alone only to find porn on my comp and for him to tell me that he will call me later....Im soooo sad and feel like somethings not right........any advice???????Please?

 

you deserve much better sweetheart, i do hope you free yourself.

 

just trust your gutt, that's the only advice i can give.
i hate mother fuckers who cheat...god do i ever.

 

Is the 4th of July celebrated about the same in Ireland?

 

um no its the american independence day duh

 

RUN AWAY!

screaming and waving your arms if you have too, this guy isnt being straight with you. you have been through one breakup at least so you know you can survive hunny, no one deserves that sort of treatment and scumbags dont deserve your love. hope it works out ok.xxx

 

I think you should give him what he deserves. Be free. I'm a dude and I can't stand cheating. It's despicable what he did.

 

He's lying. I betcha million bucks that email is EXACTLY right. I say you get sneaky and try to find some hard standing evidence against him that you DO know (so he can't deny it and brush it off), throw it in his face, and let him go. He'll keep doing it. My ex girlfriend cheated on me the whole time I was with her, and even when we were doing the "attached but unattached thing", she was leading me on and STILL with other people. We talked about it SO many times and she said that she'd change, she'd never do it again, yada yada yada, and she always did it again. Always. It won't stop...it never does. Believe that and get out of it while you're ahead.

 

we have alot of things that point towards him as cheating but maybe he hasnt and it would be horrible to break up with him IF it ended up all he was doing was looking at porn. imo the best thing to do, if you can, is have a talk with him and someone close to him (a friends, his parents, etc) and try to get the truth out, hell even his ex if you would be comfortable around both of them talking it out. yes it does seem like he is cheating but before acting in any way find out the truth for sure. if it ends up he is i am very sorry and wish you a quick recovery and that you dont have to go threw it again if he isnt then gl with him.

 

Find someone else. He doesn't deserve you.

 

Leave him and dont feel bad about. Be Free and find your a man that can treat you like a Queen.

 

any time someone says "if you catch me cheating, promise to break up with me," they're preparing to be a huge wuss. it's a failsafe, a way out of facing up and breaking it off with someone when it's time.

you seriously deserve so much better. i encourage you to find it.

 

exactly, when a man says that, hes just setting up so he can feel less guilty cheating and he doesnt even have the trouble of breaking up with you. I know its easier said than done, but you've gotta cut him off and never look back. Judging by his past actions hes the kind of guy who makes women second guess themselfs, do your best to forget him.

 

Do they celebrate july 4th in Ireland about the same as here in the USA?

UM --- Ah --- Then how does a girl who lives in Ireland, have a boyfriend who went out to shoot fireworks on the 4th, instead of going over to visit her?
duh?

 

hahah no i dont live in ireland...i wish i did...i just put that cuz i dont want to put where i really live....

 

I second that. He sounds like he's trying to be a "player," and since you have inside information about it, there is no reason to stay the course and just end up being 100% completely sure you've been cheated on.

I won't lie. When I was 19, I was seeing my girlfriend but we were from the same hometown and going to school 1300 miles apart. I ended up sleeping with a girl I was friends with at my dorm -- stupid and irrational and heat-of-the-moment. I was horny (typical of a 19-year-old), and just caught up in the availability of sex! I was like "wow!" And that's all the defense of it I'll offer.

Anyway, I confessed it to my 1300-mile-away girlfriend. It put us on the rocks for a while, and we got back together.

The benefit of it is that I am 100% cured of ever cheating again. I simply won't do it. I don't believe in putting a girl through that again. It's simply cruel. Many here won't believe that a guy can swear off ever cheating again, but the only one who really needs to know or care is me.

I just realized that Gabino asked the question that was haunting me: what does the 4th of July have to do with people in Ireland??

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

get rid of loser clown and find real man to toss your salad