Why I will no longer be posting on this forum

I will no longer be posting on this forum. It's not that I don't want to, but it's because of the fact that my dad checked what sites I go to and figured out my username here. Enough said. I'm sure he's reading this right now.

He told me the way I'm headed, one of three things will happen to me: 1) I'll fry my brain 2) I'll commit suicide 3) I'll get busted. Anyone care to comment on this (intelligently)?

If you could know all the intimate details of a friend or family member's life, would you want to? I know I wouldn't. But then again I'm not a paranoid authoritarian...

 

i wouldnt your life is your life things happen people can learn from things i might say i dont like what your doing but i would try and stop them or say you life WILL BE HORRIBLE and there no other way about it

 

i think your mental health is a good thing to be worried about, if a parent is going to be worried about something.

calling your dad an authoritarian...way to be rebellious

anyway, even if he lacks tact and is being somewhat invasive, i dont know the whole situation so i can't comment entirely on it. seems like his hearts in the right place though. even if you wont suffer permanent brain damage, you CAN get busted. don't see what suicide has to do with anything though, unless you're a hardcore dope fiend dying for a fix...but thats different than using psychedelic drugs entirely.

psychedelic drugs (as you know) only tend to amplify underlying psychological disorders, if any are present. if schizophrenia is in the family and a person is likely to become schizophrenic at some point in their life, psychedelics will usually bring it on sooner. however, they don't tend to turn sane folks crazy....

people with healthy minds and lifestyles can safely explore psychedelic drugs without long term consequences if they are used in safe, responsible manners in a safe environment. this is not to say everyone should (or can) use these drugs.

 

damn man sorry to hear that. i bet you feel like shit in a way because of what he did but dont let that change who you are. if it was me, i would take a little break from it all and spend time with the family, then when things cool down just be careful. good luck.

peace

 

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First off ...

To your dad (in case he reads this):

No offense, but it's quite dishonourable and disrespectful to invade your son's privacy the way you have. If you TRULY care about your son, you will respect his privacy to do as he wishes so long as nobody else gets affected negatively. You can't control his life, for his life is not yours to control. I also have a father who tries to do this, an ex-Marine child abuser, and I hate him for being this way. He's the only person that I can honestly say that I *hate,* and I have told him that to his face. I've hated him since I was 11 years old. Either way, this isn't about me, but if you don't want to chance your son feeling that way about you, I suggest you follow some code of ethics instead of spying and snooping and pesting. You have your beliefs, about him frying his brain, committing suicide, or getting caught, but think for a second, there is a reason why none of these things have already happened. (1) Do some research instead of blindling believing our government's outright lies. Psychoactives do not necessarily fry your brain, and if you do research into the psychoactives you try, you can tell what does damage to your body and what doesn't. I'm sure your son knows this and does his research. And for your knowledge, even oxygen, carbon dioxide, and nitrogen are psychoactive; EVERYTHING is. Just because certain chemicals have particular effects on the brain doesn't mean they are any worse for you than the three components that make up what we breathe every second. (2) If anything, psychoactives often prevent people from committing suicide. I'm a testament to this; after a partcularly brutal case of child abuse from my father, I was about to commit suicide, and then a friend suggested I try pot. So I did, and for a second, I decided that maybe, just maybe, life was still worth a shot. Here I am today, because of an illegal psychoactive. I would not stand before you otherwise. (3) If your son hasn't gotten caught yet, that means he's a very careful and wise individual.

And, to the original poster:

Hang in there, man. I feel for you.

 

dude i love you dont go. your dad is mean. nazi.

but im a lil out there yo. so peace. man.

 

Wasn't trying to be when I said that. I dunno, what do you call people whose favorite past time is getting drunk after work while listening to Rush Limbaugh and then proceeding to either chastize me for my political views or search the house (and computer) for incriminating things? And somebody who associates going to parties and getting high occassionally with insanity and suicide? Both him and my mom desperately WANT to believe the worst. My older sister once overheard them saying I'm going to end up doing sexual favors for men for drugs. I mean come on. Who says that about their only son? I'm far past my rebellious stage man. I really do not like conflict at all.

 

oh and btw a parent who thinks he can make drug choices for his child is insane.

just by going to school or stepping outside u lose control of us.

we dont need no education
we dont need no mind control
dark sarcasm in the class room
teacher leave that kid alone

all in all your just another brick in the wall

sorry that seemed fitting here

 

damn, he's nosey. I can sympathize because I've been there and take the occasion trip back. Your dad is just making you not like him (well I assume). Speaking from my experience -->and if you don't start acting in the way he wishes, he could "loose you". Hell, he already must not value your trust. Right now my father disrespects everyone sooo much that I feel totally indifferent about him (although he does occasionally still get on my nerves). And that's not even mensioning the things he's tailored to me personally.

 

hmm well i know many folks who have used psychodelics & gained much wisdom from it, but they are to be treated with respect..no, you wont commit suicide cause your tripping though, thats just dumb, but i can say that although i know thousands who have used lsd & shrooms both respectfuly & somewhat recklasely i only know a few i'd say were ever really harmed by their use..& those are people who had taken insane amounts, or who had mental issues to begin with, then went off theyre meds, & binged on a combination of psychodelics & extacy, & hadnt slept in many days..if your going to be really dumb about it ofcourse theres risks..

most people are smart enough to recognize when it stops giving & starts taking away so they just stop, or only use it on very rare occassions
i havent touched any in 22 years or so, but am glad i did when i did, it was part of my development & growth & discovery prccess
if used safely, its not that harmful.. but like most drugs some people do disrespect it & can get in trouble

but i think your dad should trust you not to go crazy

i would say to dad though that aslong as pot & psychodelics is all hes messin with i wouldnt worry..theres really harmful stuff out there he coulda got into instead..be thankful hes using substances that expand your mind & not destroy your life.

 

Damn I guess he knows that we all worship the devil and dance around the fire naked now....and about the thing with the silly string and the .....yeah, that.......

 

This a good post. Certain types shouldn't psychedelics. For most of the rest of us it's good. Everything in moderation. Listen to aristotle

 

How is he condescending? I think you need to work on your communication skills.

Well man, I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes I can't comprehend how I am me considering the people I came from either. Sounds like your parents are scared people who subscribe to the propaganda that makes them feel safest. I think they probably don't recognize their own faults, but still feel the need to try to 'fix' your 'faults.' Honestly I wonder how some people learned how to parent. I'll tell you what, my dad going through my shit, and insulting me like that would make me suicidal and insane. Tell him to back off, and if he doesn't get it, tell him louder. If he still doesn't get it, your best hope is moving out on your own. If you aren't doing heroin or other hard drugs, drinking and driving, robbing liquor stores, etc. he really should have no concern.

 

too bad 80% of people diagnosed with schizophrenia had no knowlege of family history.

you cant tell if your healthy or not until the mental illness hits.

though yes, a father has right to be worried that their child might get psychosis (even temporarily) or arrested.

suicide thoughts though are your parent overreacting in thsi age where suicide is highest amongst teenage boys who use drugs.

 

if you use the program Opera to surf the internet, you can set it to automaticly dump your history and cookies every time you close it. I'm pretty sure, if not it can be set to clear it every day or so. And opera is safer to use than internet explorer...

You dont have to leave the forums, just learn a few ways to cover your tracks. Is it a family computer or your own personal one in your room? If no one else is (supposed) to be using it, password it. You can set it that everytime it goes to screen saver, you need a password to get back in.

I understand your parents concern, but I can't stand it when people feel like they have the right to completely invade your privacy like that. If you're concerned about your kid, talk to them in a respectful way. It will build far more trust and better bonds than rifling through their room everytime they run out of the house.

 

you're a good guy and if his father readed that, I'm sure you really helped him in a good way or his father is not a human... I guess somekind of cyborg.. or something.

 

his dad knows that he goes to these forums. he can only keep it secret if he does all that stuff and also changes username.

 

I´m curious weatherman (if you´re still with us), did your father say, that the three things would happen to you in that order?
I mean:
You will fry your brain first, then commit suicide and after that get busted?

@ weatherman´s father:
Sir, if you should read this, let me inform you, that I started drugs at the age of 16, now I´m 33 years old and I still smoke pot more than 100 times a year and use chemical drugs approx. 30-40 times a year. I´ve been working as a physician for more than 6 years now (very successful), I´m married (my wife´s a doctor too - and she does drugs as often as I do) and I´m just about to buy a house for my family.
This is an example, how far you can come even if taking drugs, if you only have discipline and are responsible. But your son won´t learn these things, if you continue to behave, like you´ve done so far. The only thing that´s sure for you: if you don´t make a 180°-turn, you´ll loose your son - sooner or later!

 

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